Why does he keep a scoreboard instead of going things because he cares?

[MorgueInTheVoid]

Am I crazy or is this extremely abusive? I asked him to come over last night because I've was having suicidal thoughts. I didn't want to inconvenience him though so I told him he didn't have to but I was scared and I really needed him. He comes over and I express my gratitude multiple times. Then in the morning he's stressing out and I told him I'd help him with managing his business page. That conversation goes nowhere and then he tells me he has diarrhea and sends me some memes while I'm away from my phone for 2 hours and he tells me that I'm making him out to be bad guy? Sorry, but I think he's the one making himself out to be that way, did I do anything wrong?

[ChillaxingLove]

First of all baby girl you need to get mental healing. You should go get help then come back into a relationship. It’s kind hearted and even nice that he’s trying to help you by being there for you, but you need help so you can be at your 100 percent best self

[FilmGuy93]

Hmm… the guy is definitely not in a good health space, but I don’t know that this rises to the level of abuse. It seems like the bigger point here is that he just can’t have a healthy relationship at this point if his life.

[MorgueInTheVoid]

That's fair, thank you for sharing this perspective

[FilmGuy93]

I feel the need to follow up by saying that these messages give an extremely narrow snapshot into your relationship and situation. I don’t have a complete view of what’s going on here

[Bethany22]

I think that I actually like scoreboards. It ensures that he does the things that are important to me, and that I do things that are important to him

[artsy_dragon]

As some with depression myself, it is hard. But he sounds like my ex and he was extremely toxic

[MorgueInTheVoid]

I'm glad you understand. I'm sorry you're going through it though 😔 It's good that you're no longer in that relationship and I hope things get easier for you💕

[artsy_dragon]

Thanks and you too. Sorry I can't be much help

[Kickenwing]

I wouldn't consider this behavior abusive. It appears that he genuinely wants to support you to the best of his abilities. It seems that he may feel frustrated because he believes he doesn't receive the same level of care from you. That's the way I interpret it. Perhaps having a calm conversation with him about your feelings and actively listening to his concerns could provide some clarity, or at the very least help you understand his perspective. Without knowing both sides of the story, jumping to the conclusion of abuse seems unreasonable, as it is evident that he genuinely cares about you. This is just my perspective 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Anonymous]

This is a toxic situation you could do without.