Should I listen to what my partners most attracted to. My boyfriend prefers short hair and suggested that I cut it?

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So my long term boyfriend prefers girls with short hair. I totally understand everyone is different and can be attracted to different looks. He doesn’t mind my long hair but he’d rather me cut it short and he finds it more attractive. I have long hair and he’s suggested to me if I could cut it short. He’s not been pushy but he’s recommended it to me many times and shown me pictures of short hairstyles. What wants is a short Bob and a pixie haircut on me. I’ve never really had short hair so it will be a big change for me. It’s a big step but I know how happy it would make him. Also note that I said that I like beards on guys and he grew a beard which I think is hot on him

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Its good that you guys are sharing your opinions and preferences.. I read that you guys fell in love with personalities, so it won't even matter if you cut your hair or not. You said he is no pushy, so if you wanna keep dat long hair go for it.. But you said u wanna make him happy, but going for pixie cut scares you right? well here is my opinion.. Cut your hair like at shoulder length or below shoulder length, so you won't feel like you're bald.. And i think you'll cute with a shorter hairstyle.

I know everyone is telling u to dump him... What they don't know is "PEOPLE HAVE PREFERENCES..".. you told ur boyfriend to have a beard (and he did it, even though its hard to maintain it with trimming washing blah blah).. if he didn't grow a bread would u still love him? exactly... if he loves u he won't care about how you look but will have opinions of his own..

For example, you love singers, but your boyfriend barely sings... are u gonna stop loving him? of course not... I have the same situation I prefer guys who are tall and have a good bread, very artistic (singers and dancer or artists).. but my boyfriend isn't anything like that.. he is average, with an average bread.. not a good singer, dancer, or a artist.. but i love him unconditionally.. he even tries to sing for me and its my favorite voice to listen (even though its not very good LOL).. He isn't anything like my personal preference but he is my everything. We fell in love with personalities too and this is the best relationship I've ever had.

So girl, dont listen to those who told u to dump your man. He isn't pushing u IN ANYWAY.. So whats the problem.. People have personal opinions.. and this matter never made u fight with each other right? so keep love alive...

Adaeva · Accepted Answer

Unless you are engaged to be married, don't do it. That is not the same as growing a beard. A beard can be shaved in a few minutes and he is back to where he was. It takes years to regrow your hair and likely longer than you relationship will last. Then when you look or a new boyfriend, you will be slightly handicapped because a majority of guys believe long hair makes a girl more attractive.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Lets be clear here he did not 'grow a beard for you' you 'told him that he didn't have to bother with the chore of shaving all the time anymore'.

These are very different things.

You also have extremely long hair, this very rare and I happen to think its awesome.

I find it hard not to conclude that your boyfriend should be eating a family sized bag of dicks.

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

Definitely NOT a pixie or bob cut. There are very few women who can make those actually look good (especially the pixie), and pretty much all of them still look better with at least shoulder-length hair anyway. If YOU want to go for something shorter than what you currently have, I personally would recommend something more "mid length" first.

AviatorTom · Answer

Keep your hair the way you want it. Don't cut it for him. To make him happy, have you and him pick out a wig in the hairstyle he likes and wear it on special occasions.

Kori1236 · Answer

If you’re going to change your hairstyle, aesthetic, or anything about yourself do it for you. Not for someone else. If you want to cut it and try something new awesome I support that; but you don’t need to change yourself to fit someone else’s opinion of attractive

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

I can see how he would thing that would look cute in you. I would say go for it! You can always grow it back. I would just recommend making it just longer then a pixie with that same pixie angle so that you can still claim pixie but also pull it back. Because no girl wants to not be able to pull her hair up.

irifebeck · Answer

If hair is what you think will make him truly happy in being in a relationship with you, then go ahead.

MysticAngel5000 · Answer

So, if your boyfriend prefers short hair, why is he DATING someone who has long hair? If you want to keep your hair as it is, do it. Find a boyfriend who is fine with you just the way you are. Don't change yourself just to impress someone. If he is attracted to short hair, he should find a girl with short hair. Not a long-haired girl he expects to cut her hair.

Twalli · Answer

Something like that which isn't permanent is worth it. You can always grow it out, just as he can shave off his beard. If you were seeking laser hair removal for your pubic hairs, I would recommend against it, if you were just doing it for his preferences

Anonymous · Answer

So your boyfriend prefers girls with short hair, but started dating a girl with a long hair? Doesn't add up. Seems more like he just wants to control you, maybe because he "had to grow a beard for you", so he needs to get even. If he really loves you, he'd want you to have the hairstyle YOU want, not what he wants. Cut it short only if you want to do it. I bet you'd look good with short hair too.

FunnyGiy · Answer

It’s your choice. But it’s good to change it up and he did grow a beard for you. As long as she isn’t super pushy.

Maybe surprise him. Maybe get it cut and then go over and say you have a surprise for him. But don’t tell him you cut it.

As long as you are happy yes it’s a major change. If he loves you for you and he is willing to do something for you. Again long as he isn’t overly pushy. Get your hair cut.

Tina19 · Answer

I feel long hair looks so good on you but you can definitely do some styling and make changes with it.. if you don't wana go short however if you wanna cut it to please your boyfriend then it's your call babe

Andres77 · Answer

“So my long term boyfriend prefers girls with short hair.”

THAT is a major problem. The only correct response should be “look, fuqer, if you want another girl with short hair then gtfo of my life. Love me for me or leave.”

who tf does he think he is? How long did it take to grow your hair out?

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Men in general like long hair because it's attractive. His request isn't simply a style issue it's more like wow you have 32DD boobs but I'd prefer you had A cups would you consider a reduction? Yes a reduction is more involved but it's the motivation, wtf kind of man wants a girl with long hair to cut it or a girl with really nice tits to minimize them? That's fucking weird asf. He has mental issues is the real deal.

Prettysammie · Answer

It’s a big change but so is a relationship. He grew a beard for you, maybe you can try a new hairstyle for him? If you hate it you can always grow it out again. For what it’s worth, you’re beautiful and any hairstyle will look great on you.

StephiC · Answer

Qs long as you're agreed that if you don't like it, you will grow your hair back out.
A beard is a sign of masculine maturity teens struggle to do it. Often men prefer long hair as it's a sign of hormonal balance, short hair is odd but not wrong

Bre_0611 · Answer

Don't do anything for anyone that you haven't been with for a long enough time or that you aren't married to because once they leave and you do that thing you did for them, you'll end to doing it for nothing once they leave.

Mmmariaxc · Answer

I think a pixie would look nice on your face with your style and it will grow back if you hate it.

FireGodGoesSeeknFire · Answer

Absolutely not. He is a clearly a deeply, deeply disturbed man. Long hair is fabulous and yours particularly so. Please, ignore his insane suggestion and focus on getting him the help he obviously so desperately needs.

SoWhAt249 · Answer

I changed once because of love, and I'll never do it again. Believe, nobody is worth making a change unless it's for your better also. Hair is not really important so, do whatever you like. Not what others like.

abc3643 · Answer

You need a new boyfriend... Now. Your hair is righteous and short hair would not go well with your face compared to long hair. Keep your hair. Lose the boyfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

You asked him to grow a beard and he did that for you, so now it's your turn. . . if you want to be an equal partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Your choice only. He grew a beard for you, because he wanted to and it's easier for him to remove it, then for you to have long hair again. Tell him that you are not comfortable having short hair.
If you wanna keep your long hair don't cut it. You might regret it.

cryscrys1 · Answer

Well if my “bf “ wanted me to cut my hair I would actually go ahead and buy vitamins to grow it even longer.

Lowiu · Answer

If you want it too but I just wanted to add you have gorgeous hair

iiinsOMNIA · Answer

Do what you want to! If you really want to cut your hair, do it! If not, don't. It's hard to say goodbye to long locks, so I understand.

wankiam · Answer

your hair looks amazing but dont listen to me or him. you do you and if you like it then dont cut it

Mtbgirl · Answer

Personally I wouldn’t do it because he wants it. Only do it if you want it. You have nice hair. Take a while to grow back.

Surely · Answer

I am partial to long hair. Just the way that yours is now. But the hair is yours and yours alone, to take care of.
If you do cut it. Consider donating it to an organization that makes wigs for cancer patients.

dustybiker · Answer

It’s your hair. Not ours. Not your boyfriends. Yours.

Berethor · Answer

Your boyfriend have a tomboy fetish or something, look at the long hair is feminine trope.

BeMuse · Answer

You obviously don't want to cut your hair so don't.

Noahzaid · Answer

Never short hair, Hair is a part of a woman’s beauty. Never neglect it.

soe11 · Answer

You both get to decide final conclusion, then get done as you wish. To be honest you look so sweet with long hair.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

No! You look great like this! It's your hair, you do what you want with it! Maybe try a short wig.

genericname85 · Answer

if you like the idea, why not try it? but if you hate it, then obviously don't.

Pudsmucker · Answer

You have beautiful hair. Your boyfriend should accept you for who you are not what he wants you to be.

hafinjun · Answer

Does he have long hair, did your hair grow since you've met, tell him you like guys with smooth legs, offer him a razor

TroyDT2 · Answer

I prefer long hair, but you should do what  you  want.

Kelly6 · Answer

I will say listen to him,

Anonymous · Answer

You probably have the face for it but it takes a long time to grow your hair that long and you might regret it too. Your long hair is beautiful by the way

Dreamclouds · Answer

I know what he is talking I preffer bob haircuts on women as well and you would look awsome with one... though... your current hair is amazing

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Don't cut it it's beautiful on you. He should respect that about you

panamared1 · Answer

I think bald headed women are sexy, it is hair and it will grow back. Bottom line, it is your hairdo what you want

QuietRunner · Answer

I like the long hair. Your boyfriend might leave sooner than you think

sheenagwapa · Answer

don't listen get another boyfriend instead

fonduegirl · Answer

Whatever makes you happier

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Why not do whatever you like your body

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Lol delusional.

BLP11520 · Answer

Keep your hair it is not his

jimmy2 · Answer

Oh baby what a beautiful woman. No it took years

Guardian45 · Answer

DON'T DO IT!

Joker_ · Answer

uh no

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