Should I listen to what my partners most attracted to. My boyfriend prefers short hair and suggested that I cut it?

[Anonymous]

So my long term boyfriend prefers girls with short hair. I totally understand everyone is different and can be attracted to different looks. He doesn’t mind my long hair but he’d rather me cut it short and he finds it more attractive. I have long hair and he’s suggested to me if I could cut it short. He’s not been pushy but he’s recommended it to me many times and shown me pictures of short hairstyles. What wants is a short Bob and a pixie haircut on me. I’ve never really had short hair so it will be a big change for me. It’s a big step but I know how happy it would make him. Also note that I said that I like beards on guys and he grew a beard which I think is hot on him

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I went and cut all my hair off! I chopped it all off and now I have a short bob. I did it for him but I also did it for me. I needed something new in my life and a fresh start. So cutting all my hair off and now having short hair as made me feel so new. My boyfriend loves my short hair and he’s so happy with the look. I’m also very happy too my short hair gives me more confidence and a totally different look. I love my short hair but it’s good to know I can always grow it back long again one day

[Anonymous]

Its good that you guys are sharing your opinions and preferences.. I read that you guys fell in love with personalities, so it won't even matter if you cut your hair or not. You said he is no pushy, so if you wanna keep dat long hair go for it.. But you said u wanna make him happy, but going for pixie cut scares you right? well here is my opinion.. Cut your hair like at shoulder length or below shoulder length, so you won't feel like you're bald.. And i think you'll cute with a shorter hairstyle.

I know everyone is telling u to dump him... What they don't know is "PEOPLE HAVE PREFERENCES..".. you told ur boyfriend to have a beard (and he did it, even though its hard to maintain it with trimming washing blah blah).. if he didn't grow a bread would u still love him? exactly... if he loves u he won't care about how you look but will have opinions of his own..

For example, you love singers, but your boyfriend barely sings... are u gonna stop loving him? of course not... I have the same situation I prefer guys who are tall and have a good bread, very artistic (singers and dancer or artists).. but my boyfriend isn't anything like that.. he is average, with an average bread.. not a good singer, dancer, or a artist.. but i love him unconditionally.. he even tries to sing for me and its my favorite voice to listen (even though its not very good LOL).. He isn't anything like my personal preference but he is my everything. We fell in love with personalities too and this is the best relationship I've ever had.

So girl, dont listen to those who told u to dump your man. He isn't pushing u IN ANYWAY.. So whats the problem.. People have personal opinions.. and this matter never made u fight with each other right? so keep love alive...

[Adaeva]

Unless you are engaged to be married, don't do it. That is not the same as growing a beard. A beard can be shaved in a few minutes and he is back to where he was. It takes years to regrow your hair and likely longer than you relationship will last. Then when you look or a new boyfriend, you will be slightly handicapped because a majority of guys believe long hair makes a girl more attractive.

[Adaeva]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Anonymous]

Lets be clear here he did not 'grow a beard for you' you 'told him that he didn't have to bother with the chore of shaving all the time anymore'.

These are very different things.

You also have extremely long hair, this very rare and I happen to think its awesome.

I find it hard not to conclude that your boyfriend should be eating a family sized bag of dicks.

[BCA6010]

Definitely NOT a pixie or bob cut. There are very few women who can make those actually look good (especially the pixie), and pretty much all of them still look better with at least shoulder-length hair anyway. If YOU want to go for something shorter than what you currently have, I personally would recommend something more "mid length" first.

[AviatorTom]

Keep your hair the way you want it. Don't cut it for him. To make him happy, have you and him pick out a wig in the hairstyle he likes and wear it on special occasions.

[Kori1236]

If you’re going to change your hairstyle, aesthetic, or anything about yourself do it for you. Not for someone else. If you want to cut it and try something new awesome I support that; but you don’t need to change yourself to fit someone else’s opinion of attractive

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I can see how he would thing that would look cute in you. I would say go for it! You can always grow it back. I would just recommend making it just longer then a pixie with that same pixie angle so that you can still claim pixie but also pull it back. Because no girl wants to not be able to pull her hair up.

[irifebeck]

If hair is what you think will make him truly happy in being in a relationship with you, then go ahead.

[Asker]

I know right! I want to make him happy as he’s my boyfriend. It would just be a big change for me to have short hair

[irifebeck]

Do YOU want to have short hair?

[Asker]

I think about it and I try to think of the benefits of it being out the way and off my shoulders. Takes less time to style and will be easier to maintain. Having it short will be out the way. I do also like having long hair as I can style it in many ways and tie it up in a bun etc. I’m stuck between long and short

[MysticAngel5000]

So, if your boyfriend prefers short hair, why is he DATING someone who has long hair? If you want to keep your hair as it is, do it. Find a boyfriend who is fine with you just the way you are. Don't change yourself just to impress someone. If he is attracted to short hair, he should find a girl with short hair. Not a long-haired girl he expects to cut her hair.

[Twalli]

Something like that which isn't permanent is worth it. You can always grow it out, just as he can shave off his beard. If you were seeking laser hair removal for your pubic hairs, I would recommend against it, if you were just doing it for his preferences

[Anonymous]

So your boyfriend prefers girls with short hair, but started dating a girl with a long hair? Doesn't add up. Seems more like he just wants to control you, maybe because he "had to grow a beard for you", so he needs to get even. If he really loves you, he'd want you to have the hairstyle YOU want, not what he wants. Cut it short only if you want to do it. I bet you'd look good with short hair too.

[Asker]

Well we fell in love with each other personalities. He still finds me attractive with long her he says he would find me even more attractive with short hair. I don’t think he wants to control me just wants so see me with his preferred style. I think for me its change, I’ve only ever known me to have long hair. Short hair is something new to me, something I’m open too but just will be different to have short hair. I’m glad you think so too, he but also I think that I would actually look good with short hair

[FunnyGiy]

It’s your choice. But it’s good to change it up and he did grow a beard for you. As long as she isn’t super pushy.

Maybe surprise him. Maybe get it cut and then go over and say you have a surprise for him. But don’t tell him you cut it.

As long as you are happy yes it’s a major change. If he loves you for you and he is willing to do something for you. Again long as he isn’t overly pushy. Get your hair cut.

[Tina19]

I feel long hair looks so good on you but you can definitely do some styling and make changes with it.. if you don't wana go short however if you wanna cut it to please your boyfriend then it's your call babe

[Andres77]

“So my long term boyfriend prefers girls with short hair.”

THAT is a major problem. The only correct response should be “look, fuqer, if you want another girl with short hair then gtfo of my life. Love me for me or leave.”

who tf does he think he is? How long did it take to grow your hair out?

[bamesjond0069]

Men in general like long hair because it's attractive. His request isn't simply a style issue it's more like wow you have 32DD boobs but I'd prefer you had A cups would you consider a reduction? Yes a reduction is more involved but it's the motivation, wtf kind of man wants a girl with long hair to cut it or a girl with really nice tits to minimize them? That's fucking weird asf. He has mental issues is the real deal.

[Asker]

Yeh most men do love long hair but he’s different. He loves me loads for who I am but he just prefers short hair and that it would turn him on even more if I cut it short. He’s says hair can be cut and it will grow back so I can always have long hair again in the future

[bamesjond0069]

That's really really weird. I wouldn't do it.

[StephiC]

Qs long as you're agreed that if you don't like it, you will grow your hair back out.
A beard is a sign of masculine maturity teens struggle to do it. Often men prefer long hair as it's a sign of hormonal balance, short hair is odd but not wrong

[Asker]

Yes he said he just wants to see my with short hair for a while. I can always grow it long again in the future

[Bre_0611]

Don't do anything for anyone that you haven't been with for a long enough time or that you aren't married to because once they leave and you do that thing you did for them, you'll end to doing it for nothing once they leave.

[Asker]

We’ve been together 3 years. He’s always shown hints that he likes short hair but now he’s suggested it to me directly. I love him so much

[Bre_0611]

Ohh ok. Well that's good then. Just see how you feel about it first before you cut it❤️

[Mmmariaxc]

I think a pixie would look nice on your face with your style and it will grow back if you hate it.

[Prettysammie]

It’s a big change but so is a relationship. He grew a beard for you, maybe you can try a new hairstyle for him? If you hate it you can always grow it out again. For what it’s worth, you’re beautiful and any hairstyle will look great on you.

[FireGodGoesSeeknFire]

Absolutely not. He is a clearly a deeply, deeply disturbed man. Long hair is fabulous and yours particularly so. Please, ignore his insane suggestion and focus on getting him the help he obviously so desperately needs.

[SoWhAt249]

I changed once because of love, and I'll never do it again. Believe, nobody is worth making a change unless it's for your better also. Hair is not really important so, do whatever you like. Not what others like.

[abc3643]

You need a new boyfriend... Now.

Your hair is righteous and short hair would not go well with your face compared to long hair.

Keep your hair.

Lose the boyfriend.

[abc3643]

RESPONSE TO UPDATE:

Can you give us a new picture of the new haircut?

[Anonymous]

You asked him to grow a beard and he did that for you, so now it's your turn. . . if you want to be an equal partner.

[Anonymous]

Your choice only. He grew a beard for you, because he wanted to and it's easier for him to remove it, then for you to have long hair again. Tell him that you are not comfortable having short hair.
If you wanna keep your long hair don't cut it. You might regret it.