I know we agree to an open relationship (kind of) but did he had to do this?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 3 years and I have been having issues and arguing for several months. By mid July we agreed to have a kind of open relationship.

I didn't even try to hide the dating site. I already told him in advance what I would do so no point in hiding. I purposely logged in and put my profile. I did all that in his face and he didn't seem to mind. I went on two dates to the movies. However, we didn't do anything beyond that. I can't jump into bed that fast.

However, while I was working I learned my boyfriend did it with the girl he knows I hate the most. He had the nerves to feed her my meals too. Anyone but her and why feed her my food? Did he had to do this? At least I didn't go on dates with guys he knows and didn't do what he did.

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He could've chosen any girl (there are so many) and he had to select one I know and hate the most since my HS years.

[Kryzo]

You fool. Nothing good comes out of open "relationships". Its just cheating with consent and leaves at least one party scarred. Leave that ass and find someone who is willing to commit instead of getting yourself in further trauma, ending up as a future cumdump cat momma.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Open relationships that start from arguments will usually sprout more arguments. The rules in those types of open relationships are usually not discussed deeply either so I'm not sure if the food situation is something you've talked to him about or not. It sounds like he is acting out of bitterness if he knows you hate the girl.

[Asker]

Nope I discuss it with him but I would assume that by logic and common sense, my boyfriend would know it's disrespectful for him to give my food to someone else, esp the girl I hate.

[ArtemisSilver]

That's kind of weird. Sounds like you should take it up with him.

[Asker]

I can't get over that he fucked her and fed her my food. This is some girl he knows very well I hate since my HS years. Now I feel like getting back at him for that one.

[ArtemisSilver]

Well then tell him that it was a weird thing to do and create a boundary.

[Asker]

True. I thought he would have common sense not to go for that specific girl and obviously don't invite any girl my food. So much for his poor common sense. Ok thanks... I'll have boundaries.

[ArtemisSilver]

Sounds like she suggested it in order to piss you off or that they had a thing before you opened up maybe. Ask him and remind him he doesn't have free rein to be an asshole.

[LazerBean]

Classic open relationship story.

[Asker]

I thought this would solve the drama and arguments we were having.

[LazerBean]

Sleeping around never solves problems, it only creates them.

[Anonymous]

Wow you're both toxic pieces of shits

[Asker]

No, he did worse. At least I only went on a date with them. I didn't sleep with them. He did it witht he one girl I hate and fed her my food.

[Opinion Owner]

don't give me that tit for tat shit you're both fucking toxic