Is it okay that he says he loves me but has been lying to himself that he was attracted to me and it has been 3 years?

[Anonymous]

I honestly thought he was attracted to me, that's what he expressed for years. But suddenly he started to criticize my weight, face shape, walking style, haircut... Says he loves me and wants me to change, but he has been lying to himself about his attraction. He wanted to be, but was not. I'm forcing myself to not get broken and feel grateful of his honesty, and the fact he's with me and still has faith in relationship and wants to work on it... But am conflicted inside. Is it normal? Is he sabotaging relationship instead? We're fighting more lately. I feel insecure around me, he acts defensive. I'm too emotional, he's harsh What can I do? Or , what can we do? I trusted his genuinity always, he even told me he loved how trusting i was from the beginning. I trusted his honesty the most. Now I'm lost and trying to avoid feeling like hopeless and like betrayed. Am I overreacting?

[Guy13]

One can love another and still not be pleased with their status.

[Anonymous]

I'm hearing he doesn't know himself very well or is selling you a line. It's just not inspiring.

I'd be inclined to watch carefully his actions, listen carefully his words, and not be too invested while it becomes clear where he's at. Even if he doesn't know himself.