Would you like to be a stay at home wife/girlfriend or husband/boyfriend?

[melanieeeB]

I just saw a video where they talked about a new tiktok trend (?) and that females show their lifes as a stay at home girlfriend or tradwife... would that be something for you?


Personally I couldn't, cause I never want to be financially dependent on a man.
I know from my mom, two aunts and one family friend what happens if you get in a situation like that and have to leave an abusive husband without having one fucking cent to your own.
But it could be nice working less and staying more at home but still earning a lot of my own money.

[Minxxie]

I do like a man with a provider mindset who is generous but I think the most I could do is be a stay-at-home fiancee until I'm a work-from-home fiancee.

Meaning, he could facilitate me to quit my corporate job, but I would start writing books and building a business while at home all day.

Honestly, I'd probably end up making more that way anyway and that's what a lot of those women on TikTok are actually doing, they are just misrepresenting it. Most of them are influencers who have a coaching business and multiple streams of income.

They just don't talk about it because they have created a character to capitalize off of this current trend that doesn't fully exist off-camera. Question everything you see!

Most stay-at-home wives, fiancees, moms, gfs, etc. don't get brand deals where they make $10k or more for posting product ads. It sucks because they are misleading a lot of young girls but they definitely DO have their own money and plenty of it!

[ManhattanMan1212]

Can I ask you a question

[Chris_u006]

Only stated fact in this answer.

[Minxxie]

@ManhattanMan1212 Sure?

[Minxxie]

@Chris_u006 Yeah because it's like okay why does this stay-at-home girlfriend who neeever works have two LLCs? lmao

[Apple1996]

I'm already a stay at home mom and love it but it is extremely difficult since the job is never done and there are no breaks

[HippieVeganJewslim]

What do You mean, no breaks? You have no time to sleep and eat?

[melanieeeB]

Well being a mom is a full time 28/7 Job... there are no breaks

[melanieeeB]

@Apple1996 I'm glad that you love it🙏🏼 That's what counts at the end of the day

[Apple1996]

@HippieVeganJewslim pretty much yeah. I've been losing a lot of weight lately cuz of not eating enough. I spend too much time feeding my kids so can't feed myself

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@melanieeeB my mum had plenty of breaks, but she did work.

[Apple1996]

@HippieVeganJewslim she just got lucky then and yeah working moms tend to have more breaks cuz someone else is watching their kids for them

[godfatherfan]

Being a full time mom is hard, but hardly no breaks. Unless you have an infant. Then, yes, it is exhausting. I spent 3 years at home with my boys when I was out of work. I had plenty of down time even though I took care of the house.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@Apple1996 my mum got a decent salary and had her boyfriends/husbands help her. Also, when her kids were little, she hired a few nannies to care for us. That way, she has more time for work.

[Apple1996]

@godfatherfan I guess it would depend on age of kids but for me I've been a stay at home mom for the last 8 years and there has never been time for a break. I'm either busy breastfeeding or homeschooling. Like today the baby napped for 45 mintues. I spent that time breastpumping and washing parts.
And I don't even consider caring for the house part of the job since I'm so busy with the kids. There isn't time for that

[Apple1996]

@HippieVeganJewslim yeah makes sense. I don't even have help from my husband or family. Do everything alone. If someone was here to help then I'd probably have time for a break

[Tracker1958]

Kids never go to school?

[Apple1996]

@Tracker1958 my oldest is in school now but I was homeschooling him all the previous years. And low key school makes things super annoying. Have to wake up early to take him which means getting up after already being up all night with the baby. Also pick up is a nightmare literally takes a hour out of my day. I spend more time/ energy taking him back and forth to school then I did homeschooling

[exitseven]

@Apple1996. My wife stayed home for 11 years when our kids were little. I became unemployed and she went back to work and I took care of the kids. They were not toddlers anymore but it was still a 24/7. Gig.

[Anonymous]

Fuck yes I could. You realize how much easier that is than going to work. A lot of women complain that it’s hard work, cleaning, washing clothes, which they actually don’t the washing machine does. As early as I get up I’d have everything done by noon. I’ve raised my son on my own for about 5 years, quite easy as well compared to what women say about raising children. I get up at 4 to go to the gym for 2 hours, come home, eat, shower then start doing house work. Wake the kids up. It’s not a big deal. I’d have so much more freedom, probably even start my little own business at home. My mom taught me well so I can clean a house better than a majority of women while still being manly lol my wife stays home, hasn’t worked for the last 10 years but that’s what works for us.

[Apple1996]

Men think it's easy cuz they aren't doing the hard work with little babies like breastfeeding and sleep training them. Do that shit you won't be able to go to the gym and or clean the house 😂

[Kori1236]

Hang on, you raised your son alone for 5 years does that mean you have someone now. Or your child is older. Because then you also said you go to the gym. Now unless it’s in your house you’re leaving a child home alone. I trust your kids are older now and can relatively fend for themselves

[Apple1996]

@Kori1236 i thought the same thing like who is watching that kid while he's at the gym? Lol

[Kori1236]

@Apple1996 right! Like um unless your kid is like 10+ you shouldn’t be leaving them alone. And even 10 may be too young depending on their maturity level.

[Apple1996]

@Kori1236 yeah depends on where he lives. Like my state it's 8 to be left alone at home but I still wouldn't leave a 8 year old alone that early in the morning for 2hrs.

[Kori1236]

@Apple1996 I was left home a lot when I was like 5 or 6 but it wasn’t a good environment. After my adoption my mom left me alone from 11+
Onward. But my brother wasn’t allowed in the house unattended until 15 due to different maturity levels

[godfatherfan]

You have no clue what the fuck you are talking about. I was out of work 3 years and was home with my boys. It is way more difficult to keep the house, then to work at home. And don't give this crap about going to the gym, you can drop that without issues.

[Opinion Owner]

@Apple1996 lol you women dramatize how hard your day. Even in the work industry especially when you work w women it’s always drama. I know I’ve worked in medical for 12 years w women. Always something. It’s been proven that when a child is raised by a single parent they do better being raised by a man. Women are cuddle for everything hard in their life, men from the time we’re kids are told to shut up and keep moving. So we adapt, women just cry throughout life for every little thing.

[Opinion Owner]

@Apple1996 gyms have daycares you know

[Apple1996]

Oof you are wrong about that. As someone that has basically all male family members I can tell you that men and boys are literal babies about everything. Most can't even handle a cold. Awhile back my family got the stomach bug. Everyone was dying and I just pushed through like a normal day. Women tend to be the ones to be able to go about things without complaining

[Opinion Owner]

@Apple1996 lol ok I’ll take your word for it. Thanks for the input

[Apple1996]

There are studies saying that stay at home parents are working the equivalent to 3 full time jobs. Just what I do in breastfeeding is more hours then most people work

[Apple1996]

Daycare kind of defeats the point of being a stay at home parent 😂

[Opinion Owner]

@Apple1996 daycare for the gym not all day. It was the same as far as college, taking classes. But that was 2 days a week. Wasn’t hard, tiring yes but not hard. But that’s me. I started taking care of my son on my own when he was less than a year old. His mom flaked out lol ok good talking to you I got a game. to watch.

[Apple1996]

Any sort of daycare would equal getting a break. And if you just have one then sure that's decently easy. I'm over here pregnant with my 4th and have other small ones so it's not easy by any means. Also you are not a woman having doing the hard shit like breastfeeding and being pregnant. Try being pregnant and having to get up all night to breastfeed. It's overly exhausting 😵

[Opinion Owner]

@Apple1996 well you usually have to get up at night to feed your baby like I did cause it was just the two of us. Not breastfeeding yes I know but still awake. Ok have a good night we’re going out to dinner now.

[Apple1996]

Breastfeeding takes 800 calories a day. Bottle feeding takes none. A parent getting up to bottle feed is not comparable tired wise to a breastfeeding one especially on top of being pregnant and already being tired from that.

[Tracker1958]

@Apple1996 women have 3 or 4 years of real hands full with a child., men have 18 years of back breaking, 10 to 14 hours a day to support that child. Most of the time it's not even his real child because she cheated and got pregnant by her ex boyfriend. F that, you can all go to he ll

[melanieeeB]

@Tracker1959 get you ass out of my question! I will report you! You get on my nerves

[Apple1996]

@Tracker1958 kids actually start out easy as babies then get more difficult as they get older.
And most dads are working the same amount they would even If they were single 🙄
Being mom is 24/7. There is no other 24/7 job out there

[JDavid25]

"Personally I couldn't, cause I never want to be financially dependent on a man."

I think it's different when you actually love and trust somebody.. A lot of women want a man to depend on, and a lot of men want somebody they can work hard for.. I am currently working not in a situation where I can provide for a stay at home wife/girlfriend.. But I do hope to get to a point where I can support her if she so chose to be that.

[MzAsh]

I’d rather work and my husband stay at home. It’s preferable for both of us.

[Tracker1958]

85 percent of cheating women are working out side of the home, are you one of those 80 percent?

[melanieeeB]

@Tracker1958 please o from my question and leave the people here in peace!

[MzAsh]

No. From what source exactly did you get that figure? Most of my work is inside the home. When the time is right, I’m aiming for all my work to be done completely remotely. However, if I’m paying bills then I’ll still need my husband to do more around the house.

[ShadezMcgee]

Hell no. I HAVE to do something and being cooped up in a house all day isn't my style. I want my own money to pay for my own things and invest in myself. If that is a problem for women, then they are the ones I avoid like the plague. I can crank out most housework in a couple of hours, but there is no way I would be content with doing that every day.

[ShellyB]

I want to be a stay at home wife and mom at some points, mainly when I have kids and they are small. After that I will probably want to work but not a heavy schedule or anything too stressful. Work is not what I want my life to be about. The ideal thing, to me, is if people can live their lives how they want and have options.

[sheepiemama]

Yes it’s hard work but I don’t desire to make money ,, pay bills, buy my own makeup or fragrances.

being a stay at home wife I assist my partner with making invoices to send his clients and the rest of the day I’m a homemaker , our son, I take care of our animals, I go shopping, ice skating, Pilates, gym, hot yoga,

it’s so exhausting giving your family and yourself your 100%. There’s no way I could dedicate my life to working for a company.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm a stay-at-home Dad right now... It's fucking bomb. I get plenty of money, I'm just chilling... gonna rub one out like a coomer here pretty soon, then play some video games and drink too much. I just began a 7-month deployment. After I get the house cleaned to my level (wife is a slob), I'm going to hit the weights and be buff as fuck. My kid is happy. Everything is fucking awesome.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

That would be up to my partner, I have no problem being a stay at home if that's what he wants me to. I wouldn't mind working either and having him stay at home (if he still wants to work from home or not, I don't mind either way). I just don't think I can do both at the same time but that's a conversation to be had.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Yes I was it was great once my son started school I started working part time then part time and weekends then full time. But being a stay at home mom was the best I wants like 3-4 kids to stay at home it just didn’t happen for us but I was blessed with one and I was a full time stay at home mom for 6.5 years then I worked part time & part time and weekends for about 5 years. Then since then I’ve worked full time for like the past 7-8 years whatever

[Kinkyhubby]

I'm now a stay at home dad, I have out disability, and my wife still works. Iike it, I see my kids a lot more then when I worked, and don't miss out on any school activities.

[melanieeeB]

Enjoy the time with your kids 🙏🏼

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Like my ex-girlfriend, who has no job, You work not and still get money? Do You know whether Spain has that kind of disability (I’m autistic and have a paralysis in my right side)?

[Kinkyhubby]

I love the time with the kids

. I'm not from Spain so I have no idea what they do

[MendaciousMarxist]

Never, and for the same reason you've put. It's bad idea to depend on other people, more so if the person you're depending on is a man. Never do it, you'll only regret it.

[Tracker1958]

Just remember, there are just as many bad wife's as bad husband. Women file and break up the home 80 percent of the time. its a bad deal for men to get married in the first place. That's why so many men are refusing to get married. It's better to rent a wife or husband these days. Happily ever after is dead.

[MendaciousMarxist]

@Tracker1958 right, usually women have a good reason for divorce too

[Tracker1958]

Best to stay single and childless.

[MendaciousMarxist]

@Tracker1958 yes, I learned my listen too late but I wish people learn it now. I regret having a son

[Tracker1958]

What ever reason you want to put on it. Stay far away from marriage and children. Every story has two sides. Doesn't matter who right or wrong, the end results is the same. Women take half of a man wealth when she leaves.

[MendaciousMarxist]

@Tracker1958 That's a good thing

[JDavid25]

"right, usually women have a good reason for divorce too"

Do they have a good reason to drive the man to suicide by not letting him see his children?

[MendaciousMarxist]

@JDavid25 No one cares if men commits suicide lmao

[Tracker1958]

Then, why do women keep wanting to get married. Boredom is the number one reason why women file for divorce.

[JDavid25]

Ooooh, well I already figured you were a troll, so this doesn't surprise me.. 😂😂..

[Tracker1958]

If 80 percent of the are bad, why do women keep wanting to get married. Those aren't bad husband's that are the problem. It's the women getting bored with married life. You girls love and need drama and excitement to be happy. That why you ladies go after the bad boys because you never know if he's going to love you or beat the hell out of you every day. Men don't feel bad for women that choose these men to date.

[Tracker1958]

She gets bored with her husband. 30 percent of children born in a marriage are not the husband's child.

[Tracker1958]

Talk about how bad men wile you women are doing onlyfans. At least you know where your value is.

[MendaciousMarxist]

@Tracker1958 I'm a high value women, a 10/10. no need to insult me

[Tracker1958]

High value to a man means not worth the headaches to bring home. It don't mean crap to a man. Men tell women what make them high value to us, and it's not your job or your education. These mean absolutely nothing to us men.

[Tracker1958]

Maybe you can impress a women that you want to date with your high value.

[MendaciousMarxist]

@Tracker1958 Than you are simply not the kind of men I want to date. you sound like you're projecting the kind of women you think I am.

[Tracker1958]

I'm old enough to be your father, I'm not in the dating market. Men date to marry, men use women to have sex with, see the difference. If your worth marring, he will pull out all the stop to impress her. If your not worth marring, then he doesn't care what she thinks about him.

[MendaciousMarxist]

@Tracker1958 all men use women for sex lmao. why do you think it's mostly men complaining when their wives don't want to have sex when they do or (in the extreme cases) of being in sexless marriages. men feel entitled to sex, that's why they take women to dates and marry them, so they can own their bodies.

[Tracker1958]

So, all men pay for sex and all women sell sex?

[Tracker1958]

For a woman to have sex with a man, he has to pay her in some way, right?

[MendaciousMarxist]

@Tracker1958 women were forced to in the past to survive. now women are having less relationships and that's for a reason. there's no good men left.

[Tracker1958]

Questions for you, you women will F a boyfriend every night but you once you get married you will F the neighbors every day while you husband at work.

[Tracker1958]

Wife can't cut him off if she doesn't know where he's getting it from. If she stop giving him sex, he will get it from some place else. She ended the marriage when she stop being a wife. We don't really cars either way. He has already got the good years out of her vagina anyway. It's time to get some young stuff.

[MendaciousMarxist]

@Tracker1958 Then you ask why feminists hate men so much. you guys only care about using women. If you can't fuck her, she has no use to you. male infidelity should be a crime.

[Tracker1958]

We don't care if you like us or hate us just as long as they keep giving up their vagina and thinking it's their idea. After we get what we want from them, we don't care what happens to them. Most men won't do the same hole twice anyway.

[Tracker1958]

Men lie to women to get what they want and women lie to themselves saying it's their ideas. Men don't care which lie you ladies want to believe just as long as you give it up to us.

[MendaciousMarxist]

@Tracker1958 you're literally more toxic than any person I'VE EVER MET, feminist or not lmao. you really think every man thinkslike that?

[Tracker1958]

What about paternity fraud? What about women that will get pregnant by another man and make her husband raise that kid? Bet you think that's fine to do. This is the crap that makes men treat women like sh t.

[melanieeeB]

@Tracker1958 please o from my question and leave the people here in peace!

[A_Bell]

You guys should get a room.

[JDavid25]

@MendaciousMarxist Y'all are both toxic.. LOL.

[DenizLikesTennis]

Yes, sure I am willing to. I love spending time with my family and support them wherever I possibly can. I have been raised by my wonderful and supportive/protective mother that shaped 50% of my personality.

[LazerBean]

Yeah, it's fun and it suits our lifestyle. He works odd hours a lot, so it's worth giving up half of our income to be able to spend as much time as possible together.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

So Basically something our grandmas used to live because there was no other choice... what our mother fought against... these idiots now made it into a trend?

Where is a trend of being a loya friend o helpful son or... i dunno something decent.

[MendaciousMarxist]

Exactly, it's so nice to see such a wise woman on here for once!!!

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

@MendaciousMarxist 🥰🤗

[A_Bell]

I am one now. I have one kid and one on the way, but I want as many as maybe 5 in quick succession.

My hope is to be a mom for a while and may try working for my mom's firm from home.

[Kori1236]

I don’t want kids. But if I had to stay home maybe work from home but stay home and just be a little housewife tidying the house wouldn’t work for me I would go crazy.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I like to be a stay at home father and take care of the kids and of course I have my own income which would be used to help with the future wife and future kids.

[NathanDavis]

I like, rather and prefer to get busy and productive...

I work from home now, though...

[pupluv45]

honestly speaking anyone would want to become a stay home parent. it will always be easier than working a full time job with your boss hovering around your shoulder.

[Dinklex3]

Nah.

A stay at home hubby would be great though. If not we'd have to hire a housekeeper 🤷🏾‍♀️

[Fuentes]

If she's rich, you can call me Kevin Federline.

[melanieeeB]

Lmaoo that was a good one haha

[Fuentes]

You already know lolol

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Yes I’d love to have a partner who takes on the full financial burden and still has to give me money for our children and the home id be baking cookies for little league , drinking wine and catching up on the bachelor “ easy living” 😂