Girls If you could afford to be a stay at home wife/mom, would you?

[SpiderBro]

And guys would you want a stay at home wife?

I would like to be one/I would want her to be one

I wouldn’t want to be one/I don’t want her to be one

Updates

+1 y

For all the gents complaining about the lack of a stay-at-home-dad poll;

There is no guy option because this one is strictly about the women, but if you commented about guys I wouldn’t downvote you or anything. I was gonna do a men’s one tomorrow but a pink anon beat me too it (used my wording style and everything ). I can link you to it if you’d like?

[StrangerByTheDay]

In my own opinion there should be other options for this poll question dear Spider Bro.

Nevertheless, in most cases I wouldn't want her to stay at home. Women have fought, are still fighting and will keep on fighting for rights and equality with men, which I respect and encourage a lot due to the fact we are humans regardless the gender and we have the right to be treated as humans.

Depending on the situation, I wouldn't mind if she really wanted it, though I don't think it is a good idea, she needs to work and live her life also outside the roof we live under to stay independent. If she stays at home, then it will be kind of a golden cage for her, she wouldn't be free.

No matter how rich her husband is, she will still have the need to go on with her career and do what she loves to do outside her home.

I don't have any problem sacrificing my career, stay at home to do what a wife at home would do, and let her have a chance to go and fly with her career! She deserves it. I am single and never been married, but in case I will, she would be treated perfectly as a Queen. She will be giving me HOME, family, children, love, respect, etc... As far as I know, my future wife shouldn't be a washing machine, babies machine, dish washer, vacuum cleaner, etc... She will be my HOME and I should take care of her and let her do what she really wants to do.

Thank you for this interesting question dear Spider Bro!

Cheers!!!

[StrangerByTheDay]

Your update looks interesting dear Spider Bro, but I guess I have shared an opinion that would suit both questions, and sorry someone else took advantage of your thoughts!
There are many people doing that here in this community I have noticed more than once.
Anyways, hopefully my opinion was useful and answered your question.

[Lolipop21]

Thank you for thinking like this! I've read all the comment and you're one of the few who encouraged women to pursue their career.

[StrangerByTheDay]

No need to mention dear @Lolipop21 , glad you liked my own honest opinion.
I was only sharing what I would do myself in real life in case I was in a similar situation.
Women could be leaders of countries, or at the head of a multi billion dollars company, etc... and yet still be a mother to her children and a wife to her husband.
When you love someone, you put their happiness before yours.
Again, thank you, I am flattered from your reply :-)

[Nathaniel1316]

I feel like your poll options contradict. Most people who wouldn't want to be one would want their spouse to be.

Like I would like to be one, but I wouldn't want my wife to be one.

Or I would want my wife to be one, but I wouldn't like to be one.

I feel like the way the poll options are it's going to give you inaccurate results. Because as a guy I could be like I don't want to be one, but I want her to be one so I would pick the first option even though I don't personally if that makes sense. I don't know maybe I'm reading it wrong.

[Nathaniel1316]

Oh my god I read it wrong. Sorry I'm on Mobile and an add was blocking part of the question so I read the question as

"Would you girls like to be a stay at home mom and would you guys like too?" That's why the answers didn't make since I'm so sorry 😂😂😂😂😅😅

[SpiderBro]

No worries. All is forgiven.

[Nathaniel1316]

Lol I have no Idea how I got mho since I read the question wrong and didn't even answer it, but thank you xD

[SpiderBro]

Well if I’m Being honest I didn’t pick you. I didn’t pick anyone for mho. G@G just picked randomly.

[Nathaniel1316]

That's so stupid xD someone else deserved it more

[BaileyisDarcy]

If i had a kid i would much rather be at home 24/7 until they start school. Then have a job that allows me to start after they leave for school and finish before the last bell.
Only when the oldest can walk the youngest home (if i have more than one) and responsibly get a snack for them and find something non destructive to do until i got home would i take on a full time position.

That would be my ideal.

I dont like the idea of letting somebody else raise my child. But, of course, my ideal is not always possible.

Fact of the matter is, i doubt im ever going to be a wealthy person. I dont have that drive or willingness to sacrifice in pursuit of higher wages, more money.
Ill always be comfortable, but never able to say if i stopped work now, ill be fine for 6 months. If i got sick, hurt. Id struggle financially. So not working while feeding another very expensive mouth?
Nope.

And i struggle to imagine anyone by my side. So i dont anticipate any help.

[tiffany_g]

Stay at home wife? Never. I'm out of work right now and it's not the lack of income bothering me. It's the lack of structure.

Stay at home mother? In a heartbeat. I'd have no issue being home every day if I had a child to take care of. I'm a little torn on it, though. I'm not one of those "daycare is evil and harmful for children" types. On the contrary, it can be good for kids because it lets them socialize outside of their family in a safe environment.

So I would love to be a stay at home mother, but I would be worried about finding ways to socialize my children.

[puzzlez]

Nope. I wouldn't want to be. My career is extremely rewarding. I teach, and i love every moment of it. It's not even about the money. I love my job. It does help that I get summers off -- but over those two months, I get bored and start looking forward to the new school year.

Staying at home may be for some people, and sure I may take an extended maternity leave to raise the baby for a few months if I had a child, but I wouldn't want to quit. While I have a duty to my child, when they leave the house, then what? To find purpose through my whole life, I need my career.

[Anonymous]

I tell my boyfriend, "While I realize its not realistic, I'd like to work because I want to work, not because I have to."

Itd be nice if his paycheck paid the bills and my pay check allowed us to do fun things (have nicer things, go on vacation, etc)

Also that way in the event of a sick family member we could afford me to take time off work to be the emergency contact and actually have time to handle the emergency.

[SpiderBro]

WHy is working because you want to work unrealistic?

[Opinion Owner]

Because it's unfair to put all the expectation on him. And also financially it's just not an option

[SpiderBro]

... okay

[CallMeDave]

My ex-wife and I both felt like we'd like one of us to be home with our children most of the time so that we were raising them and taking care of them and teaching them things rather than a daycare worker. We had very similar incomes so there wasn't any financial reason for it to be one of us or the other. I offered to be the one to stay home, which wasn't common at the time, but she really wanted to do it, so she did.

After the first child, she took a year off then started working half time and we arranged our hours so one of us was home for all but a few hours when a neighbor with a young child of her own took care of ours.

After the second child, my ex-wife decided she wanted to be a full time mother and so she quit work entirely. I was a little worried about money with just my income but we made it work.

After a few years, she did some part time work from home for a while and when the kids got older and no one needed to be home with them she got a part-time job that she had to go to.

That might not be the right answer for everyone, but that's what we did and we were happy with that.

[The_FallenOne]

Nah. 😅 I don't want to stay at home all day with kids. I'd go grey faster than I could say my name. Hell, I'd probally end up pulling out all my hair if I was a stay at home mom. Staying home 18 years taking to care of kids... um no thanks you. 😂 I'd get a nanny, drop them off at day care or something. I wouldn't be a bad parent, I would spend time with them I just don't think I would be able to bear 18 years home alone with children all day, every day. While having no time to myself and the migets allways begging or wanting somthing out of me. I would absolutely loose it..

[AynonOMouse]

I would prefer that we both work part time, live in a modest/affordable house, but make a decent amount per hour so after necessary expenses, we each get a few hundred spending money each month.
We would have enough time for each other, some time to ourselves for hobbies/etc. and time to spend together with kids as a family.
That is my ideal choice.
by the way, I'm mostly conservative, and most of the conservative people I know IRL had an SO that worked too.
To me, conservative doesn't mean a stay at home wife/SO, it means prioritizing family more than making as much money as possible. Time spent together with moderate living matters more than having lots of expensive possessions, and a big expensive house to try to impress the neighbors with.

[Anonymous]

I am not a mum yet, only a wife, but yes, i am quitiing my job to be a house wife, i have been working so hard for the last 3 years with very little money, i dont have any vacations or free time, working on the weekends too,, all that not for any good money, and my fiance who is soon to be husband makes a lot of money he makes 4 times the average salary so he can easily afford a good living for us, so, i am thinking of staying jobless for one year or one year and half until i get back to the cycle ,, the problem is that in my country the salaries are very low and very inconsiderate to the current prices, making you work only to survive nothing more,, he is ok with it, he sees how hard i work for almost very little money, he wishes i can work again, but he is ok with me taking some break from it

[ThatPersonOverThere]

Yes, I am specifically getting a certification because I want to be the sole breadwinner / head of household.

My woman will be well cared for. If she wants I'll send her to school so she can get a degree and pursue her dreams. But she won't "Have" to work if she's with me. Traditional relationships and family structures work so much better, I don't have time for feminist BS.

[Sexydeni]

Absolutely love it and its the best job I've ever done:) It can be incredibly difficult at times and you have to be able to juggle a million things at once and always expect the unexpected, but being a mum and nurturing my babies is simply the best thing I have ever experienced. Makes doing a 9-5 job seem awfully easy though:!

[RationalMale]

Ehhhh not really. Granted, it would be better for the child to have a stay at home mom if possible, but a lot of cons here.

1. If you have a stay at home wife and she divorces you, the courts will rape you for the fact you supported her and she wasn't working.

2. My mom was a stay at home mom. I remember hearing for years and years about how she was wasting her life and she had a degree, etc. I'd rather my woman be too exhausted from work to complain that she got to retire early.

3. If I have to work, why shouldn't she, especially if she has the same education level as me? Why should she get to retire so early?

[lillizzie]

The girls saying they want to work outside the home have clearly not had a child yet nor realize the incredible demands that having a child puts on you. I used to think like that. Once I had my first baby there was nothing more important than being there for my child, and husband when he got home from work. It provided us the most peaceful family life

[SpiderBro]

Damn at 18! You move quick

[Warmapplecrumble]

I'm a housewife and we choose this lifestyle irrespective of our financial standing.

We realised this keeps us most happy.

And its not about the money but our happiness.

We will not sacrifice our love for digits on a screen that can wiped away at any moment. We already give our 90 percent to the system...

[hellionthesagereborn]

If it was feesible in this day and age, yes I would like her to be one. Its healthier for the child and the family, which shouldn't have to be stated since neglecting your children and/or having them raised by strangers being less healthy should be just common sense. But of course in this day and age that is extremely difficult to do because everything has gone up in price and taxes are higher then ever.

[lotv56]

I'd probably get bored but then again.. maybe not. I can play my piano, post youtube videos, workout, cook nice meals without feeling rushed, and clean without feeling rushed. But if I were a mother I actually wouldn't want to work if my children are not old enough to be home alone because I wouldn't trust anyone to take care of my children. Better to be safe than sorry.

[Obfuscate]

i would like to have either myself or a partner stay home... i like the idea of homeschooling, and i would have fun thinking about the best eay to go about doing it... if my partner wanted to do that, i would have no issue being the one that went to work (i tend to procrastinate housework)... i am not saying i think that is the only way i could picture a relationship turning out, but it would be what i prefer...

[Obfuscate]

~way

[Wonderer89]

I don’t think so... I need the stimulation of something outside of the house and adult conversation. I like my job, I like the challenge and being able to travel.
We have a baby on the way and I’m taking a year off, the travel will stop and I’ll cut back a few days a week when I go back but I just can’t imagine being home every single day waiting for my husband to come home just to talk with someone

[InTimoreDei]

I think you have the wrong idea about "stay at home moms". They have friends and go outside of the house, you know, lol. They're not trapped inside.

[Wonderer89]

@InTimoreDei every single one of my friends works, even those with children. So my time with them would still be limited around their jobs, as mine currently is now.
My idea on what being a stay at home mother encompasses is the reality for those in my social circle and lifestyle choices. My mother’s group; one woman out of 31 is choosing to stay at home after her baby is born. It is not the norm here, and it is not the choice for me

[BraveHeart97]

You can still travel even with a baby plus, it’s not like you have to be lock into the house. You can still go outside and take walks.

[Wonderer89]

@BraveHeart97 I can’t travel for my job and take my baby. My job isn’t like that, the travel that’s stopping is relative to my job - not vacation.
What a life 🙄 taking walks. How mentally stimulating, you’ve definitely changed my mind. I’ll quit my job on Monday so I can get in incubating at home to get used to my new lifestyle around walks

[BraveHeart97]

Oh I thought by traveling I thought you mean vacation lol. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting a family but if that’s not your thing then that’s fine.

[Wonderer89]

@BraveHeart97 I do want a family, I’m currently baking a baby - I just don’t intend to quit my job and stay home with my spawn until they’re old enough to earn their own living for reasons I’ve already mentioned. Nothing against those who do want to, and thrive in that lifestyle but I 100% know it’s not for me and I’d be miserable which lowers my quality as both a wife, and a mother

[BraveHeart97]

That’s understandable, and I think you would make a great mother.

[Wonderer89]

@BraveHeart97 thanks, that’s really sweet x

[CandyCaneZoe]

Fuck that. I know plenty at home women (and some men) who are friends with my Dad (he's military), and they look bored as fuck. They're just staying at home, waisting their lives away. If that's your goal and aspiration in life is to be an at-home wife, I respect you as a person, but that seems like such a boring life-decsion.

Also, we should probably stop making babies, anyway.

[SpiderBro]

Why should we stop making babies?

[CandyCaneZoe]

There's easy too many husbands, that's why. Plus, with all the kids in foster care, and orphans, do we really NEED to reproduce more?

[CandyCaneZoe]

Correction: There's way too many humans in the world, that's why. Plus, with all the kids in foster care, and orphans, do we really NEED to reproduce more?

[Cosytoasty]

I do not want a traditional stay at home wife.

1) I want my days with the kids without her around.
2) A complete woman can be a full time mother while holding some kind of job down, with the advent of cloud and internet based working. Many companies now offer work from home schemes too.

[Claire136]

Ugh, I'd hate myself if I ended up not practicing what took years of schooling to achieve. Even if my husband makes more than enough money, I'd still go to work because it has been my dream to practice this degree Im working on. And I don't think Im woman enough to sacrifice my career to be a full time mother. That shit takes way too much sacrifice for me to be willing to give. That's why Im never going to marry. Maybe full around from time to time but I'll never marry.

[Catholicgirl22]

I would like the luxury of being there as my future kids grow up but I will probably take a job when the youngest starts school. Lile I dont want to stay at home all day alone baking pies. I'm pretty traditional in some respects but in the past a stay at home mother had a he'll of a lot more to do before the invention of modern appliances such as a vacuum, dishwasher, washing machine, dryer, electric iron, refrigerators, electric cookers, microwaves etc.

[Girly1710]

If it was financially possible I’d consider staying home while the kids are young and then going to work when they get to kindergarten. I just think I’d be bored staying home once there wasn’t someone else there to take care of in the middle of the day

[zeldafan123450]

I wouldn't want to be a stay at home wife/mum even if my family were to be financially stable, because my career is very much important to me.
However, if in the future it seems that the family needs it (maybe to raise kids for a few years), considering financial burdens, and other factors, I'd be willing to do so.

[nadinatali]

I would like to be stay at home mom cuz it is easier to have everything under control at home when not working. There will be plenty of time to cook, clean, raise kids well, take them outside every day and do homework with them, more taking care of myself and making time for husband.