"Men should look for a woman who will defend him as much as he will defend her." How true is this statement?

[xJeremyx]

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe women are supposed to protect your emotions and your time by helping you with chores and child management and men are supposed to protect your body and your possessions by bringing food to the table and doing repairs around the home and giving the family rides to daily errands and social gathers. I’m not saying women cannot earn money or men cannot do chores but women do more chores and men earn more money.

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

I'm just happy you said women should care about a man's emotions.

[Price511]

Yeah. In a relationship, we should be able to defend each other and trust in one another. To defend someone comes with more than defense; it comes with a trust they were trying to do the right thing, a trust that they are being honest and genuine, and a trust that they did that for a good reason; all of these are hallmarks of a partner that is more than worth the trouble. To defend someone is an action that speaks volumes of anybody.

[ArtemisSilver]

Depends on what you want. Broadly there are two types of women, shield maidens and princesses.

Shield maiden's are great because they meet challenges head on with you, but they're rare and hard to win over. Princesses on the other hand want to be cared for and protected, which is great if you are up for it, but they're usually unhelpful or even a hinderance in difficult times.

[watercolor_lions]

That's a pretty cool statement. I think men have a sense of dignity too that they want defended.

[xJeremyx]

Not just that. I was referring to something similar to what @BlackCupcake said.

[watercolor_lions]

What did they say?

[xJeremyx]

She would stand in the line of fire to defend her man lol

[watercolor_lions]

I'd do the same for Pat

[Guy13]

Absolutely and this is called loyalty

[Akam93]

That's how I feel. Its 50/50. I defend you, you defend me.

[Guy13]

@Akam93 that’s hard for some especially daughters when their dad has influence.

[Akam93]

Mine doesn't influence me at all.

[jshm2]

That sounds like the sort of thing an idealist in a fictional novel would say, as it sounds "empowering".

In real life, if your woman has to defend you, then she's with the wrong guy. If you need to defend her, then you've got a Karen.

[Blackcupcake]

I would defend the man I love with everything I have… and if it meant putting myself in the line of fire, I would do that too… I just know he would never ever let me get hurt before him… and I feel likewise so it’s a battle of protection lmfao

[xJeremyx]

He would probably get mad and touched at the same time if you do that 🤣🤣

[Blackcupcake]

lmao I know for a fact he’d get mad but I’d get mad back🤣

[ShellyB]

It is 100 percent true if "protect" means overall not just physically, I will not be fighting off muggers or bears or whatever, but I try to help him in many other ways.

[xJeremyx]

Nobody is asking you to fight them off, thats darn near impossible. But you probably will bd expected to get him outta there somehow.

[xJeremyx]

be* expected

[xJeremyx]

Or maybe your way of doing so is making sure he does not get into those situations in the first place.

[ShellyB]

With that kind of scenario with physical danger I would be running or otherwise getting myself away from the danger first, then I would try to help him somehow which might mean looking for more people to help or might be calling 911 or whatever. But what I meant is that I help him other ways like socially or bugging him to get enough rest or things like that, I think there are many ways of protecting somebody and i protect him in my way he protects me in his.

[xJeremyx]

Problem is, it may be likely that by the time you arrive with more help he could already be critically injured... Men do not hold back when assaulting another man.

Just curious. What would you think if you were the one getting mugged or attacked, and he also decided to go get more help?

Cuz if I was your man in that situation, I know there is no way I am going to be successful against more than two attackers. And in that case, I would try to get more help before doing anything stupid that would harm both the lady and myself.

And also, isn't it less likely for an attacker to continue attacking when a woman steps in? Given how most victims of violent crime are male.

But then again, maybe if you were equipped with a carry-on, you would take a different course of action. I have heard that a shot to the foot is more than enough to stop an attacker in his/her tracks.

[ShellyB]

I guess really it would be a split second decision, if I thought me being there yelling or something would make them decide it wasn't worth it then I might try that, but I basically have no intention of ever fighting anybody unless I have no choice, I don't just mean because I am against violence which I am, but also because I would suck at fighting it is just not a way I would really help anybody. I do not want him fighting either but he is like three times as strong as me.

[xJeremyx]

I would be strategic about it. Find their weak points and strike below the belt.

But the whole idea is that fighting is a great way of making a stupid decision. Honestly I think the best route of action in this case is to distract the attackers enough so your man can gtfo and you can dissapear too.

Cuz im pretty sure when your man is being held at knifepoint or gunpoint, your thought process would be very different as well.

[xJeremyx]

And also, a good way to protect him in this case is to just make sure both you and him do not get into this kind of situation.

[QuietVerbena]

Defending your partner is important no matter what gender you are. But women do often look for a man who can protect them.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Obviously protecting your love one's is a two person job if you dating a guy or girl who logically doesn't try sticking up for you or at least try to be comforting than I don't think it's a good relationship.

[inhua]

it's a lot easier to find a needle in the haystack

[DeeDeeDeVour]

That "stand by your man" woman.

That's me and more.

[llorando]

Yep it should be expected for woman to defend her man against women just like it should be expected for a guy to defend his woman against men.

[Vegasrunner]

I agree. If a woman won't stand up for you get rid of her immediately

[Anonymous]

Seems reasonable although I've not heard that before.

[Anonymous]

I don't need a woman to defend me! But I do think she should give him support.

[Anonymous]

For sure. Why defend a woman, who betrays or cheats on him?

[Anonymous]

I've defended her so many times I've lost count. People that know me and her know I'm very overprotective of her.

[midnightmoon05]

Yes. I have even before we got married.

[xJeremyx]

? What do you mean

[midnightmoon05]

I defended him before we got married.

[xJeremyx]

Physically?

[midnightmoon05]

No. Protect him from his family who used him.

[xJeremyx]

W wife. Good on ya.

[CateM]

Absolutely! That phrase is spot on

[xJeremyx]

And why?

[CateM]

Because a relationship should be equal

[xJeremyx]

I beg to differ. Relationshipsare not based on being equal or contributing equally, but based on doing things out of love, and doing them to the best quantity and quality.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Well a hopeful one!

[LazerBean]

Absolutely.

[xJeremyx]

What makes you think so?

[LazerBean]

Because a good marriage is made up of two people who are a good team. Both spouses need to be ready and willing to take up the slack of the other spouse when necessary. If Mom is sick, the dad needs to be both willing and capable to take care of the kids while she is down. If something happens to dad, mom needs to be able to step in and provide for the family. Even when those are not their preferred rolls or even what they are necessarily good at, they both need to be ready and willing to do it when necessary. That includes defending each other.

[xJeremyx]

So in short you expect your man to be there for you in dangerous situations, and you would gladly ward off anyone who attacks him as well.

[LazerBean]

Yeah.

[xJeremyx]

Pew Pew. Gotcha. Good on ya.

[abc3643]

Absolutely, yes!

[USLegionary]

Absolutely...

[Anonymous]

That’s very true in my opinion.