How do you fall back in love with your partner again?

[Waldorf7]

We’re going 3 years but about 4-6 months ago our love has been drifting away, too many fights our emotions get the best of us, we don’t know how to communicate very well etc. I see all these shows/movies on tv and the couples are always so happy and in love with each other I just can’t help but to think back when we were like that.

[caring__1]

The first step is to find a therapist who can teach the two of you effective communication skills. Your fights are due to dysfunctional communication. There will always be disagreements, but there is no need for arguments. Insisting on being heard just tells the other person they don't deserve to be heard. This only leads to inconsideration on all sides. If you want a long-term healthy relationship with anyone, never accuse, assume, blame, criticize, demand, rationalize or tell them what they should or shouldn't do. Communication is about putting forth a legitimate effort to show the other person you truly want to hear and understand them, not just insist you should be heard and then shove your perspective down their throat.

Put forth effort to truly understand what has value to your partner, and then address those issues. Never assume what has value to you is more important than what has value to your partner. Find out if the two of you are even on the same page. Never assume people will change their primary essence for you. Learn your partner's definitions of all terms related to relationships rather than insist your definitions are the only true definitions. Discover how your partner's picture of the ideal relationship has changed over time. I'm talking about what adds to the relationship, not complaints about what hasn't measured up.

[Alex8736]

what you see on TV, movies and social media is actually opposite to how someone is really feeling. If someone is genuinely feeling good about themselves they have no time to stop and advertise every 5 minutes to others on social media what is going on because they are too busy enjoying life

[DevikaButts95]

I've browsed your amount of questions on the topics=, and really there's only two options for you that I can see.
1. You guys need to go to therapy (couples therapy)
2. You guys need to break-up
I don't think you're going to find any magic solution on GaG for these problems unfortunately, relationships need a lot of work.

[Samscott456]

So I would say for starters both of you need to be willing to work on yourselves and the relationship. If one is in and the other is out it won’t work. You can try couples therapy. You both need to get to the root of the problem and work from there with as much empathy and compassions as possible.

[Stevefiveo]

Seek a relationship councilor. Although, judging from you last post, I'm not sure how you are going to force attraction. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Never. I have a one strike you're out policy with women.

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one who asked you out