After being married for 20yrs, I have lately being feeling like a ghost at home both on the physical and emotional side of our marriage. I try to talk about how she is doing, Nothing but "I'm fine". OK, I ask how work was? Always the same answer, "I opened boxes". I hear nothing about the other people in her life that she spends good deal of time Facebooking with leaving everyday comments and birthday wishes for. Yet I haven't recieved any birthday wish from her on F. B. in 2yrs. nor Any everyday comments or messages.
On the physical end, well it's all on me. Unless I say good night or reach over for her hand or try something else, it ain't going to happen. She will dissappear to bed without a word. She will never initiate any contact be it a hug, hand hold, or even touch me. Sex seems to be an unnecessary bothersome choir that somehow just isn't needed anymore. I say BULLSHIT! W. T. F. IS GOING ON WITH YOU?
She says I'm incorrect being upset with this and misinterpreting the situation. Would any one else feel differently? What does everyone else think about this? How would you feel about going through the same situation?
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“I’m fine” F-ing someone else is code there.
I have to assume it was not always this way. I guess you're just going to have to track down and figure out what started this. I'm not saying you're in the wrong, I'm just saying that there is always a reason for how people act.
Maybe, talk to her. Ask if everything is alright. Tell her you wanna take her someplace special.