I was going to go to sleep an hour ago and I’ve just been reading old messages of women who don’t care about me, just thinking about all the things my life could’ve been, and should’ve been so far, I don’t know how to get the life I want. I never seem to know….
I mean I’m 33 and somehow I’ve never had a relationship. I don’t get it. I also have pretty sporadically had real friendships and I have not had the sort of social experiences that your average American guy would’ve had. Spent a lot of my life alone.
I thought I would be off to a brilliant political career by now, but I’m not. I’ve got a pretty decent job in public relations and it’s fine, but I mean I’m working from home from my mom‘s house. I can afford to leave. But I don’t know where to go. I’m so confused.
The thought of my grandparents never getting to see me take off in politics, or meet my children makes me really sad. At this point, I am more than halfway to 34 and I don’t have anyone. Whenever I meet women off dating apps, it’s always a bust, occasionally I go to a political conference for work, and I can’t even meet a woman at CPAC. I don’t get it. I’m also bad at talking to people in person which doesn’t help either.
I feel so lost….
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Join some clubs or activities that force you to talk to people of both sexes, it will help you in regard to talking to the opposite sex, women are just like men really there is nothing secret to it.
Being interesting is also key to meeting and finding people, if your life is staying at home and only going to work then you have very little of interest to talk about with other people, i guess the question to ask your self is, would you date you? and if not why not.
I used to be a 20 stone fatty until my early 30s and although i had a few relationships i still often felt i was rubbish. Its learning to love your self, finding your niche in life and what you truly are and embracing it as you will come across as far more true and genuine than a "poser"
You sound like you could have a few possibilities as you sound kind of like me. Antisocial personality disorder, social anxiety syndrome, with a little ADHD and mild Bi-Polar thrown in. This is stuff I never heard about when I was in high school, but it explains a lot of things in my past. With this vile cocktail it is hard to make and keep friends, and a relationship of any kind is like being on a roller coaster at Magic Mountain and puking at the same time. Perhaps you should go to a psychologist to be diagnosed. There may be some medications that might work for you. Also, a person with these can be stunted socially and find it hard to communicate well. I wish you the best.
Don't read old messages. Don't be stuck in the past. Meet new people :) explore