This is a quick one, gfs guy friend she hasn't spoken to in ages, is messaging girlfriend at almost midnight when he is either bored and most likely sat in bed. She messaged this morning and he said one word and that was it... does this sound strange? Should I take this as a red flag about the guy?
Girlfriends guy friend messaging near midnight should I be concerned?
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Your are not with Wifey material. Poor judgment like this end in horrible very poor stupid bastardized guy.
Unless he’s gay then platonic m/f relationships rarely have any longevity. Someone always falls for the other person, or acts as a friend so they can be there when/if that person becomes single. So is it odd that he’s messaging her at that time of night? Definitely. But at the same time she is responding, and you can’t always see her responses so who knows what they’ve discussed.
Well I saw her messages, they haven't messaged in over 5 months. Due to his ex girlfriend being funny about them being friends. He then messaged near midnight with hey, how are you? She responded and today... he doesn't seem bothered. Just made it seem like he was either bored/possibly h*rny I hate to say it... and wondered if others thought the same
I’m not trying to stir the pot, but you know text messages can be deleted, right? Go see for yourself, if you have an iPhone like I do (but I’m sure there is a similar function on android or whatever). You can hold down on a message, click more, then delete each text that you want to. My best friend does it all the time, for better or worse, and that’s why I know. I’m not trying to instill doubt in you, but texts like what she got don’t come out of no where. His ex probably saw the oddity of their situation as well.
By oddity I mean him randomly reaching out in the middle of the night, I just realized I wasn’t clear about that lol. You probably disagree but people are capable of more than you think.
See thats the bit I find strange, and to be fair she said in the end she hasn't spoken to him in a year... his past year is just likes of females in relationships/single, almost explicit pics and he has transitioned into a she but likes females.
So how’d it go from 5 months to a year? I don't know, something about this tells me that his perspective on this “friendship” would be quite a bit different than hers. You are basing your opinion off of your gfs side of the story and what sounds like a bit of detective work on your end, but you’ve still got a nagging feeling. I don't know about you but the biggest red flags to me are the time switch, and how they allegedly didn’t speak in that time due to his girlfriend disliking their friendship. I personally wonder what SHE’S seen to bring her such discomfort. I know women can be insecure but I don't know, it’s all suspicious and I think your gut instinct is trying to help you out.
I talk to guys when I'm bored sometimes and there's no sexual interest in it.
Thank you! It was just a strange time though almost midnight and hadn't messaged in months!
It was just weird, I spoke to her and it's been a year. The person seems to have transitioned into a female who still likes females. Past year is just him liking pics of explicit females