Guys, How can I boost my man's confidence when he tells you you aren't doing enough to help?

[Anonymous]

My man has become very insecure and has accused me of cheating several times. I have told him to go through my phone leave my phone open around I let him see everything on my phone minus when I'm getting presents for him or something special. He tells me pretty much that no matter what I say he will not believe me. He has accused me of cheating for over a year now. It has gotten worst since his mom started saying I was sleeping with other guys and our baby isn't his. We have been together for almost 5 years and never stepped out. The only thing that has really changed is we have a 17 month old that has taken time away from us

[Guy13]

Oh, he judges it by the time you spend with him. Show him your schedule or keep one? It sounds like he’s preparing to leave to be honest.

[Asker]

I literally go to work from 8:30-5:30 and usually come right home after unless he asks me to go to the store and I always go with our daughter because I am with her 24/7 even at work because I work at a daycare

[Asker]

Thank you for this response. I'm either at work mon-fri and home with him on the weekends and there every night when I'm suppose to be.

[Guy13]

Wow, he must be trying to manipulate you through negative stimuli...

[Asker]

We have had really hard time since our daughter was born. I really want this to work out but I fear it's just a losing battle

[Guy13]

Once child reaches 3 they can interpret and security is super important at that age. She needs to feel security and stability from at least one source.
If it were me, I would toss out a woman who was causing me that sort of grief. I can do Mr. Mom and I imagine that you can do Miss Dad too. What a remarkably tough place you are in.
Maybe a counselor to help sort through church or agency?