Looking for advice, boyfriend wants me but not my child in his life. How can I convince him? (Page 2)

Question

I have a really deep question. My boyfriend wants me but not my child in his life. I have a 3 year-old son and I broke up with my husband and my son lives with me. I have a new boyfriend, we are thinking of getting married, he loves me so much, but he doesn't want to live with my son. Do you think this relationship will work?

TaureanBull81 · Answer

Unfortunately things aren't going to work out well of he's demanding this. It's rather selfish on his behalf too. Best to cut your losses with your boyfriend.

AsaKyo · Answer

If he can't accept the kid you had before him, then no, I don't think it will work as he might end up abusing your child while you are not around

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

Of course, it won't work unless you send you your son to your husband. I hope you pick your son over your boyfriend. Then again, I think it would be better for a son to live with his dad unless he's abusive.

slatyb · Answer

No, you must put your child first. He's not a nice person.

sheikalana · Answer

Not going to work. Your son is part of your life he's three years old and he needs you more than that selfish man you're wasting your time on.

tzdc21 · Answer

No. To be honest, it is not within a man's best interest to raise another man's kid. He clearly has a problem with that.

Anonymous · Answer

Two options. 1. Let the child's father look after the boy of he's in a position to. You are then unencumbered. 2. Break up with your boyfriend. You are responsible for the child, not your boyfriend.

DavidRaul · Answer

No. If he can't take care of your child and love him just like a father should, he doesn't deserve you. Just break it off

LiamJHayden · Answer

It won't last unless you choose the boyfriend over your son. I do not think you will do that, so you might want to look elsewhere for companionship.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Do you really want him in your life when he wants nothing to do with your kid? He wants you to choose him over your kid. Is that the kind of partner you want to be with?

Sparkie460 · Answer

You have a child. You are a package deal. You're not going to " convince " him to accept your child. The relationship will never work long term if he doesn't want anything to do with your child.

BeyondBirthday · Answer

Are you dumb? This is how children get murdered by parents/spouses. If he don't love your kid get him out of your life. What the fuck is wrong with you?

bayoubob · Answer

Well, still married and you have a boy toy. We know nothing about this shit storm.

worldscolide · Answer

If he doesn't want the kid in his life, then he is definitely not the one for you...

pupluv45 · Answer

unless you're sick enough to abandon your 3 yr old son for your new husband.

Becky316 · Answer

Put that child first, if he doesn't want to be a dad.

TrishaMorgan · Answer

If he can't accept your son, he isn't worthy of your time. Clearly, you deserve better and so does your son.

Tracker1958 · Answer

Dating a single mother is like paying for the neighbors home. Very bad investment of time and of money.

Anonymous · Answer

oh fuck that. child comes first. take your kid and run...

HaveNoName · Answer

... and you still don't see it as a BLOOD RED flag?

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Wait we need to talk why would you want to convince a guy to be in your son's life. He's a lover your wasting your time dump him and move on

Anonymous · Answer

You can't really. A man generally doesn't want to raise a kid that's not his. It's against how we are designed biologically.

J060170 · Answer

Nope. No convincing and you really shouldn’t want to stay with a man who doesn’t accept your child.

msc545 · Answer

Find a new boyfriend. Your son deserves a lot better than this asshole.

blackoutlawstudbrady · Answer

Dump him, lady, your child should come before anyone else, including you !!!

In_Trance · Answer

Move on

Anonymous · Answer

What? He is a no no for you. My husband has a son and I love him. It is just part of him. I cannot love him but not his son which is the world tohim. Get that motherfucker out of your life

Twalli · Answer

Probably not, since your son is a part of any relationship you enter.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Won't work unless your ex is prepared to take custody of the child.

dscs24 · Answer

I don't think he is mature enough to be with you. You need someone that will understand a baby is not a pet you can leave behind

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Obviously it’s not going to work. You have two choices. You can either date a guy that accepts the child, or not date at all.

ThatGuytt · Answer

No deal if he wants to be with you he as to be willing to accept the child. . if he doesn't then he's not right

MuhammedNada · Answer

I am really sorry for what i am gonna say but this relationship is not gonna work... If you convince him now later on he won't be

jimmy2 · Answer

Honey if he will not accept you than he is wrong for you. You son is part of marriage and he can not pick and choose

jwbjimmy23 · Answer

Dump the Bastered you have a package deal both or none

Anonymous · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

It's a bad idea for your son. Put your son first, and find a man who will love him.

Drod2323 · Answer

I think he is selfish, he does not love you enough sorry

Rottman23 · Answer

Maybe. Just have a deep conversation with him about it

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

I think he is not worth it.. find someone better.. Don't leave ur son alone

eye8her4u · Answer

do you want your kid? if you do tell your boyfriend kick rocks.

1cuteblackk · Answer

If you didn’t hide it from him, he should love your son as well because he knows you got a son.

panamared1 · Answer

he is not the boy for you, the man for you will love your son too

Anonymous · Answer

It won’t work, what does he expect you to do give your son to the father full-time?

Anonymous · Answer

If he doesn't want your son then he doesn't want you.

Lowiu · Answer

No it would never work out

melanieeeB · Answer

Leave and find a better man, who will

Taylor_C · Answer

Very simple. You need to find another boyfriend.

OrallyFixated · Answer

Your kidding, right?

fonduegirl · Answer

Boarding school

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope, doomed to fail.

DS_Madking · Answer

dont! u should dump him

Anonymous · Answer

Are you for real? Seriously?

FatDikEng · Answer

Welp that relationship is over.

nawtee_me · Answer

why convince him, leave him instead.

Farmerboy2 · Answer

Nope. How would it work.

malwins · Answer

Wtf? The nerve!!!

Cristinaissweet · Answer

Nope

Anemone978 · Answer

Dump him

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