Would you say a woman have power over men in relationships?

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OpenClose · Accepted Answer

Really depends.

I think women do early on, but that could be debated. With traditional roles, women have the upper hand in acceptance or rejection, and have a leg up in being able to attract attention passively (something I'm totally jealous of, NGL). But men in this case have selection power, which can leave some women to feel powerless and "waiting to be selected".

To put it another way, she might be able to get male attention without having to actively seek it out, but most of them will be options she doesn't want. Guys get to basically take no action on girls they don't want, and go in already knowing they're at least attracted to her.

But I think men have fewer forms of emotional support, making them more dependent on relationships to get this support. Something I've seen taken advantage of. I feel like women assume we get the same support they do and take that sort of thing for granted sometimes when judging men's emotional issues.

And then there's the empathy gap. People are more sensitive to her insecurities or concerns and hold them with greater legitimacy. Men's insecurities or concerns are considered "incompetencies" and "failures". So we get the whole "woman is always right" and "happy wife, happy life", making many relationships more gynocentric.

But for several women I've known, it felt like he had all the power of direction. Essentially saying that she felt like a sidekick in HIS story.

Understanding these things should be less about claiming power and more about being aware of when the ball is in your court in order to handle it with care.

Datboi65 · Accepted Answer

Nope. Women don't propose, men do. Women don't pay the bills, men do. Women aren't the protectors, men are.

Power comes from responsibility. The party with the most responsibility over the other should be the one in power. If I'm supposed to risk my life to save you, you should listen to what I have to say and not get yourself in danger. If you want my commitment you need to earn it.

If you give up your power as a man, you become worthless. The whole "independent woman" epidemic happened because men didn't prevent it from happening, and now they are more lonely than ever.

One last thing. Power cannot be forced, it's given. A woman should submit to her man and if she doesn't, you cannot force her to. However, what you can do is leave that relationship and never turn around. You don't want someone that expects you to do everything but doesn't want to do the bare minimum.

In conclusion: men have the power in relationships unless they give it away.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Nope. It's not dependent on gender. Never was.

It depends on who one pair of the union feels about the other. I read a long time ago that the person who has "more" of the power is the person who feels LESS for the other person unfortunately, or who isn't as DESPERATE for a relationship or family, etc!.. That can be a man (if he's desperate to be married with kids by a certain age because his family is pressuring him subconsciously), or it can be the woman (with the same background story!).

Basically, whoever is more desparate to get the thing in the relationship (baby, marriage, love, sex, financial stability, etc.) and whoever has the ability (potential ability) to provide it, WILL HAVE THE POWER!

Think of it simply like a buyer or seller's market.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I believe both women and men should have power in the relationship. If one has all the power and another has no power, there is a higher chance of abuse because human beings have flaws and are capable of change when an opportunity to act badly comes on the scene.

Guy13 · Answer

Women dominating the dynamic on the front end is exactly the opposite of my findings. I have never found a female that does not like to chase intellect. In process thinking they are examine the guys mind etc. I’m not talking Knowledge but I am talking traceable mystery of thought confirmed by follow-up inquiry or straight-up disagreement the next day. It’s a Test and an intelligent man who can accept opinion and embrace growth from another is never going to encounter a desert. Being able, IN PERSON, to peek into a man’s mind is most intoxicating and important determinant in “being selected”…. not dick size 🙄

coachTanthony · Answer

For most men today YES lol

Summeroflove · Answer

Relationships are give and take.

blueonblack22 · Answer

In the early stages absolutely. There is a power dynamic where most men are expected to approach, take risks, plan, have self control, spend money/resources, endure and pass shit tests, etc.

Women are under more pressure to look good in some ways. They know that staying in shape, dressing well and looking their best (e. g. makeup, hair, etc) can improve their chances of getting attention of desirable.

But when all else is equal the woman almost always has more options vs. the man. She might have to deal with unwanted attention from the wrong men but she STILL has options.

That’s not ever going to change either. Despite the so called equal and “modern” world I don’t see most women wanting to give that advantage up nor even acknowledging it.

Anyway I know that bitching and moaning about that unfairness isn’t going to ever solve anything. Men don’t get merit or respect for playing victims in society especially when it comes to dating.

However I just have one simple wish/request from more females. Please just take a step back and realize what advantage you have here. It’s okay if you reject guys but please don’t ever do the following if the guy was respectful:

- Be rude to the guy
- Mock or laugh at him
- Ghost him thinking that’s an effective way to give him a “hint”.
- String him along with friéndzone bullshit because he’s nice and you like the attention.

Just politely tell him you appreciate his efforts but you are not interested. It shows that you respect the position he is in. When men feel respected they will handle rejection much better 95% of the time. Men desire respect even more than they desire sex/intimacy.

MrOracle · Answer

They often do, but that's the fault of the man, for not taking clear leadership from Day 1 and maintaining it throughout the many shit-tests that a woman will throw at him. Most women WANT to be lead by a strong, COMPETENT man, but she will test him constantly, especially during the first 6 months of the relationship, and any signs of weakness, incompetence, or lack of confidence will make her assert herself, even though she really doesn't want to and further failures will see her take more control until she is eventually running the relationship - which will make her unhappy and cause her to lose respect for the man. Nothing good comes from that, and yet it's all too common today.

Vetera · Answer

Personally so far in my life my most successful relationship has been with my current girlfriend where we both are achievers and play off each other positively in supporting each others goals. Having control or power in a relationship isn’t healthy in my opinion because it can easily be abused. What if you were married and you were a stay at home spouse. If one day they felt differently and left then you don’t have that experience and support you need. I just think that while my life has been short so far that I found this girl and now that our parents threw us out we need to be in this together instead of just one person bearing the charge.

Anonymous · Answer

If married, the woman has 100% power.

If not married, I think women have most of the power. They know they can get away with acting shitty way more than men because society sympatizes with women more and holds them much less accountable. Also, she knows she can get away with being violent while her man cannot so they often push men's boundaries. There is also a culture of weak useless submissive husband wrapped around the woman's finger and accepting disrepect and cheating. We can see it in advertizing, TV shows, movies, etc.

godfatherfan · Answer

For younger couples, absolutely. Young guys are driven by sex and women control sex. So women control the relationship as long as the guy is still controlled by his cock. However, when you get up in years like me, and sex is just not a big deal anymore, then they do not.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

If the cops get called because she cheated and stole money to buy another man a car... guess who is going to spend a night or two in jail while she spends the night in his house that he bought in his name and with his money... and with the other man. Go on... guess.

Yeah the power dynamics sort of have a thumb on the scale if the 'system' gets involved.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Depends on the couple. A lot of my friends are in relationships where the woman are the head of the household (while making the same as their husbands or less, since a few of them are housewives).

I've also noticed a plenty of women on line who prefer to have the man take the lead of the relationship, so it depends. Sometimes it's closer to equal too

oddwaffle · Answer

If she files a domestic violence case against you then you go to prison before they can get you a lawyer. It would take minutes and a hefty dose of drama but it's going to be fast and there is no justice. She could lie about it and get away free while you will be fighting for your life.

You can't sue her back either.

90% of all divorces started by women with a college degree. The women dictate if you are allowed to be a human or not.

LazerBean · Answer

A person in a relationship only has as much power as the other person allows them to have.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

no… no, I don’t think I would say that. Women only have the power in relationships that men give them, right up until marriage or living together.

Even when women can destroy men’s reputations, steal their money, etc, during break ups; you can avoid most of those headaches by having other women stand up for you. Women are other women’s cryptonite

Anonymous · Answer

Yesssssss because most women are so possessive and controlling over their partner/s that it's incredibly insecure and not endearing at all.

Relationships are meant to be a mutual partnership however it's such a shame that women don't see it that way!

Women don't like me because I'm headstrong as I don't allow them to behave this way with me.

TheorionMage · Answer

In  other than  platonic friendships, if she's at all, insightful... and Machievellian. Hell yes!

Subarugirl · Answer

Generally, no. Every relationship is different though. Having someone dependent on you finically or physically automatically creates a power imbalance

KarinMcDonald · Answer

I think that goes both ways. Some men are controlling, and some women have the power. I have the power in our relationship. Men use force, and women use sex.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Every woman regardless of age, location, looks or experience only has as much power over you as you give her... Most men are too busy being desperate and scarcity minded to realize this.

Anonymous · Answer

They do and to some degree they always did. They can use the state as a weapon more effectively than men can and abuse done by them was always seen as justified by society (especially after the Duluth Model came to be) if it is even recognized at all.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Only as much as a man lets them get away with.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

No, not really. While we control the access to sex, men control the access to relationships! Sad but true.

JosyJosy · Answer

No, we're more like a team working together. Then again, I went for a great guy, not someone who'd do anything no question asked.

Adaeva · Answer

In relationships, there is every possible combination, from women (or men) having no power to having all the power.

CubsterShura · Answer

Depends on the couple and even the relationship itself. I hardly felt in control in my previous relationships.

standardguy · Answer

Yes due to the fact that men need women more than women need men there will be a power disbalance in the relationships in favor if the women. Because of that God wants the man to be the leader in the marriage as a equilibrator.

sheenagwapa · Answer

the man is the head in the relationship but the neck is the woman

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Men are generally big softies. It's easy to get them to do what you want by being submissive and sexy. You put the idea in their head and let them think they made the decision.

lightbulb27 · Answer

for sure, bible even says "man submits unto woman".

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

If you are in a relationship... and you don't have at some level power over your partner... something is wrong. That goes for both sides involved.

CateM · Answer

Historically, no. But both partners should take the lead at times

IveGotNoName · Answer

In a healthy relationship the power dynamic should be 50/50.

BigV89 · Answer

It depends on the personality of the man or woman. Nice guy's like me sometime gets walk on by girls. I became stronger with time and able to stand my ground but its really depends on the relationship and the love.

DiegoO · Answer

Women control the first step: acceptance, but us guys decides the determination of going further.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. And thank the simps for that. Keep buying strangers free drinks, and then wonder why they laugh at you.

rienna888 · Answer

Yeah if your pretty, then you could get guys to pay for you, ofcourse I don’t do that

LiamJHayden · Answer

Probably in general, but that is only because so many guys worship the V.

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

It may seem that way when it comes to romantic interactions, but there is no "power". One does what they want because of the other.

collie22 · Answer

They can although a lot of women are submissive

Juxtapose · Answer

Well obviously, she can just go get a new guy so she always has that hanging over his head.

Chthou95 · Answer

a lot of men won't admit it but yes a lot of women do have the power in the relationship. That's why masculinity is important

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Over a punk and pussy man, yes. Definitely not over me though.

Manuel2 · Answer

Yes madam, I will eat your pussy first before you give me a hand job

peedy · Answer

Can't answer that but in a divorce they certainly do

Evil_Chuck · Answer

In some ways, absolutely. Power knows no gender.

Anonymous · Answer

Not exactly. But in marriage for sure! The most during divorce.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the couple 🤷‍♀️ Ideally it should be balanced, though not quite the same.

Anonymous · Answer

Many times guys have the power in the relationships because women usually date up.

Akam93 · Answer

No. The relationship should be 50/50.

RavVid · Answer

Most certainly

Wicked_Witch · Answer

No, I would not say that.

TheNameIsRob · Answer

Only the weak ones

BJP21 · Answer

They are the gate keepers all throughout history.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

I'm certain aspects she does but not at everything

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Not in relationships, only in marriage.

Anonymous · Answer

Not in my relationship, lol

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

50/50

Slim57 · Answer

In some relationships yes in others no

slatyb · Answer

No, I wouldn't.

Anonymous · Answer

If she is rich

EaterPeter · Answer

Oh yeah.

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