The guy I’m seeing Is keeping me waiting really long for our date? Do I have a go at him or leave it?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy like 3 weeks so it’s early days and today he’s really making me wait agies. He told me he’d be free in like an hour or so and it’s been 2 hours. I know he’s at the garage getting something done to his car and some work thing but it’s getting to me that he hasn’t let me know yet. He told me he’d ring me back an hour ago and it’s been like 2 hours. The thing is I KNOW he’s busy but the principle is that he always puts work before me but I understand as I’m not a priority but I’m worried is would happen in the future. Do I message him and have a go at him or just message him and say something like I’m ready now? I’ve been waiting 2 hours and haven’t said anything. I don’t wanna blow up his phone while he’s clearly doing something. This was his plan and he booked something and I’m sat here waiting.

[nitsuj86]

If you like him, then I would either let it go or just ask him if he is still busy.

It's been 3 weeks, you aren't his girlfriend, and he told you he was busy. If it was me, and you got mad at me for that, I would probably stop seeing you if I wasn't super into you. Especially if I was dating other women, which most guys that women actually like are able to do.

If you don't want to wait around, then don't. If you have something else to do, then go do it. But if you are just sitting around at your house, with no plans, then what are you really getting mad about?

If I had something come up, and the woman I was seeing was understanding and didn't get mad at me, well that's wifey material.

[Asker]

Yeah he didn’t tell me he was busy he said he’d come and see me at 2pm but kept me waiting 6 hours. In the end I just sent him a voice note saying that I hope he’s okay and was wondering why he didn’t let me know and I said I get that you’re busy though just maybe tell me next time? Is that okay?

[nitsuj86]

You say he didn't tell you he was busy, but above you say he told you he was at the garage and had something he needed to work on. So sounds like he did tell you. He just didn't update you to let you know it was taking longer. Maybe he should have, but the fact you are so upset about it that you need to ask the internet proves it actually was a big deal to you.

Knowing cars, and how much of a pain in the ass they are to work on, it often takes longer than you expect. He could have gotten lost in work and not realized so much time had passed.

Maybe if that behavior continues you can be upset, but so early on, you need to give him a break and let it go. He's a grown man that told you he was busy, you aren't his girlfriend or his mom.

You said what you needed to say, and I'm sure he told you why. Now just move on from it.

[KnewHOUSE]

Do he use his car to pick you up or how you been with him for three weeks I he paid for you something out his work check ✅
No work No girl friend that how I think.

[sage2021]

I go through the same thing with my boyfriend that lives with me. He's always saying "Just give me 5 more minutes and I'll be home". Then he doesn't come home for an hour or two. If I go to call him, he has his phone on Do Not Disturb and I go right to voicemail. Both things are disrespectful to us.
I also feel he is lying to me about why he took so long. He comes up with some outrageous stories about what took him so long.
Believe me, no matter what you say to him, he's going to keep being this way with you. I've tried for year's to make that situation better and he still does it. 😬

[KathrynTaylor]

Call him and ask if he’s still coming. If he doesn’t reply, then he’s blowing you off probably for someone else. Don’t give him the satisfaction of knowing how upset you are. Act like it doesn’t matter but sure as hell, when he returns to you (they always do eventually turn up like bad pennies once you’ve moved on); even if part of you still likes him, don’t under any circumstances take him back. Tell him you thought he wasn’t interested, so you moved on. Guys hate that.

[Jaylenn]

perhaps, he needed to make sure his hair and makeup were perfect, or stuck in traffic, delayed bus.. he needed to use the restroom, etc... being late one time.. no big deal, being late every time.. tell him it's not cool.. standing you up.. dump him

[TrueConfection]

You waited for 6 hours? That's way past being stood up. I would mayyyybe give him 30 minutes if it wasn't the first date and only if I really liked him. Anything beyond 15 minutes and I would shut my phone off and find someplace else to go.

[FreyaRed]

Nobody forced you to fall for people who have no interest in you. You don't need to fall for them.

[Asker]

He is the one who made the plan though?

[Anonymous]

Never wait for a man. Keep yourself busy for you! If he comes at you when you’re busy, too bad for him - you’re busy.
You have better things to do than wait for a guy that says he’ll be available, and then he isn’t. Move on Gurl

[Summeroflove]

Don’t understand the question

[P0lishsharkgirl]

I’d leave him if I were you but I’m not you just do whatever your heart is telling you! Is your heart telling you that you like him a lot or is it saying that he’s not worth your time!

[Iron_Man]

Complain about it

[AmeerX]

Don't break up your silly