Is it more dangerous for the woman to be jealous or for the man to be jealous?

[gayesblog]

Which one is more dangerous when the become jealous???

[blueonblack22]

Women get more leeway in society to express their jealousy. Years ago my former overweight female roommate (who I subleased from) kicked me out after living in the place that I was I for over three years. Reason why? I started steadily dating a skinny pretty young woman she was deeply jealous of. She was never nice to her and I only had her over once a week tops.

One night while watching a movie with my girlfriend (and I gave her and my other roommate a heads up we would be over). My female roommate came home, walked out to the living room and then walked back/slammed the door when she saw me girlfriend just cuddling with me on the sofa (we weren’t having sex).

Just imagine if a man acted that way if he was jealous his female roommate had a guy over (and she always respectfully texted everyone in advance he was coming by). Really what man could get away with acting that so obviously jealous? He would look beyond pathetic.

Men definitely get jealous. We feel the exact same emotions women do. But society gives us zero leeway or consolation if we show it. This leads men to internalizing it and unfortunately a few of them can get dangerous, stalkerish and violent when that happens. They don’t know how else to deal with it.

More often men will often look for ways to compete and/or indirectly disparage the guy they are jealous of. But again both men and especially women mock men who openly show jealousy. Where a woman’s gets more sympathy because of her “poor emotional feelings” she supposedly has no control over.

[CrazyGirl2]

It is much more dangerous for women if their male partner is jealous! Heterosexual men are undeniably more aggressive than, stronger than, and commit domestic violence at a FAR greater rate, than by heterosexual women. Further, even if an average woman is physically violent towards her male partner, he is FAR less likely to suffer death or major injury as a result of that domestic violence than is a woman at the hands of a jealous man.
That being said, the #1 demographic for the incidence of domestic violence is Lesbians! And further, we need to “equalize” the laws, because men ARE abused by women, and when they are they are less likely to be taken seriously by police, and the legal system, which is rightfully outraged when they see a male defendant accused of beating a woman, but sadly all too quiet when men are the victims!
all one need do is review the facts of the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard trial. When he was accused without any evidence, barring a dubious “miraculously healing” bruise on AH’s face, his career was OVER! Yet when audio tapped confessions of AH taunting Depp over what would happen if he even tried to claim the truth about his abusive wife calling him a “pussy” for even complaining about the abuse… Warner Bros. merely reduced her roll in Aqua man, and NO major corporations publicly fired AH immediately the way 20th Century Fox and Disney did with Depp!
So, while society and the justice system have a long way to go before parity is reached in the way the sexes are treated after abuse is revealed, that does not change the fact that women are in far worse danger of death and serious bodily harm from an abusive jealous male spouse or partner than men are from abusive female partners.

[Asad1ONE1]

You and I finally agreed on something 😂

[CrazyGirl2]

@Asad1ONE1 Thank you but I have always believed this, and MANY other things that would actually surprise “men’s rights” types. Like my stance on alimony, and the unjust treatment of men in family courts, or that if a woman has the right to kill a mans child against his will, without even telling him she has HIS child inside her, the if she decides to have the child but the father does not want a child, then he should not be compelled to pay child support! But when I try to explain that on other answers that Mens Rights types have disagreed with me… They have been extremely unfair and borderline abusive, because I try to point this fact out, I get told things like “STFU you lying cunt”! So, while I genuinely do appreciate your comment, I would ask that the next time I say something that goes in the favor of MY sex, I would ask you kindly remember that I actually DO support the things men, and specifically fathers want, but I also support the rights of women as well. Two thinks can be true at the same time. Thank you.

[Asad1ONE1]

Right on sister 😉.

Inequality is the bane of life.

Also, life is short for a reason.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Except for one thing, jealousy can lead to this kind of stuff. www.youtube.com/watch Check this out which basically debunks your claims about men initiating the abuse more. You say it's more dangerous for women yet you gave results on what happens to men being victims of a jealous partner which turns out to be just as dangerous if a woman is a victim of a jealous man. It's like you contradicted everything.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Aiko_E_Lara I appreciate your linking the video, I already knew much of this, my source is the Dept. Of Justice Bureau of Statistics, and their data is quite conclusive. While men and women roughly commit domestic violence at equal rates, the injuries to the victim were not even CLOSE to comparable. While men who were abused received (on average) minor cuts, bruises, scratches, and the occasional black eye, women abused by men received (on average) black eyes, concussions, lacerations, broken ribs, broken arms, (as well as spiral fractures to wrists and arms from grabbing the arm and twisting it), and fractured facial bones. I’m aware IPV is not specifically a male phenomena, but unless one believes that most women can beat the shit out of most men, this is a logical fallacy as it relates to THIS question. While I love men and support mens rights as much as I do women's, men are simply more violent than women. 95% of violent prison inmates are men, and major injuries (not a slap) is the danger to women who face IPV from jealous male intimate partners. Also, while men can and do get raped by women, women use blackmail, coercion, and inebriation as a weapon of rape. While men use violence, threats of violence, inebriation, and drugging. And although when including the prison population, men are almost as likely to be the victim of rape as women… even in those situations, the perpetrators are still male! Outside the prisons, women are nearly always the victims of rape, which is also a weapon used by jealous male intimate partners. The question asked “Is it MORE dangerous for women to be jealous, or for men to be jealous?” And in THAT context, it is far more dangerous to be a woman if her intimate partner is jealous and resorts to violence, as violence is all too common for women with jealous male partners. Thank you for the link to the YouTube video, although that guy speaks WAY too quickly, to effectively relate complex statistical information.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

The key word here is "addressed" there had been experiments showing that how many people actually take men for granted will it comes to domestic violence and there is no shelter for male abuse victims things to the duluth model making the belief if only women are victims of abuse which is why nobody fund for male abuse victims. Oh yeah you don't know how many men who actually broken the ribs, got testicular injuries and some more serious injuries that goes on address because if he fights back, he's only going to get accused of being the aggressor himself which can result to there are way more men committing suicide than women specially during the ages where they normally get married like their late 20s and up.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Because it's not like women are made of twigs while men are made of bones. Women are still capable of using anything that can fracture a guy's bone structures.

[Asad1ONE1]

@Aiko_E_Lara I don't think there are really "double standards" because that goes with the premise that Men and women are the same.

Men and women are not the same because of different life experiences. I'm talking about "gender specific" (exclusive) differences here. The rest are differences amongst people.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Except similarity and equality are two different things. I don't associate with equality with similarity because when it's true that men and women are different, we're still human with different exclusive abilities with equal values

[Asad1ONE1]

Yes I agree I don't either.

[Sorrento-Sun]

I dont believe it depends on gender. It depends on who can control their emotions and thoughts.

Most people, if not everyone, can feel jealous if certain situations triggers it.

Jealousy only becomes an issue if a person can't control their emotions. They can resort to harmful and hateful behavior to someone if they allow jealousy to consume them.

Jealousy can lead to anger and violence if a person is unable to regulate their emotions. So if a man can and a woman can't, then her jealousy is worse. And vice versa.

[Moose304]

30 or so years ago I would have said it is the same. The source is still the same. I have seen many women get by with things like trespassing and criminal damage to property in the nation's courts. I once saw the same judge give a woman time served no probation and only had to make restitution for a 1st offense when she keyed an expensive car. This same judge then sent a guy to jail for almost 2 weeks, fined him $500 PLUS court costs AND restitution for knocking his wife's APs side window out. I owned that car and she did a bit over $10,000 worth of damage to my car. That side window labor included could not have been more than $250 to fix. I know a business that is operated by a now-divorced man that can't keep his ex out of it. The restraining order is worthless because the Judge won't enforce it. Yet, if the situation was reversed that man would be serving time by now. Now, I am talking about vindictive actions based on someone being jealous. There are some exceptions, but generally speaking females in the US are not held accountable and I will NOT be politically correct and say otherwise. If my words offend then you will just have to be offended!

[kylee2437]

Both. Jealousy is the first step to controlling behavior

[Summeroflove]

I think it’s equal but this all depends on the individual. Anyone whose psychotic is dangerous.

[Guy13]

It is more dangerous when a man gets jealous and reactive without thinking because his heart is broken.

[Akam93]

@Guy13 a jealous woman does better research than the FBI though.

[Guy13]

@Akam93 Yes but a guy physically pursues and goes postal in her presence. It’s scary like one of the Cop tv series where run video

[Akam93]

@Guy13 you get jealous over me sweet cheeks. :)

[tiajoka]

Jealousy can stem purely from insecurity tho

[TenderFantasy]

@tiajoka These days. With competition up the wall, it's really DIFFICULT not to have so called insecurities!

[tiajoka]

@TenderFantasy 🤷‍♀️

[Avicenna]

That depends on the person. A woman with Borderline Personality Disorder is really potentially dangerous when jealous.

[OlderAndWiser]

When men become jealous, the results are lethal more often than when women become jealous.

[sheenagwapa]

i think the woman because me personally i broke up before many times just because of jealousy. and i really don't care if things would really end if you know what i mean.


it's just funny that it seems some people have not researched thoroughly before fuckinh up with me. they thought i will becfine with it.


some people they are in denial that their actions can have CONSEQUENCE. yoy can't just fuck me up shit on me and then everythings gonna be fine. i will be fine.


that's not how the world operates dear


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[Chazmatazz269]

Women, for sure. They aren’t held accountable for physical and emotional abuse against men, even when they kill them. Thanks to “no fault” divorce, they don’t have to prove he’s cheating to divorce him and take everything in the divorce, including his children, and completely ruin his life. Even if she doesn’t outright murder him, it’s easy as pie to drive him to suicide and nobody cares.

[msc545]

well said!

[Anonymous]

The woman no question! Take a look at the women's prison population. The majority of women in prison are there for crimes of passion. Ever heard the saying, " hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? And with the most unbalanced women a guy doesn't even have to do anything to make her jealous she just has to perceive any action of it. I know of a woman in prison right now for trying to burn down the house of her ex with his new girlfriend in it. Simply because she couldn't let go that it was over.

[virtue2332]

Jelousy is a normal emotion to feel at times. The danger comes when you let it control your actions or let it consume your logic or self worth. Its a cancer of emotion and will ruin a relationship if not kept in check. Its an emotion that the person who feels jelous has to fix because its thier issue not anyone elses.

[MrNameless]

You can say men commit more violent crimes... But when it comes down to it, it's based on the individual. Is the person spiteful, not level-headed/neurotic, and has a violent/sociopathic history? It's not just physical harm, but emotional harm as well.

[OfMiceandMen]

I may get shot down for this, but, here it goes...

I think women become jealous more easily because they tend to be more sensitive about their man and other women. They also tend to be relationship thinkers whereas guys sometimes need kick to remember they're in a relationship.

Guys tend to be pretty chill and not let there minds head down the jealousy road, unless there are some pretty big signs, like your woman tends to give every guy she comes across a lap dance.

[Msputiton]

I don't think it matters gender.

I mean guys can beat us or murder us easily.

But there are examples of jealous women waiting till their man is asleep and snip, snip.

Or drugging drinks.

I mean crazy is crazy regardless of gender

[Zbrody1997]

That’s completely dependent on the person some men and women are dangerous yandire is a prime example of a deranged jelous female and there are countless examples for men in the end there are people out their who were never taught to deal with a relationship in a healthy way.

[rienna888]

Although, women can be vicious when jealous because I know I am. Sometimes I think of the worse things to do in a relationship when i'm jealous. But men are physically stronger, so their partner is more likely to get hurt or die if the man has no self-control.

[TJ1892]

I would not say either is any worse, jealous is never a good recipe especially in a relationship its like cooking a mac and cheese with the mac or cheese, it's only going to lead to conflict and tension. Which in the long one causes divide and you to potentially drift apart. It happens on both sides, neither is good.

But I'd also add on to that, a partner should NEVER give their other half any reason to be jealous or untrusting of the other👌

[Filthy_Immigrant]

judging from my experiences WOMEN all the way, especially if you live in a feminized country where women can do whatever the fuck they want when they want at not only will they get away with it but will get SUPPORT as well. and dont get me started on how the justice system doesn't help out at all in most of these nations, like women getting shorter sentence than men for committing the same crime just to start

[Beardedman1996]

Crazy thing is I personally have heard more crazy and violent jealousy stories from men, women hide their affairs or as will smiths wife would put it, “entanglements” a lot better, it’s not that the jealousy is unwarranted on either end it’s just women are more likely to the signs and become jealous because they know what other women are gunna do if they get the chance

[bamesjond0069]

How is it "dangerous"? Like they will shoot you or stab you? I mean then it would have to be the man because we have more physicality at our disposal to hurt someone with. Although I think a woman is more likely to use a weapon. So I don't know now. Ha.

[TenderFantasy]

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[Jaylenn]

Both, some girls like it a "tad" when guys are jealous. As long as it doesn't go overboard to having her be isolated from her friends and family... and flip the coin, same for the other side.

[Lynnfriend]

I am not sure what your asking, but over all men have more violent tendencies, a women may get mad but they usually get passed it, where as guy want revenge. Men are more dangerous because there generally stronger