I’m too scared to communicate with my boyfriend and ask for him when I need him right now cause I’m scared of messing things up with my anxiety?

[Anonymous]

I’m having an anxiety attack right now and I’m having chest pains and I feel terrible and I’m so anxious but I’m I can’t call my mum cause she’s working, my brothers not answering and I’m too scared to call my sisters or cousin cause I dunno

But I just want my boyfriend right now but he’s playing basketball in his yard and I’m so so scared of being needy and annoying him, and I know if I call and he doesn’t answer, I’ll panic even more but I just need him but I’m too scared to upset him or tell him how I’m feeling incase it’s needy and I just don’t want him to leave me cause of it and my anxiety

[Summeroflove]

No it’s alright you need to communicate and I’m sure he loves you and will understand. I would just give him a call.

I feel like you’re making yourself to be more then a burden then you really are. Which happens many times when people treat someone like they’re a burden. They won’t ask for help when needed from the people who do love you.

Especially I’m sure you’re there for him when he needs you. It’s perfectly fine to ask him for help.

But I would also recommend if you haven’t already have someone whose a professional hep you through things as well

[OlderAndWiser]

Why don't you discuss this with him when you are not in the middle of a panic attack?

[kylee2437]

Why take him not answering as solid rejection? People just aren’t always on their phone , that doesn’t mean he won’t call you later. Maybe it’s just a projection that you are always on your phone and you need to get off of it.

[kylee2437]

To add to this, I think you calling him for a full blown conversation while he is playing basketball is inappropriate. If you are calling during a time where you know he is doing something, it should be for emergencies only.

[KathrynTaylor]

Ok. Breathe in. Hold breath. Count to 5. Breathe out. Do this ten times. I’d also consider hypnotherapy. These are treatments that worked for me.

[boggboss]

Not really sure what u are looking for if u need him call its that simple if he is understanding he won't mind

[Asker]

I’m scared of annoying him or being too clingy

[boggboss]

Again if he is understanding he won't think that if not clearly u guys are not a good couple

[SnowedIn]

So do a hybrid. Call or text him but don't mention the anxiety. What it sounds like you need is just him, his presence. So call him. Just to talk. Or can you go to his yard and just sit near him?

[spartan55]

You have no business being in a relationship right now. The ability to communicate is a BASIC tenet in a relationship. Work on your anxiety and your communication before your next relationship.

[bowenw]

If he loves you he will be okay with you calling him.

[Bklynbadboy12]

First off I need you to just breathe that's the most important thing then just tell him and if you need to talk I'm here

[WhitneySnow]

You won’t scare him off. Just call him.

[Jennz6]

Do you need help?

[mommymommymommy]

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