Back up Boyfriend/Husband. Does anyone else besides me not have a backup?

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For me I could never have a back up "nice guy" friend that's ready to step into the breach just in case. I had a guy friend who tried to undermine my relationship with my husband and pulled some crappy stunts so he had to go. Turned out that was his game, he did this with other women looking for an opportunity to pounce such as the relationship was having trouble offering an a shoulder to cry on.

I think in a relationship or marriage you should be completely committed.

OfMiceandMen · Accepted Answer

I never had a back-up, how can a person be in a fully committed relationship if they have a back-up? I guess committed is the optional word.

Regardless, I couldn't fathom doing something like that to someone. Having a back-up, means the person already has plans to bounce...

Besides the stress of juggling two people - what they like don't like, scheduling conflicts, etc., it would just add to much drama to my life. Not to mention your playing around with the hearts of two other people (if they are expecting a committed relationship).

Not worth it!

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

The numbers don't look good for a dude that's just trying to do the relationship thing. I think it plays a huge part for the MGTOW guys that also know 50-60% of marriages end in divorce, 75% are initiated by women, and there's a good chance you'll get financially stripped. Then there is the unknown statistic of guys that just put up with it because they don't have a chance at any better chance.

musicbrain5 · Accepted Answer

What the heck is a back up boyfriend? Like someone you can rebound with right away? If you need to have a backup, you shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

I have never heard of this. I do not have a backup. 😂

MrCommodore · Answer

Its called Monkey branching, having a new relationship lined up before ending the current relationship.

Apparently women who are in unhappy relationships sometimes do this if a suitable alternative is available and interested.

I'm sure some men might too, but less common.

connemara_crocodile · Answer

Ohh the guy on the bench, waiting for someone to screw up to be called into the game...

No, I don't have a backup girlfriend neither I want one.

I do have a friend who I have, let's say, more intimacy than with other friends. We've seen each other naked, and talk about sex and stuff like that, sometimes we might even tease each other with pictures, but she's still a friend and she's been that for years, I wouldn't want it other way.

Pegases · Answer

Most modern women today have back up boyfriend's because there is usually a simp available. I think this is slowly changing as more and more women turn nice guys into assholes, and as the red pill becomes more popular, but nonetheless this is a very common dynamic with most modern women today.

bigrook · Answer

I think its easier to have or want a backup if both you and your significant other share the same sentiment. It makes things a lot easier. Also if you need a backup to your significant other, who's to say that you won't eventually need a backup to your backup.

AmeerX · Answer

Actually in my country this is the truest. She has a boyfriend, she has a second male bestie and if both don't work she has arranged marriage. Whichever brings the highest economic value.

This is the case with 90% Pakistani girls. Very few girls really believe in love rest believe in money 🙄

Part2603 · Answer

I'd be curious to know how close you and your friend were? How often would you two see each other or chat?

summiter · Answer

Irish... I do not have a backup and am happily married. When I was single I had a few friends with benefits relationships and I still fooled around ( I was incredibly horny) so maybe that counted as a backup. What are your thoughts?

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I’m single & accepting applications & if I were in a relationship I wouldn’t have a back up because it wouldn’t be fair on the lucky lady I was in the relationship with.

exitseven · Answer

I dpo not have a backup. When i am in- I'm IN>

electromagnetic · Answer

I do not have a backup. My front up is my backup. If he doesn’t work out, back to the drawing board. Or maybe I’ll become a cat lady.

dustybiker · Answer

Sounds like a modern concept. Or merely click bait. If I was a man I wouldn’t worry too much.

SnowedIn · Answer

Wow. I didn't even know that was a thing. :( No. I enjoy having friends but def not a backup.

AydenHazor · Answer

I would never have a "backup". I am good friends with many women, and would never look to be their backup either. I will be there to support them if needed, but from our friendship and nothing more.

genericname85 · Answer

well what if instead of "backup" you call it "options". do you have that?

Anonymous · Answer

A backup? Damn that’s sad  If I break up or get divorced i will be with someone new only.. unless I like them

sheenagwapa · Answer

i believe in Jesus i don't have back up... He will provide anyone for me

Nikki1989 · Answer

There are some men that think all women in relationships have a back-up, it is utter nonsense.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I don't even have the hard drive let alone the back up.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I don't have a backup girlfriend. I have my wife and only my wife

nawtee_me · Answer

why the hell do you need a back up? If he is not doing his job get rid of him and get one who will

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