For me I could never have a back up "nice guy" friend that's ready to step into the breach just in case. I had a guy friend who tried to undermine my relationship with my husband and pulled some crappy stunts so he had to go. Turned out that was his game, he did this with other women looking for an opportunity to pounce such as the relationship was having trouble offering an a shoulder to cry on.
I think in a relationship or marriage you should be completely committed.
I never had a back-up, how can a person be in a fully committed relationship if they have a back-up? I guess committed is the optional word.
Regardless, I couldn't fathom doing something like that to someone. Having a back-up, means the person already has plans to bounce...
Besides the stress of juggling two people - what they like don't like, scheduling conflicts, etc., it would just add to much drama to my life. Not to mention your playing around with the hearts of two other people (if they are expecting a committed relationship).
Not worth it!
The numbers don't look good for a dude that's just trying to do the relationship thing. I think it plays a huge part for the MGTOW guys that also know 50-60% of marriages end in divorce, 75% are initiated by women, and there's a good chance you'll get financially stripped. Then there is the unknown statistic of guys that just put up with it because they don't have a chance at any better chance.
u What the heck is a back up boyfriend? Like someone you can rebound with right away? If you need to have a backup, you shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.
I have never heard of this. I do not have a backup. 😂
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You shouldn’t have a backup if you’re exclusively with someone. If you break up or something. Then you can start searching.
Its called Monkey branching, having a new relationship lined up before ending the current relationship.
Apparently women who are in unhappy relationships sometimes do this if a suitable alternative is available and interested.
I'm sure some men might too, but less common.
Ohh the guy on the bench, waiting for someone to screw up to be called into the game...
No, I don't have a backup girlfriend neither I want one.
I do have a friend who I have, let's say, more intimacy than with other friends. We've seen each other naked, and talk about sex and stuff like that, sometimes we might even tease each other with pictures, but she's still a friend and she's been that for years, I wouldn't want it other way.
Most modern women today have back up boyfriend's because there is usually a simp available. I think this is slowly changing as more and more women turn nice guys into assholes, and as the red pill becomes more popular, but nonetheless this is a very common dynamic with most modern women today.
I think its easier to have or want a backup if both you and your significant other share the same sentiment. It makes things a lot easier. Also if you need a backup to your significant other, who's to say that you won't eventually need a backup to your backup.
Actually in my country this is the truest. She has a boyfriend, she has a second male bestie and if both don't work she has arranged marriage. Whichever brings the highest economic value.
This is the case with 90% Pakistani girls. Very few girls really believe in love rest believe in money 🙄
I'd be curious to know how close you and your friend were? How often would you two see each other or chat?
Irish... I do not have a backup and am happily married. When I was single I had a few friends with benefits relationships and I still fooled around ( I was incredibly horny) so maybe that counted as a backup. What are your thoughts?
I do not have a backup. My front up is my backup. If he doesn’t work out, back to the drawing board. Or maybe I’ll become a cat lady.
I’m single & accepting applications & if I were in a relationship I wouldn’t have a back up because it wouldn’t be fair on the lucky lady I was in the relationship with.
It is even disrespectful for a woman in a committed relationship to collect too many male orbiter’s.
Now, at the same time, a woman’s partner must understand that one or two close friends are just that and have been friend zoned. These friend zoned men should be respectful enough to recognize that and not risk the woman kicking them to the curb.
I dpo not have a backup. When i am in- I'm IN>
i believe in Jesus i don't have back up... He will provide anyone for me
Sounds like a modern concept. Or merely click bait. If I was a man I wouldn’t worry too much.
Wow. I didn't even know that was a thing. :( No. I enjoy having friends but def not a backup.
I would never have a "backup". I am good friends with many women, and would never look to be their backup either. I will be there to support them if needed, but from our friendship and nothing more.
Some women make an adult son their backup. Sometimes it starts with innocent breastfeeding and advances into something more. This is more of a European thing, though.
I don't even have the hard drive let alone the back up.
A backup? Damn that’s sad
If I break up or get divorced i will be with someone new only.. unless I like them
u There are some men that think all women in relationships have a back-up, it is utter nonsense.
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