Can a relationship in your twenties be serious if you dont live together?

[anabellle]

Yes

No

A total of 85 votes were cast: 41 girls and 44 guys. See detailed results

[Screenwriter]

Living together is no guarantee of "seriousness." Studies have shown that most people who live together are playing house and don't actually begin serious relationships until they marry or otherwise establish a "permanent" relationship.

Living together is usually a temporary state. That's why it's called "living together." Roommates "live together." But that's a financial arrangement entered into to save money on housing costs.

Though living together is usually MORE than being a roommate, it is often only a step beyond being one.

The only difference between roommates and a couple living together is the sexual aspect engaged in, and in some cases, roommates do the same thing.

There is no "practice" for being a committed couple, except BEING a committed couple. Couples who live together do not behave the same after marriage, studies indicate. There is more egalitarian behavior evinced during living together and that behavior usually wanes after marriage and couples behave like THEIR parents: the couples they tend to emulate, unless they actively seek to BE different.

[jennifer_bloom]

My cousin had a Jewish neighbour who dated her boyfriend for 6 years without seeing him naked. They got married when they turned 24.

[caring__1]

How serious people feel has nothing to do with their circumstances. Being serious is something we create and nurture within ourselves. It's the emotional and caring connection and bond we build together.

The key challenge with living apart and dating is how easy it is to be on one's best behavior for the limited time together. When you're living with someone, the real person can't be hidden indefinitely. You'll see aspects you never saw before. Though basic compatibility can be determined prior to living together, true compatibility will never be known until you are living together.

[Guy13]

I understand what you mean about not living together and the level of commitment.
I think it is the opposite though. It seems to me that it requires much more attention to detail and commitment in regular dating than living together. People get really comfortable and tend to take the other for granted when they move in together.

It takes lots of effort to maintain a relationship where they are not residing in the same place.

[MrOracle]

Have the two of you discussed your life goals? Have you made plans for your near-term and long-term future, and are you both actively working to achieve those goals? Cohabitation isn't strictly necessary, but planning and working towards your goals IS necessary. If you aren't doing that, you aren't serious.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Of course they can be! How serious a relationship is doesn't depend on whether or not you're living together. It's about the connection, commitment, etc. between two partners.

[Weapon77]

Yes, and honestly, it's actually much better if you don't live together until you are certain you want to be married or cohabitate. Never rush into living together just to feel serious.

[weysally]

my now husband and I had our own homes, though we had sex and stayed at each others home, we still looked after and did our own chores, plus we had space to think things over,

[slatyb]

What does "serious" mean? Exclusive? Expecting that it will be permanent? Planning to marry or cohabit?

[TrueConfection]

Of course! My husband and I didn't live together until after we got married.

[Paulalove98]

It still can, after all rushing to live together right away is never a healthy or great idea.

[WhitneySnow]

I think so. You don’t need to live together to be serious

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah. Moving in together is a stage of progression in a relationship. You don’t need it in order to be “serious”

[exitseven]

Yes, I had two serious relationships in my 20s and did not cohabitate with either.

[Ms_Facesitter]

of course, you're not expected to live together right away?

[AsaKyo]

A relationship is as serious as you make it

[Anonymous]

Only relationship that is serious is a relationship of contractual commitment. Nothing else is a "relationship" let alone "serious".

[CuriousMufuxka]

No. I've tried it and it doesn't fuckin work. But go ahead and find out for yourself :)

[michael00007]

Of course it can be rather should be coz its more closer to being married in about 6 7 years soo..

[shakeZ]

Because while it’s serious to you is not to them. People grow up slowly. The wages we make as 20-29 year olds is hardly enough to support a family.

[DavidRaul]

Yes it definitely can get serious

[Anonymous]

i really don't see why not.

[Opinion Owner]

why the disagree? you can be in a very serious relationship without having to live with them...

[Anonymous]

Of course, and why not?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, it can be

[CoolCatMar1]

Yes why not

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Yeah.