Do u think age matters in relationships?

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Yes it does

No age is just a number

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Does age matter in a relationship?
What about 18 and 38?

[zeitgeist057]

You're not really clear with this question. I think most people are assuming you are talking about age GAP, but you could also mean just age as in kids having relationships, teens, 20s, 30s, 40s, &c. But either way, the answer is kind of the same:

It's more about the individuals, on a case-by-case basis, than to make a blanket statement about all people. Different people age differently, and mature (or don't) differently. You can make some generalizations like in general, younger people have less of an idea about relationships and what works for them and how to communicate. Older people tend to be more set in their ways and know what they want, which can be good for boundaries, but can also be seen as inflexible or stubborn. Or that younger people tend to be more wild, and older people more stable. But there are always exceptions to these generalizations.

I have known people who were younger/same age/older, who I've had nothing in common with, and also others I've had a lot in common with.

I really connect with my grandma, who is old. But not really with my grandpa, who is about the same age. I have romantic partners who were >10 years younger than me, but never felt like "I can't relate to you because you're too young." or vice vs. I've also interacted with people older than these aforementioned partners, of whom I thought, "this person is really immature, and I can't really hang out with them; can't connect/relate to them.". I have friends, family, and romantic relationships who are all over the age board.

Obviously society is about "being normal" and fitting in, so any deviation from that "normal" status is going to get frown on, and the bigger the deviation, the more judging and frowning will take place.

[zeitgeist057]

In regards to your update, my answer still applies. On a case by case basis, but sure, 18 and 38 could be totally fine. I dated (19F) when I was (34M), and we had no age-gap related issues. Her dad was the only one who said anything to us negative about it, and even he liked me and we got along, but he said “you’re too old for her”. Which was fine, his opinion, but we didn’t hang out with him except on holidays, and didn’t base our relationship on his opinion. His judgement wasn’t based on us and our interactions, it was simply based on the numbers (our ages in years).

[inhua]

barring the legal AOC, once you become an adult you are old enough to drive, to drink alcohol, to own your property, to join the military, to vote in elections, to do whatever job you want even if it's pornography, to make your own choices in life. you are also old enough to get charged with a crime as an adult if you commit such things. people will make excuses to infantilize an 18 yo in a relationship but they'd never make those same excuses if that 18 yo committed a crime say shoots dead an 80 yo.

[Apple1996]

Yeah it's been proven that large age gaps will cause relationships to fail. Always better to be with someone close in age to yourself so it's easier to relate/walk through life with each other

[Apple1996]

18 to 38 year old is just creepy🤢

[melanieeeB]

Yes definitely! And 18 and 38 is grooming and not a relationship. The other one is a pedophile/predator using a teen who is more "impressionable" aka easy to control. Smh just disgusting.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, there is no way you should be dating a 15 year old boy. Sometimes, age is important.

[OlderAndWiser]

18 and 38? Why do you think the 38 is in that relationship?

[Avicenna]

At the extremes, yes, it generally does

[HighValue]

There are more failed relationships with close ages than there are of large age gaps. If close in age really mattered, almost everyone would still be with the person they dated in high school, even 20 or 30 years later.

The time when age matters is if you want to have healthy kids with someone. So guys shouldn't start a new relationship with a woman past 30 and women shouldn't start a new relationship with someone past 50.

Other than that, it is fine. What matters most is moral compatibility, long term life goal compatibility, and having some things in common you enjoy doing together.

[Berethor]

Didn't it well known that men tend to prefer young women? so it matter, especially to men.

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[FunkyMonkee]

Sort of, to a degree. If they REALLY love each other, it doesn't matter. But, it IS better to be with someone at least close to your age. Like, within 10 or 15 years. People that make a big stink over a difference of 1 to 10 years are usually still in (or, just out of) grade school where one year makes a HUGE difference.

[FunkyMonkee]

What ABOUT 18 and 38? Jerry Lewis's last wife was in her 30's and he was in his 60's.
Have you ever seen the movie, "Harold & Maude"? He was around 20 and she was in her late 60's or early 70's. Love trumps age!

[bamesjond0069]

Yes. Man must be older and the bigger gap the better as long as he's not like 90.

Same age or woman older relationships make no sense in terms of serious considerations. Fun casual stuff sure but serious? Not at all. Fucking weird if you ask me.

[Wendy_1986]

I very much agree with your point of view. The age of men in communication must not be too young. Men tend to mature later than women. Only when they reach relative maturity can their ideas and concepts be richer

[bamesjond0069]

@Wendy_1986 yes. Like what woman wants to be with some 20 y o dude? Lmao

[Wendy_1986]

Of course, those who are with 20-year-old men just like young bodies and don't think about long-term relationship development

[bamesjond0069]

@Wendy_1986 right. It's purely casual sex focused.

Which is funny because I'm far better in bed at 36 than I was at 20. But... lmfao

[RockyHammock]

Age does matter, just think how many things would a 70 year old have in common with someone who is 20?

Not to mention old age brings a tide of age related diseases like dementia that isn't even on the average 20 year olds mind.

[gorydetails]

So yes, and no. Until you hit a certain age, it's more about the stages of life.

Let's take a 10-year age gap.

A 50-year-old and a 40-year-old is no big deal.

A 20-year-old and a 10-year-old is a HUGE deal.

[TheVigilantFox]

Age is important in a relationship people who say it’s not are probably nonces.

[Fireguy17]

to some degree yes it does.
A 70 year old dating a 20 something is just weird.
My wife and I are 9 years apart, we didn't know each other's age when we first started dating, and I have dated 11 years younger, as well as older than myself.

[electromagnetic]

I’ve never dated men well above my age but I can see the appeal. I don’t think she matters much though.

[KittyKat90210]

I don't think it matters assuming both people are adults. There may be less in common between them if the age gap is too big, though.

[Adam1978]

Well age hopefully give maturity and wisdom. And that makes couples to far apart on those scales unfit for each other.

[linka_pat307]

Am ready to be with someone who loves me and trusts and respects me

[rabbitzzz]

Yah, what was ones teenage foolishness is creepy pervertness when you are old. Guys, teen age time is best time to simp. You have all your life to build a career.

[AsaKyo]

If you're like 10 and 25, yeah

If you're like 17 and 20, eh who cares?

If you're like 25 and I don't know, like 32, awesome lmao

[MissHope]

At least in the relationship both partners should be mentally compatible if there’s any age gap between them to make it work.

[DizzyDesii]

For me it does! Same age preferably but no more than 0-3 year gap

[DizzyDesii]

18 and 38 is just nasty. Thats a parent and kid

[NostalgiaSenpi]

After you're all adults it shouldn't be an issue. Age gap be damned. I knew a married couple that were eleven years apart and were together for thirty seven years until he passed at eighty.

[loveslongnails]

Age matters to a point, indeed. An 18 - 38 , 20 year gap on either gender is going to fail. You'd have a shot if it were 55 and 75! LOL

[LiamJHayden]

It depends upon the couple, but for most, more that a few years seems to often introduce problems.

[BJP21]

The short answer NO. The last couple of people I tried to date it did and it was only a 5 year age gap.

[Anonymous]

It's relevant. I think generally a gap larger than 10 years. Is too much. But I think life experience matters more than age.

[Kinkyhubby]

I hope not, im 12 years older then my wife, but when I met her, she acted way older then her age.

[Tellme]

I don't think it matters as long as both partners are adults and have similar interests.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

No it’s the maturity of the person that’s most important

[Twalli]

More than a 10 year age difference is cause for concern

[Dreamer_xo]

Depends. I’m 26 my boyfriend is 20 we have a 14 year age gap. But I’m grown and can do as I please

[Dreamer_xo]

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[panamared1]

It only matters if you let it, if it matters it's not a good relationship

[Anonymous]

Yeah to a degree and how much of difference in age there is

[Anonymous]

Before you are an adult, yes; after you are both adults, nope.

[Opinion Owner]

I would date an 18 year old

[Blackcupcake]

as long as both are of legal age, then no.

[sheenagwapa]

i'm scared to answer this i'll be punished again

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on the people.

[Anonymous]

Not in the beginning.

[halfroots]

As long as they are over 18, it doesn't matter

[michael00007]

Only over 18?

[halfroots]

Yeah so a 18 and a 19 year old can Date. But ones like 20 and 16 thats weird

[michael00007]

I mean why not if they are cool?

[halfroots]

No that's not cool.

[michael00007]

Lol. That's like you're jus not thinking the 21st Century generation should.

[halfroots]

What?

[SpaceGalaxy]

no, wrinkles in your body matter.