The only issue is that when we get into fights and end up breaking up (3 times in 3 years) he’d contact girls specifically this one girl. it’s always her for whatever reason that I can’t understand but focus so much time trying to. we didn’t speak for 2 days and he told everyone we’re done which killed me because I know we love each other. we decided to talk and give our stuff back and discussed everything. we were able to see eye to eye and figure out what the core issues were, like lack of emotional maturity for example. While he was against getting back together, he had a change of heart and said that he’d regret it if he left and didn’t try to make it work. However after hearing him say he doesn’t this made me feel uneasy because it felt impulsive. I told him to take time for himself to explore his options and see if she’s something he wants. He was adamant that he didn’t but I just wanted him to try so that he really knew and this way she’d be off the table if it ever got to this point. He said that he talked to her as a way to distract himself. He said that while he was talking to her he just felt even worse because their convos weren’t like ours. He said that he didn’t talk about me just told her how he was in his feelings and felt at his lowest. This worries me more though because it shows he’s able to vent to her and not me.
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I don’t know what to do. I want to work at this. I want to fix things. I want him to know what he wants which he says is me but I need that chapter with her to be gone and done because I can’t move forward. Now we’ve decided to take this slow, as he says he wants molasses slow, just to get to a point where we’re happy again. We used to hangout everyday, talk everyday, and now I notice more distance. Is the distance a bad thing?
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