When you get older and looks fade are you supposed to choose a partner for whats on the inside?

[Anonymous]

As you age do you look for something deeper than looks?

Yes

No

[nitsuj86]

I used to date solely on looks. I have dated a lot of beautiful women. One thing they almost all have in common... They are complete pains in the ass / mostly useless outside of sex.

And when you can't stand to be around someone, their hotness doesn't really matter after a while. You won't want to sleep with someone you don't like.

Someone who is so attractive, that they are able to get away with bad behavior because others allow it. They develop shitty personalities as a result, and as a man, I hope you like paying for everything.

Find a girl you find attractive, that you enjoy spending time with. Most married life seems to be chilling at home watching tv, or something like that. So find someone you can be bored with.

[TenderFantasy]

Yes of course. that's biology. Unfortunately things in life, either from past choices one's made or just unfortunate genetics, usually determine how one is going to age or look by a certain time, not to mention having to accept your partner's past! With that said, what can you really go with in that relationship? ! Certainly not their wrinkles, age spots, hunchbacks, osteoperosis, diabeties, cancer-proned bodies and other nasty sad illnesses that creep up if they don't watch out and be careful with their body and life! Gotta be LUCKY to reach 100 haha. VERY lucky.

[jennifer_bloom]

My friend said this very well, I told him Naomi Campbell had anger management issues and would physically assault her servants and he said, "they are mostly all like that." When a girl gets infinite attention cause she is pretty or when a guy gets infinite girls cause he's rich, there is a high chance they are high maintenance and hard to live with. It's why many people purposely pick less attractive partners, even most doctors do this. An easy going janitor is easier to live with than a bad tempered surgeon that hits and screams and yells and bites.

[AviatorTom]

Looks are nice but you should always choose your partner based on what's on the inside. That's true for any age.

[OlderAndWiser]

No. You are "supposed to" do that when you are younger.

[Guy13]

No brain child do it while you can when good looking...

[Avicenna]

You should do that even when you're young

[Xoxocutekitty]

I said no because I never really based my choices off of "looks."

When younger, i did however gravitate towards personality characteristics such as ambition, intelligence, competitiveness, humor, and even a dash of arrogance (viewed as an abundance of confidence).

Now that I'm older, I'm much more attracted to things like kindness, stability, agreeableness, politeness, conscientiousness, and maturity. The latter often make much more pleasant long term 'relationship oriented' partners.

[Haha456]

In all honesty, i dont think the obsession with looks ever changes. Its just that as folks get older, they tend to have less options in dating. Therefore, they are forced to have lower standards when it comes to looks. Lets all be honest, why else would you date someone you dont enjoy looking at?

[Asker]

Yeah, I think you have to accept someone less attractive with age.
Otherwise you end up with nobody.

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 For women. Men's options typically increase as they get older because they are able to date along a wider age range than women.

[Haha456]

@Vegasrunner

I'm not attracted to old men. Neither are vast majority of young women. Just being honest.

[Haha456]

@Asker

Falling in deeply love with someone who isn't very physically attractive is totally possible. I have seen it happen to older folks. However, you need to realize that the pickier you are, the less likely you will end up with anyone at all.

[Sunssong]

@Vegasrunner Generalization. People can do what they want.

[LiamJHayden]

"why else would you date someone you dont enjoy looking at?"

She's blast to be around. A great conversationalist. A great cook. Has a four octave vocal range. I can think of lots of reasons.

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 You can only speak for yourself so what u mean to say is your just giving your opinion. Besides as we proved earlier no one is attracted to old women at all so your point is irrelevant. Men as long as they do the work can pull women at about any age whereas women only have a short shelf life.

[Haha456]

@Vegasrunner

I speak for vast majority of young women. We are not attracted to old guys. It explains why most men get married and have kids prior to 40.
This is the reality you can't accept

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 So you're saying I speak for the vast majority of men? For starters I don't think u would be considered "young by men. Secondly if what you were saying is true tjam why have I had success banging so many women younger than me? You're speaking from a place of humiliation because it's embarrassing for u to realize that your value decreases as you age. Which is fair because younger men have less value in society as well, the issue you're facing though is that younger men don't typically choose older women while it's much more common for younger women to choose older men.

[Haha456]

@Vegasrunner

I speak for the vast majority of women. Men get married when they are young in their 20-30s, not 40 -50s

[Vegasrunner]

@Sunssong I'm not sure what your referring to. Did you tag the correct person?

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 You may speak for lonely bitter women on GAG but you have no real life experiences to draw from. Men may get married the first time when they are in their 20's, but that's why so many get divorced by their wives. In reality a man shouldn't get married until he's atcleast 35 has had sex with 50 women has saved at least 6 months of funds and has held a career for at least two years most 20 year Olds aren't going to have any of those which is why so many end up divorced. Overall marriage is only valuable to women which is why u keep bringing it up, men don't need to get married as Ling as they keep a roster of women and if they do the work they can keep a roster until they die. It's women who have a short shelf life of value that they need to capitalize on.

[Haha456]

@Vegasrunner

just go check marriage records. it will show that vast majority of men get married and have kids in their 20-30s. its not something you can just argue with.

its just that you have been rejected by women your entire life so thats why you feel the need to come onto GAG and spread your hatred for women.

I"m not attracted to you, so go fuck off.

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 Sounds like you're the only one arguing about marriage which makes sense, seeing how you've been unable to obtain something u deem is important.
It's unfortunate that you feel hated but I have no reason to hate anyone. You feel this way because you've never been able to lock down a man of value so all your exprience comes from interacting w/ lower tier guys that boost your ego because of their own insecurities proof is u talking about attraction for me which is strange seeing how I never mentioned anything about attraction for you. This just highlights your own bitterness and insecurities which is standard as women like you age, realizing they can't compete w/ younger women.

[Haha456]

@Vegasrunner

you hate on women because you get rejected by women all the time. you probably are ugly as fuck not only at your age right now but also when you were young (in your prime).

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 That is certainly a view u are welcome to make up, unfortunately by telling me things I know to be factually false you're only devaluing your own credibility on other subjects while simultaneously highlighting your on failures. If you want to discuss my experience w/ women not only would you be wrong, but also validating my own beliefs. The fact that u claim I'm '"probably" ugly just proves to the reader that you're willing to make baseless claims led by an inability to control your emotions. I'm aware of this because of my vast exprience with women my entire life including being one of the most successful promoters in Vegas a former College Bball athlete, and successful business owner. You're frustration and attacks stem from your lack of success in your own life evident by the fact that despite spending so much time trying to tell me how important marriage is no one has settled for you. What's even odder is you're attempting to take a negative view of my life yet you have never once heard me make any complaint about any struggles which tells me you've never associated w/ any man of any success who has actually wanted you and only know failure.

[Haha456]

@Vegasrunner

I can tell you have no luck in dating because you're a miserable loser who dedicates his life to shitting on others.

you think a happy person satisfied with his life would do that? NO

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 Lol, I think it's interesting how important it is for u to pretend you know anything about dating at all. This is the perfect example of women living in delusion. You got some info that hurt your feelings and the only way to rationalize it is to create a phony belief. I think it's also telling that u are attempting to convince me that I have "no luck" in dating even though I've never once mentioned anything to support that. Perhaps because you've never been able to associate yourself w/ men of value u have to believe all men are as valueless as the ones u can attract?

[Haha456]

@Vegasrunner

Because You sound nothing like happy. Quite funny how you dont think anyone notices

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 Lol, you're behavior is an excellent teaching tool for men. Notice how it's you telling me that I'm "unhappy" when in fact 100% of my comments to u have been about the success that I've had w/ women. If anyone actually reads your comments they will quickly notice it's all immature insults and POV's based on your limited life experience. Furthermore you're the one that's failed to accomplish a goal that u have deemed important (marriage) while I've been widely successful w/ the goal I deem important (banging chicks). Are conversation is based on u telling me this isn't true because it hurts your feelings. A lot of times when a women is miserable she will attempt to transfer that misery. You're entire argument is based around telling me what I don't do simply because it hurts your feelings to find out that men and women aren't equal. It's also telling that on a site where thousands of men wine about not getting chicks u get triggered by a man saying he does get chicks. (Which is important for men to recognize) Women will often times just lie, simply because the truth hurts. Your "belief" is simply a reflection of your personal social surroundings as u just haven't been around HV to understand how ez it is, and you're not hot enough to keep one. Also it's telling that you have to rely on the hypothetical opinions of others, I've never concerned myself for one second w/ the options of those on an anonymous SM forum, but apparently those opinions are important to u?

[Chthou95]

People will say yes because that's what society does best. Programs people to think a certain way about things. There's no rule saying you have to. As long as you do whatever you have to do (raising your value) that gives you the options to date younger women, go for it. And if people cry about that, tough shit. You dont have to abide by every rule society has for humanity

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I think looks are imp at any age as it plays major role in attraction.

But as you tend to get older you have less patience for bullshit and you want to spend a life that is easier at home because you are already hustling in your external life with world you don't need that at home again.

And thanks to make up 😂 you are whole new person when you apply and remove it

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Dude, you say this like you haven't been doing this from the start. Are you just that shallow of a person that you only think personality matters when you're old? It doesn't factor into your attraction to someone?

[Asker]

Maybe i am shallow.
Of course I like the young pretty girls, I like them with a nice personality too.
Now I'm older, it's not possible to get those girls.
I guess I have to look beyond physicality now.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Wow, that’s a real fucked up mindset you got there

[smashleyy]

All comes down to the individual. I’ve never been good at superficial relationships, I always find myself wanting more. have had plenty of failed talking stages with some real fine looking men cause they just didn’t have a thought behind those eyes

[DizzyDesii]

I’ll accept their looks fading if we’re already married. But if i was like 40 and single then im still gonna want a hot 40 year old dude. They’re rare but they exist

[Fireguy17]

you are supposed to do that when you are young, then you won't have to worry about having to do it all over again when your former beauty queen looks like she was used hard and out away wet.

[LivDev]

[boombastik]

Yes I look for something deeper but I still won't sacrifice on the looks much but I've always had a thing for middle aged women so now that I'm middle aged I'm not gonna change that.

[molonski2]

Nothing to do with age , looks are just one part of it , but you always need to look for much more if you want a relationship.

[mobiusforniner]

My karmann ghia is 54 years old. Its quite the opposite. Looks gorgeous on the outside but shitty little gas guzzling engine on the inside. Lol

[JamesHarrys]

Looks always fades. A good partner is a loving and supportive one. It's still important, but it shouldn't be the main focus.

[IknowthatIdontKnow09]

I can be physically attracted to women of any age between 25 and 65 years old... i have 55 and single

[GrapeBandit]

I always choose for something deeper. Looks are a great bonus.

[LiamJHayden]

Should always do that anyway. Beauty is only skin deep. Ugly goes though to the marrow.

[LiamJHayden]

through. Good grief I need an edit button.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Physical appearance is definitely top priority when choosing a woman to be with but it doesn't trump personality.

A disgusting personality will ruin good physical looks.

[Mangospacho]

Looks fade, yeah, but it’s not like your spouse suddenly becomes ugly the day she turns 35 and you’re completely unattracted to her.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

You’re supposed to die alone because you should’ve secured a real relationship before it has faded

[Nikki1989]

You should do that at any age.

[Asker]

When your looks have gone with age, I don't think you have a choice but to look deeper.

[noemiii]

You do have a choice if you’re rich.

[domenico07]

As i get older, I care about my looks less and less and no longer take life seriously

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

You are always supposed to chose a partner based on who they are more than on how they look.

[msc545]

As you age and hopefully AQUIRE WISDOM you look for more than appearance.

[Anonymous]

They should be doing it when they are young, otherwise we just turn them down anyways.

[Minahh]

I always look for something deeper