Is it ok to feel upset when we mostly spend time with his friends?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. I am studying in another city and come back on weekends. And he is working on the weekdays.

When I get back home and I meet up with him, we usually end up hanging out with his friends which is starting to get frustrating. Even for the first month of 2023, I was off of university for some time, yet still we only met up on weekdays (that's fine he's working) but not once we had a day just the two of us.

I tried talking about this to him, but he made an excuse that everyone gets home on weekends and he is trying to meet with everyone, but he will try.

After that talk still for some time I didn't get quality time with him. Moving fast forward he expanded his friend group, and even though we spend some time together (not so often) he just started to meet up with his friends more often without me.

I voiced this problem several times, and I am tired of this. And mostly because I am not a people person and I cannot be around many people for a long time like him.

I do not want to end the relationship tho. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to feel upset and frustrated when you're not getting enough quality time with your partner, especially if you're not a people person and find it difficult to be around many people for a long time. It's important to continue communicating your feelings with your boyfriend, and to work together to find a solution that works for both of you.

One approach could be to set aside specific times for just the two of you, where you can do activities that you both enjoy and focus on your relationship without distractions. You can also express your need for alone time and ask your boyfriend to respect that so that you can recharge and feel more comfortable being around his friends.

It's also important to remember that relationships require compromise and understanding, and it may be helpful to try and find ways to enjoy spending time with his friends that work for you as well. For example, you could suggest doing activities that you enjoy with his friends, or finding ways to limit the time you spend in large groups.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to continue communicating openly and honestly with your partner about your needs and feelings, and to work together to find a solution that works for both of you.

[Guy13]

Yes and there is no reason that this time should not be shared. Realize, there will be an increased temptation in the form of your friends.
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[stratford]

Talk it through, understand each other's perspective.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him about it work it out

[In_Trance]

Yeah