Do you think I should just do this?

[Anonymous]

So I am 24 and I live with my parents. I am seeing a guy and he is getting a hotel for us in the city so that we can make love together. I really want to spend some time with him but I dont want my parents to think that i am having casual sex with a guy so I was thinking about telling them that i have to stay in my close friends house for a night to mind her dogs. Do you think I should do this?

[Anonymous]

It’s important to prioritize honesty and communication in your relationships, especially with your parents. While it's understandable that you may feel uncomfortable discussing your sex life with your parents, it's important to consider the potential risks and consequences of lying or misleading them about your plans.

It may be helpful to have an honest and open conversation with your parents about your intentions and desires, and to express your respect for their values and boundaries while also asserting your own independence and autonomy. It's possible that they may be more understanding and supportive than you expect, and that they may appreciate your honesty and maturity in approaching the situation.

If you are not comfortable discussing your plans with your parents, it may be helpful to consider alternative options, such as finding a different place to stay or adjusting your plans to align with your values and boundaries. Remember, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, while also maintaining respect and consideration for others in your life.

[AviatorTom]

I agree with @EmmaMary. Tell them you're going to spend some time with your boyfriend in the city. You don't need to be explicit.

[Anonymous]

You need to marry him so you don't need to lie to your parents about this only to regret due to guilt later. Guilt is real and it always makes you feel you done something unacceptable. So ask him to marry you and then tell your parents that you wanna marry him and get hitched and you can make love with him endlessly. He doesn't even need to book hotels cheaply to make love before marriage. Only after marriage no one can point you out and you have legal right to make love or have sex with him after you marry him. This generation got so damaged that you people think it's fine to have sex before marriage or make love before marriage. Not even Bible supports that. Follow what I suggested so you don't live a sinful life

[IveGotNoName]

At 24 you should be able to tell your parents that you need alone time with your boyfriend, and if you can't do that, I think it's time to move out.

[EmmaMary]

You're 24 years old, a grown woman, simply tell them the truth.

[slatyb]

Tell them whatever you like. You are an adult. Maybe it's time for you to move out? Or just tell them -- I'm going out, I'll be gone overnight.

[Kyr0s]

Is this a guy who has at least committed to marrying you?

[EmmaMary]

What has this got to do with anything?

[Kyr0s]

Well, it's generally not a good idea to sleep with someone who isn't committed to you. Not only with regard to future pair bonding issues, sexual diseases and future trauma but also because it will reduce the chances of anyone stable committing later on. Common sense and science.

[EmmaMary]

What a load of Bollox.

[Kyr0s]

It is the truth. Feel free to look up relevant studies/ask serious guys.

[EmmaMary]

I don't need to look anything up... Other than for religious and culture reasons, it's complete and utter nonsense.

[Kyr0s]

Right. So you're refusing to look up facts. Cool.

[EmmaMary]

To save me wasting my time, why don't you give me the links... Thank you.

[Kyr0s]

Use chat gpt and find it yourself. Studies on pair bonding and number of sexual partners, studies on the number of sexual partners and relationship satisfaction, studies on number of sexual partners and divorce rates as well as surveys of men on the body counts their wife should have.

[EmmaMary]

Goodbye. smh

[Kyr0s]

Run along.

[EmmaMary]

Just two words, and the second one is Off.

[Kyr0s]

Yup. Right back at you. Such a turn off.

[Smartgirl_hey]

@kyr0s You're right. A girl shouldn't sleep with a guy before marrying him

[Yellovv]

Are you in conservative family?

[Smartgirl_hey]

She needs to follow conservative family guidelines. She shouldn't sleep with him without letting her parents know

[Yellovv]

@Smartgirl_hey That's what I am saying...

[Molly1997]

Sure