Is my boyfriend right or wrong?

[Anastacia1989]

Currently I am working from home and I’m doing pretty ok I would say…life isn’t perfect but it’s good for now.
my bfs brother kept meddling in our relationship since last summer and asked me when I’m moving in with my boyfriend even before I had the opportunity to formally meet the parents…

now ever since Christmas break when my bfs bro kept questioning him about what I do for work my boyfriend has been pressuring me to find an hourly paying job outside the home In order for us to move in together later on….

is my boyfriend right or wrong? Or does he need to tell his brother to back off?

Wrong - his bro needs to back off

Right - about finding work and moving forward together

Other - explain.

[BarryLiverstone]

It depends on your goals as a couple moving forward. You currently work from home, are you making as much per month as you would be if you got a new job outside of your home?

[Anastacia1989]

Well I’m not ready to move out if my home anytime soon even if I did have an hourly paying job

[Anastacia1989]

My boyfriend doesn’t want me bringing any hair clients to his appartment and thinks it’s not a real job working from home…he was saying everyone in his family works

[Sevenpointfive]

it depends on what you do for a living. working from home can pay very well or not at all.

[Anastacia1989]

I do hairstyling - hair cuts, colour, root touch ups, straightening and blow drys….. also social media work….
My boyfriend thinks it’s not a real job for me cuz he wants me to move in with him but I’m not yet ready…. what’s do you think of that?

[Sevenpointfive]

it really doesn't matter what anyone thinks unless it's going to cause a crisis.

[Anastacia1989]

My boyfriend wants me to move in with him and wants me to find work outside the hime

[Anastacia1989]

Things are ok right now but he’s been pressuring me since his brother opens up his mouth…. what do you think of that?

[Sevenpointfive]

it's starting to sound a lot more like you have a problem with his brother. i could tell you the easy way of dealing with this or the hard way. it seems like he'll choose his brother over you. i don't know why that is. but he's making no effort to say fuck off to him.

[Anastacia1989]

What’s an easy effective way of dealing with his bro?

[Anastacia1989]

He tells me all the time that his brother meddles and he himself gets annoyed and aggravated with him…. yet he hasn’t told him to fuck off although he did argue back to him when he was interfering with me taking the bus home

[Anastacia1989]

Ya right from day 1 his bro kept asking why I haven’t moved in yet, that his younger bro shouldn’t be paying so much attention to me unless I move in, why I take the bus instead of his younger bro driving me home, etc…. it even bothered him what theatre me and his younger bro go to…. like wtf?

[Sevenpointfive]

he's all up in your business! he's probably jealous of his brother. there's nothing you can do about that

[Anastacia1989]

Ya the older one seems to be jealous of the younger one…. sibling rivalry/ competition I guess…and who knows maybe his bro “likes” me

[Sevenpointfive]

well even if he does, don't think like that. he's not someone that you'd wanna be with. tell him to fuck off and leave y'all alone. don't be nice about it. he's being a child

[Makeushiver]

I can't see why the brother should have any input into the situation. Try not to cave in to pressure. If boyfriend wants something and you do so then you'll be repeating that forever and his demands will get weirder. That's my opinion at least

[Anastacia1989]

He has to tell his brother to back off…. would it be wise for me to address this to his mom privately? Or would that cause trouble?