His anger issues his jealousy insecurities. Screaming, suspicions. I've ways told him u need help from a doctor. Now he's gone to one and been prescribed bunch of meds. So the abuse isn't abuse? He's a victim of genetics? his father's anger and tendency to say "I'll hit you" and his mother's bipolar and depression. Should I forgive?
It's important to recognize that mental health issues can contribute to abusive behavior, but that does not excuse or justify the abuse. While it's understandable that your boyfriend may be struggling with mental health issues and may need support and treatment, it's not okay for him to lash out at you or engage in abusive behavior.
It's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and safety, and to set boundaries around what you are and are not willing to tolerate in a relationship. If your partner is engaging in abusive behavior, it may be necessary to seek help and support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional.
Forgiveness is a personal decision that only you can make, but it's important to remember that forgiving someone does not mean that you have to tolerate or accept abusive behavior. It's possible to forgive someone and still hold them accountable for their actions, and to set boundaries around what you are and are not willing to tolerate in a relationship.
Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what is best for your well-being and safety, and to seek help and support if you need it.
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Its still abuse, whatever the cause of that abuse. Don't stay with an abuser. If he does have a psychological condition that can be cured (unlikely) then some day in the future he can find someone as a partner. But not you. If by "forgive" you mean, accept that his behavior is caused by things out of his control, then OK if you want but please don't go back with him.
But be aware the great majority of abusers are not mentally ill, they are simply evil. Pretending that they "couldn't help themselves" is the oldest trick in the book - and it IS a trick - to take advantage of their partner's good will and love. Most (maybe all) abusers are calculating and manipulative.
No. It's still abuse. Schizophrenics have serious behavioral problems that are intolerable for people without schizophrenia. They can't help that they have a mental illness, but if they take their medication that usually normalizes them. He needs to do his therapy and take his meds so he will not act abusively toward you.
We are all victims of genetics. But we ALL have to control bad behavior. Anger, screaming and suspicions are unacceptable. Forgiving is one thing. But forgetting about it and pretending it is not damaging to YOUR psyche won't work. Make it clear that he CANNOT act this way toward you and that if he continues, you will have to end the relationship.
Draw a line in the sand and HOLD TO IT. Also, YOU should be getting counseling to deal with this. You need support to know when it is appropriate to leave, if it comes to that.
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