Guys, would you let your fiancé go to the beach with her girl friends and have guys there?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone, my fiancé and i have been together for 10 years. i recently been at home all the time since i quit my job. i finish school in October so i’ll find a new job then. my fiancé works all the time and loves to hang out with his friends. mind you, we don’t live together. i barely have any friends. i would say i have two really good friends. one lives eight hours from me and the other lives near me, but she always invites me to places where there is guys. i know, why is that a problem you ask? i think it’s disrespectful to hangout with guys when my fiancé is not there. so for example, today my friend asked me if i wanted to go to the beach today, i asked who was going, she mentioned her highschool best friend Ruben and a few other people. i said no because of the two guys who were going and my fiancé doesn’t want to go. so my question here is is it wrong to hangout with a group of people, guys included when my fiancé is not around?

[Tyrael]

It depends on the situation but generally speaking I'd say you're right not to do it. Especially if there's drinking involved for example.

On the other hand you should be able to spend time with your friend, so I'd reschedule for somewhere else another time

[Asker]

yes there is always drinking involved with her. she’s single so she’s always wanting to go the bars, clubbing and doing things involving guys or her friend Ruben. i’m always home and my fiancé is always busy. i’m becoming antisocial because i don’t do anything if it’s not with him. and we barely do anything.

[exitseven]

It is not wrong. Trust is important in a relationship. What happens when you find a new job and it turns out that there are guys working there too?

[Asker]

work is different. i’m there to make money, not to hangout with any guy.