Is it a mistake to settle for a relationship to have someone you aren't passionate about or is it better to keep waiting for the one you truly desire?

Question

To keeping waiting is a risk of ending up alone. What you think?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I think these breaks down into two different types of people. Those that can be happy, and those that can't seem to find happiness. I have been with people I felt passionate about, and then I have been with people that I loved.

But there seems to be this movement whereas nobody would ever settle for anything. Well I do not know really know who these people thing they are, or how they appearly place their own self worth so high.

For me I am have a strong sense of self worth, but I value people for wo they are and what they do for me, and that is what motivates me to do more and be more for them. But if they can value the things I do, offer or can provide for them without expectations or wanting for more...

Well let me say this, I am not settling less for than I deserve either if that is what they want it to be about.

CallmeTheKnight · Accepted Answer

Before you consider it settling, ask yourself these questions:What are you getting from this relationship exclusively that you never got?
Is the relationship benefiting you outside of your needs?
What do you feel you can handle better on your own?
How long are you willing to wait for “the one”?

Honesty, if the relationship isn’t good then it’s best to part ways. You do have to consider how the other person feels about you and the entire relationship as well. We have a tendency of loving more than we receive and that leads to a bad heartbreak. However, you also wanted this relationship with this person in the past. Whatever changed either was for the best or worst.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

I tend to think that nobody should settle. On one hand, I do believe that there are a lot of people who are unrealistic in their standards and nobody who they want would want them back. But if someone like that settles, the person who they are settling for will probably have a crappy life and feel bad about themselves. Thus, I think nobody should settle because at least if they don't settle it will be one miserable person instead of two.

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

You're wasting the precious time of someone if you think you have to settle with him/bet as you can't find someone else. Don't be that person. Life is unpredictable. You can meet the right person sooner or later. Stay single than waste someone else's time and hurt them.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I’m okay being alone than be with someone I’m not passionate about. I don’t settle for less. I am enough. Now when that special man crosses paths with me, I can change that for good.

EricSummer · Answer

Get a woman who you truly desire and who you can learn to love.
That way you do not have to settle. Still, this can work out with a lot of women. Do not make the mistake that she has to be "the one" and match perfectly already from the start.
There are certain things that I think are good to look for in a woman, such as loyalty. And she should be a nice person that you like spending time with.
Personally, I think I put too much focus on beauty with my ex wife, but I guess many men can relate to that. Also, we have a beautiful daughter and that does not come from my side.

wysiwyg2525 · Answer

Never settle. You will continue to as the what if questions when there is no what if it's what is. If your not happy it's time to move on. You are just going to make it harder on you and it's not fair on the other half. Why hold them back if your not sure. When you question yourself it's time to call it quits. Just be you and the right one will show up when you least expext it.

Haha456 · Answer

It depends on how old you are. If you're young, you can afford to wait, date around and be picky. But if you are 40+ and you still want to have kids or you dont want to spend the rest of your life dying all alone, you should settle.

Statistics have proven that married couples , particularly married men live longer lives than singles. This is because there are emotional, mental, physical benefits to marriage.

sage2021 · Answer

It is better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. I just can't do it.
Whose to say you'll ever find the right person? There is no guarantee.
Even if you do find the right person you risk being hurt down the road if they should break up with you.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

A mixture of both. Like, I feel like some people even myself included, may have a whole wish list, and then come across someone and think, just from being a fellow local or on a dating app local also, you both feel like, sure why not we amicably but without saying as bluntly, just "settle for less" or settle? 😀😄

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know. I settled in my early 20s but found my passionate love after I tied the knot. I feel the passionate love would be too tense to have an everlasting marriage with whereas settling, it's kind of like marrying your best friend. They're there, they communicate, and are supportive. Honestly, that's what pulls a marriage through the thick and thin.

Adaeva · Answer

People can't have who you want. If they could they would all marry movie stars. People must accept the best they can do or do without.

Screenwriter · Answer

Rather be alone than with someone I'm not excited about being with and who I enjoy. What other way could possibly be satisfactory.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

It depends on the level of settling. You have to be realistic as to what is possible for you to get but you also need someone you're excited and happy to have in your life.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Keep waiting. Granted, no one is perfect, but you don’t want to settle out of desperation and loneliness.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I refuse to settle. I want someone on the same page so I’d just keep searching/waiting

Lowiu · Answer

I think its better to wait for someone you love and that you're passionate about

ILoveAnime · Answer

Keep waiting. If you decide to "settle down" you'll just end up resenting your partner.

mommymommymommy · Answer

That's why marriage is the ultimate "settle". You're saying this is the only one I want to be with, no matter who I meet. And that's why i don't like it

Pete671 · Answer

Yes make the best of what you have, you'll never find perfection, people imho are obsessed with certain attributes before considering the person themselves,,,

DaddyDiablo · Answer

Kinda went through this it's better to just stay friends cuz then you won't ruin a lot of potential anything for it to actually work

ColHathi · Answer

I suppose you could wait, if you really have that many options rolling in, but you're never gonna get "the one" anyway.

shades777 · Answer

If your aren't happy and want the relationship to work communicate it, if you can't resolve, move on, life is too short for unhappy settling

msc545 · Answer

depending ojn otherfactors both things can be a mistake, but settling is almost always doomed to failure as you never feel satisfied.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I care about compatibility. Passion is temporary.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

The one you truly desire, otherwise you’re wasting your time

Shamanspants · Answer

It all depends. People can have expectations that are too high. Or maybe it is the right decision.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Never settle.

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