Are you still friends with an ex spouse and how does it affect your dating life?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is friends with his exwife. I don’t think you should be friends with an ex. I think you should leave the past in the past. If you’re friends with an ex what are your reasons? How often do you talk/hangout?

[Qinart]

I have a quite complicated past with my ex spouse (transition m2f, the separation had nothing to do with it though) but now we are best friends. My new partner is friends with her as well.
We can't see each other regularly anymore since I moved out of the country but talk and/or write on a daily basis.
I could go and visit my ex without my partner worrying about it since he trusts me/us.
To your question why, we went through a lot together, we grow together through the years and she is an important part of my life. Within the years where we were together/married a friendship was always there, in my opinion your partner should be one of your best friends too. So, we as a couple didn't work out really well, obviously, but that doesn't mean that I have to kick this person out of my life just because our relationship towards each other changed.
As long as this is clear from both sides (my and the ex's side) there shouldn't be an issue. My boyfriend knows about everything in detail, I made sure he knows since transparency and communication in a relationship are important parts for me.
If I would have the feeling that my ex would've any feelings left in this direction I would communicate this with my boyfriend and probably talk to my ex that we need some space between us for a while because of it.
If my boyfriend would say he feels uncomfortable with me being friends with my ex spouse I would talk about it with him, ask him why, maybe he got a weird vibe from my ex or the idea is just strange to him etc. and we would talk this through because I know for myself that I have a healthy friends-relationship with my ex and would want to know where these feelings come from.

[slatyb]

No, I hope to never see her again.

[In_Trance]

nope