Boyfriend is taking a trip to Vegas and I’m so scared?

[Anonymous]

My (19f) boyfriend (32m) and his friends are going to Vegas for his birthday, and I wish they would have chosen any other place.

I have complete faith in him in terms of being faithful, and I never doubted him for a second until now.

It’s not even him, it’s the horror stories I hear from women who’ve been cheated on from a Vegas trip.

A few months ago, I jokingly asked him to not sleep with a hooker, and I felt so gross because I was being insecure and I wasn’t actually joking.

And I feel like my previous relationship of getting cheated on 11+ times is haunting me, because everyone fiber in my body is panicking at the thought of this trip.

And I’m not going to say anything because it’s obviously anxiety, but god do I just want to hyper vigilance to go away.

please help

[richardcory]

I've gone to Vegas many times, often without my wife (who doesn't like it). I've seen shows, driven race cars, fired machine guns, skydived, eaten too much and walked too much. There are a lot of really fun things to do in Vegas that are completely wholesome - if not cheap.

A few things though:
I always invite my wife. Occasionally she goes and I'm always happy to have her there.

I go on a lot of business trips, so she is used to the idea that I will be in a foreign city where I have the opportunity to cheat if I want to, but she trusts me not to.

She knows the people I'm traveling with and knows we are a bunch of nerds who are far more likely to want to play with flamethrowers than to screw hookers.

In your case, did he invite you? Has he talked about what he is going to do?

Also you can't stop him from cheating if he wants to, or be sure to catch him if he does. All you can do is decide whether or not you trust him. Do you think he has earned that trust?

[Anonymous]

It's completely understandable to feel anxious and worried about your boyfriend's upcoming trip to Vegas, especially given your previous experiences with infidelity. However, it's important to recognize that your anxiety may be influenced by your past trauma and not necessarily by your boyfriend's actions or intentions.

It's essential to communicate your concerns with your boyfriend in an open and honest conversation. You can express your fears and anxieties in a calm and non-accusatory manner, emphasizing that you trust him but are struggling with your own insecurities.

It might also be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist to work through your anxieties and past traumas. It's crucial to take care of yourself and your mental health during this time, and seeking help is a courageous and healthy step towards healing.

Ultimately, your boyfriend's actions are outside of your control, and it's up to him to behave in a respectful and faithful manner. Trust is a vital component of any healthy relationship, and it's essential to build that trust through open communication and honesty.

[Burnttoast3344]

I’m the same way I overthink about things my girlfriend does and it drives me crazy! I wouldn’t try to think about it too much I know easier said than done but it helps a lot for me to just explain to my girlfriend what I’m overthinking about and talk it out Makes me feel better!

[boggboss]

Not really sure whatvto say past if u trust him and he has never given u reason to doubt him then I don't see why u think somthing would happen it sounds more so like you are intertaining your insecurities

[boggboss]

Entertaining*

[OfMiceandMen]

Why don't you tell him how you feel. Nothing wrong with looking for a little reassurance from him.