Are you relationship material? Why or why not?

[MementoMori777]

No

Yes

I'm not sure

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I appreciate everyone's responses on here 💯

[Genie23]

I am because I give it my best.

When I get into a relationship, I make him my priority.

I can make him laugh, I'm good at that.

I don't keep any secrets from him but I'm very good at keeping secrets of others so he could trust me with that.

I trust him completely and I'm loyal to him.

I am very understanding when it comes to him spending time with his family especially his parents and his need to be there for them and I support him on that. I am also considerate of the fact that he has friends and that he needs to make time for them too.

No matter how tired or sick I am, I would still give him time, attention and affection which I normally don't do for others because I prefer to be alone when I'm exhausted or sick. I do sweet little things/gestures for him everyday to make him feel loved and appreciated.

I let him know via hugs, kisses, words, looking into his eyes that I love him often and remind him how much he means to me soon after we have a fight to assure him that we will work this out.

I listen to him patiently whenever he had a bad day, feeling frustrated or down.

I know how to comfort and I know how to cook too.

I love cooking for my loved ones. I am the most hygienic and organised partner he will ever have.

I'm willing to try out many things with him or for him. Life with me will never get boring.

I love cuddling

There are more things I have to offer but I don't want to write a novel here. 😂

[MementoMori777]

I think you mean you don't want to finish the novel, it's the best and only novel I've read tho but foreal tho, you are a good person and you are over qualified tbh, don't change the world is a dark place and there's not much light in it so it's important to not change for anybody, just keeping it real 💯

[Genie23]

I swear I knew you were going to say "You mean you don't want to finish it" 😂😂😂 Yeah, I don't 😶

Awwww... Thank you! You're kind 😇 No, I'm not planning to change for anybody. The right person will appreciate me for who I am and I know I'd feel lucky to have him and vice versa.

[Genie23]

What about you? Tell us your good qualities too!

[MementoMori777]

We share a lot of similarities but but my loyalty itself is on steroids, if someone stabs me in the back and I care about them I wouldn't wish the same on them or have any vengeful thoughts, something else is that I can't fake a persona, mentally nor physically, if something or someone rubs me off wrong I can't keep being in their life like I was before because it will show, they would see the change, it's why when something rubs be off wrong I separate and I can't stay around them, some would call it incompability I think, and indeed you are correct, the right person would appreciate you for who you are, I'm glad someone has the mindset to understand that lol

[Grond21]

That's amazing! You will truly bless your husband.

I know because I am blessed. My girlfriend is like this.

[WonderBell99]

I feel like most people can be relationship material as long as they are not desperate to get into a relationship and reach the standards that they have for others (in dating). I’m not in the right headspace to date anyone at the moment. I’m focusing on college and have no time to even relax, let alone date someone. In general, yes, if a guy likes me for who I am, I’m probably a “girlfriend material” to him.

[MementoMori777]

Thats understandable, and yea I mean normal girlfriend material not taking time out of dating lol

[Leapfrog00]

Hmm, I'm not sure. I'm always nice to the girl I'm with. I'm single not, but when I have a girlfriend, I listen to her, respect her feelings, I buy her flowers, I write her poetry. When she's sick, I take care of her, make sure she's eating, make sure she drinks plenty of fluids.

I make sure I let her know how I feel about her and what she means to me. I try not to smother her and I give her space. I attract all the psychos though. So, maybe I'm doing something wrong. Maybe I should try something different with the next girl I'm with.

[MementoMori777]

Nope just life throwing curve balls lol

[serious]

The answer is NO. Absolutely not.

That is even though I am romantic, I can give the purest non-sexual form of love a woman can get. Believe it or not I am one of the best type of man a woman can get but on self analysis I am not suited for relationships.

[MementoMori777]

Why? What makes you not suited for a relationship?

[serious]

@mementomori777

Well, I cannot tell you in detail but to tell you in brief. The truth is I have high standards both physical and personality wise with very little room for compromise. I am also very strict as a person, there are plenty of deal breakers I have and there are things that I see as unforgivable.

The truth here is that the woman will always be under pressure to be at her best as there is very little margin for error. She has to always be alert that never to make any " Unforgivable" mistake. One unforgivable mistake and she will be out of my life forever. There will no forgiveness and no second chances.

Just because a man is one of the best type does not mean they are suited for relationships. Does not mean they are relationship material. Some best type of men are best when they are single and alone.

This is true. That is how I am and hence I am not suited for relationships.

This is the brief explanation to your question.

Hope you understood.

[MementoMori777]

Yep, I think I did, you have high standards lol

[serious]

@mementomori777

Yes.

[Apulu_Imback]

I'm not sure. I can be romantic, I can set up a romantic breakfast and recite a romantic poem. I can compose a whole music album dedicated to him. I'm really romantic as an artist. But let's be honest, no one can stand with a workaholic who can barely make time for herself.

[MementoMori777]

Well maybe you need someone that will show you how to have fun and not work so much, do you even watch TV?

[Apulu_Imback]

I used to be TV addict as a toddler. I barely watch TV after I came in high school.

[MementoMori777]

Well then you got a lot to learn about chilling lol

[Apulu_Imback]

For me, chilling is hearing some EDM music while lying and reading a romance novel in a room chilled with AC.

[MementoMori777]

Okay that's a certain chilling vibe lol

[serious]

@apulu_imback

"I'm not sure. I can be romantic, I can set up a romantic breakfast and recite a romantic poem. I can compose a whole music album dedicated to him. I'm really romantic as an artist. But let's be honest, no one can stand with a workaholic who can barely make time for herself."

Yes while the first part about you being romantic is good, it is a plus point but as you mentioned in the second part you are indeed a workaholic and so workaholics are really not suited for relationship it is very true.

[Apulu_Imback]

@serious yes of course, unless he is a workaholic himself and has the same tight schedule as me so that we can spend the spare time together but that's quite exceptional.

[serious]

@apulu_imback

That is a good point you make. However, it is very rare that he will be workaholic in the exact same way as yours.

I understand your point though

[Apulu_Imback]

@serious yes it's rare.

[serious]

@apulu_imback

"yes of course, unless he is a workaholic himself and has the same tight schedule as me so that we can spend the spare time together but that's quite exceptional."

Yes there are quite a few possibilities here also. It depends on the person and their priorities really. It is possible he is more workaholic than you and he really does not care about human relationships and making connections, in that case it won't work.

On the other hand it is possible he is not as workaholic as you and he values human relationships and for him this is one of his priorities, in that case he cannot stand a workaholic like you, so in this case also it will not work.

Another possibility as I have mentioned before is that he is as workaholic as you but that as we know is very rare.

Yes so there are some possibilities here as well. However, the fact is that workaholics are really not suited for relationships. If they do get into relationships they are bound to run into problems at some point. Like it or not this is very true.

[Justmeagain1]

Right as I am right now-I am unsure. I need to work on self worth and not seeking validation from my partner. I’m not clingy but my world turns to chaos when I don’t feel loved and appreciated or lusted after by him and when I’m not shown daily these affirmations.

[MementoMori777]

Well my best wishes on your improvements

[Justmeagain1]

Thank you 🙏

[Ms_Facesitter]

I hope so. I'm loyal, I don't let problems sit. I listen, and I'm not a material girl. But I'm not that expressive with my emotions. You'll make my week with flowers, but you won't see me jumping. I'm an introvert too which probably makes that worse, but at least you'll see more of me and how I feel than the rest of the world.

[MementoMori777]

That's good, your emotions isn't what makes you relationship material lol

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't know... I've had it before that people think I didn't like a present because I didn't react how they hoped I would react. If he understands and knows me I don't think it will be much of a problem.

[MementoMori777]

That doesn't take away how good of a woman you are, if anything you just won't get many gifts or you'll have someone just keep getting better gifts until you have a good reaction lol

[Jamie05rhs]

I believe I am. Because I am kind, loyal, and romantic. And a good listener. I am also a deep communicator, and I'm not afraid to express my feelings. And I have a good sense of humor, and I know how to have fun. Lastly, I actually WANT to be in a relationship; you don't have to twist my arm.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks! :)

[Shamalien]

Yeah because I do right by people. Even if times are tough, or we break up, I will be available for tough conversations. I will write poetry, music, sing and play for them. Good morning texts always. Sexually…that’s a whole nother world 😛 and women enjoy that side of me very much…

If I’m committed and serious I tell my partner. If I’m not, I also tell them. I am more honest than most

[MementoMori777]

That's good I guess bro, keep it up

[DaisyM23]

i can put time aside for someone in a relationship (free time, quick texts etc) and i'd be loyal for sure but at the same time i'm pretty emotionally unavailable i think, i can compromise but i also like certain things my own way

[MementoMori777]

Everyone got flaws tho, If that's considered one, over all you sound like you are tho 💯🙌

[Twalli]

Everyone who knows my personality loves it. Multiple girls have said they wish their boyfriend was more like me. It took me 27 years to find someone who didn't want her boyfriend to be more like me, she wanted her boyfriend to be exactly like me, a 100% genetic match. So she's my girlfriend now.

[MementoMori777]

Wow that's a beautiful story lol

[Anonymous]

I dont think so.

i am really insecure and self conscious for a relationship to work right.

pretty sure a woman would think im disinterested due to me getting awkward and nervous, which can come off as disinterest. But if she is experienced and knows body language I’d say she would be able to tell that i am into her. But that has happened once in my life.

[MementoMori777]

There's someone for everyone, is something you should believe In, even tho I'm starting not too

[Adaeva]

Of course I will be relationship material. When I get married I will have purity, and I can and will not object to cleaning, cooking, and taking care of our children.

[MementoMori777]

That's good, I hope nothing manipulates that clean and healthy mindset you have, it would be a shame, the world has a strong reputation for ruining people. 💯

[Adaeva]

Well like most young women I will want one of the best husbands I can get. Also, I know three things that most young women are apparently not aware of.

1. In another post, I discovered that about half the men would rather marry a virgin and it appeared that almost none would reject a virgin. Also by age 20, only 20% of young women are virgins. Therefore, the odds heavily favor virgins.

2. I am aware, that men date down for sex, but they almost never marry down. However, most young women chase after the hottest guys that will have sex with them and reject guys within their league that would marry them. I don't intend to make that mistake.

3. I know that men prefer a wife that can and doesn't mind cooking and cleaning, and a wife that will show appreciation for the fact that her husband works hard to support the family. I intend to be that kind of wife.

[Adaeva]

One more thing. I know that a woman's sexual market value peaks between the ages of 18 to 22 and starts declining by or after age 23. Therefore, I will start looking for a husband at age 18 and, if necessary, I will adjust my standards to be married by ages 22 to 23.

[MementoMori777]

You are very intelligent, didn't expect such wokeness from someone so young but you are actually smarter and more woke then many adult women, just by this I know you'll make an excellent wife in the future, you seem like you know exactly what you'll be walking into when you do, you are gonna get cuffed quick, respect, yous woke 💯

[Adaeva]

Thank you.

[MementoMori777]

🤔💯

[MementoMori777]

💯💯*

[Grond21]

You are very well educated in this issue. Where do you go to to get a good perspective on it?

[Adaeva]

@Grond21 In my case my parents and grand parents.

[Grond21]

The best place to learn from. And if you don't mind me asking are you from the United States?

[Adaeva]

@Grond21 See my profile.

[Grond21]

It doesn't show on the app. But I am assuming the us. Given that, what culture are you? This is so rare here

[Adaeva]

@Grond21 When I look, it shows:
I have an upper middle class family and I engage in several sports such as figure skating, tennis, and distance running.

From: United States

[Grond21]

If you are an upper middle class family it's even more rare. A lot of the feminists who are so destructive to the family life come from wealthy upper middle class highly educated families. But it sounds like you have a much more traditional latitude and I think that's beautiful.

When you said that men do not date down, what did you mean? Because if we're talking about the socio-economic spectrum men almost always date across or down.

[Adaeva]

@Grond21 For a one night, women demand an exceptionally attractive man. Men are not nearly that choosy. www.livescience.com/...en-choosy-night-stands.html

Men date down for sex, but they don't marry down. That is based on desirability; not economic class. That is, men don't care that much about how much wealth or money the woman and/or her family has. For example, a man told my cousin that is ten years older than me, "It is not your money I'm after." Far more important to men than her economic class are looks and other factors.

[Grond21]

Ahh, yes. If you are using the attractiveness scale, I completely agree. You nailed it.

[Adaeva]

@Grond21 More than attractiveness, I would say desirability. Although there is a lot of overlap, what make a person desirable differs with men and women. I am certain they both place a high value on looks, but women will value an equal or greater education more then men. Perhaps height because women want men 6' or taller while men have a wider range of acceptable heights. And, certainly women place a higher value on wealth and income. Men would choose the pretty 20 year old clerk over the high income 32 year old lawyer. Men place a higher value on youth, fertility, looks, and often purity.

[Grond21]

Dang. Are you sure you are 14? That was impressive! I knew all that, but I don't know if I could have written it that well.

Yes, desirability is a better word. It takes into consideration all the different aspects, not just physical or social appeal

[FreyaRed]

Optically for sure. Since optics and presentability are only things which matter, I think I'm fine If I could reduce level of my brutal honesty.

[MementoMori777]

Or find a way to say things better by using different vocabulary

[asphaltrhymes]

I'm not sure, because I'm sure as hell still single and not bitter about it either, but I'm often a little curious wondering why I'm still single lol. But I'm not desperate either. Goodness no 😅

[MementoMori777]

Life being unpredictable has its benefits tho

[asphaltrhymes]

No pregnancies or stds/sti's, so there's that so far, 🤗

[asphaltrhymes]

And more time for family and friends the last two decades lol or more hahaha

[MementoMori777]

Yep those are some benefits of it indeed

[RavVid]

No. A median length of 8 years till divorce just makes marriage a destructive thing to do to yourself.

If you cohabit, then you are in a common law marriage after one year, so same deal.

[MementoMori777]

I guess that depends, I believe I can make a marriage last lifelong

[RavVid]

Good luck I hope you do sincerely. As 70-80% of divorces are initiated by the wives I don't have the same confidence.

[MementoMori777]

Thanks, many people don't involve God in their marriage, it's why it collapses, I can guarantee you mine is going to last lifelong.

[RavVid]

Good.

[Anonymous]

Even though I'm in one, I'm not sure I am yet. I have a lot of issues that needs sorting through. I wonder sometimes if I should have entered a relationship with my issues.

[MementoMori777]

Well I hope you can resolve those issues and manage to keep your relationship alive. 💯

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks! I hope so too.

[MementoMori777]

💯🙏

[exitseven]

Yes, I am faithful, have a good job, I am mostly responsible, I was good to my parents, I like kids and I don't used drugs or drink.

[MementoMori777]

That sounds legit bro

[SeriouslyFunny00]

I'm not 'cause I suck at messaging. I honestly tell these guys to avoid me. 😂

[richgentlem4n]

I will not avoid u @seriouslyfunny00

[MementoMori777]

Do you suck as speaking too cause I mean... you can talk them instead lol

[Heolurt]

I'm definitely not, too ugly and I've never been on a date, plus I have gained many mental problems and plus I've always been told how I'd never find someone because I'm too ugly, so I gave up trying to get a date and quitter can't ever be the thing they quit from.

[Chelsdope0]

I think I am but I am extremely insecure.. I’ll just suck the fun right out of a relationship

[MementoMori777]

So wouldn't that mean you aren't? 😂

[Chelsdope0]

Yes lol

[MementoMori777]

I'm just playin lol, I know you are but you should find a way to get rid of your insecurities so they don't manipulate your relationships

[Chelsdope0]

Very true. I have a lot to work on… I may just be happy by myself

[MementoMori777]

You can but overcoming your insecurities is still something you should do, single or not

[Chelsdope0]

True ✨

[Nikki1989]

I have been very happily married for years, so I must be.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough lol

[Lowiu]

I sure am like I do have a boyfriend for pretty long now

[MementoMori777]

I'm glad to hear it 💯🙏

[Lowiu]

Thank you

[DizzyDesii]

Most definitely. But sometimes i wonder if im short-term OR long-term relationship material

[MementoMori777]

At that point you are no longer the problem, because there's no such thing and short term or long term relationship material, you either are or you aren't and weither it's short or long, at that point the problem is the other person.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think so. I believe I have a lot to offer and a lot of love to give.

[MementoMori777]

That's good bro, I'm glad you aren't a player 💯

[lottiebannotie]

Relationships are hard I would like to think one day I will find the right guy but so far once the initial infatuation, attraction honey moon period is over I tend to just leave or they do

[MementoMori777]

Gotta make the leap of faith

[lottiebannotie]

One day I hope to be able to 🙂

[MementoMori777]

I know you will and you'll know exactly who to make the jump with 💯

[YourExLover69]

I can be romantic, caring, friendly, loyal and open minded but still am single since years. So I'm not sure why wouldn't I be

[MementoMori777]

Lots of people take the relationship material men for granted, there's always one that won't, don't give up for that reason.

[bolverk]

I'm not relationship material, I've been single so long I'd find it difficult if not impossible to share space with someone.

[MementoMori777]

That sounds legit

[JSmuve]

Of course. Now I just need to convince the women out there who've all got these walls up and won't allow themselves to see it.

[MementoMori777]

I felt that 😂

[msc545]

Maybe. It will take someone pretty resilient.

[MementoMori777]

Lol fair enough

[LiamJHayden]

I'm sure there must be someone in the four billion women on the planet who can tolerate my eccentricities.

[MementoMori777]

Lmao that's a good way to put it, it's a good attitude 😂

[Anonymous]

Because I am old, broke, out of shape and not physically attractive. What I will attract is not what I want. You can't drink 12 year Scotch when you have Pabst Blue Ribbon beer money.

[MementoMori777]

Well I can see where you are coming from but you gotta start finding solutions

[PointTaken]

Why get into one now? I'll just try to have some fun for a bit.

[MementoMori777]

Okay.

[Tomisworthless]

No not really sure but I’d say I’m not much of a affectionate person

[MementoMori777]

You'd be surprised on what you can accomplish

[art84]

I don't like holding hands or being touched or being loveable so no.

[Reorx]

No, I have an aging mother I've kept out of a nursing home & takes all my time / resources.

[Anemone978]

No probably not.. I am damaged goods lol

[MementoMori777]

Some damaged goods can be repairable, as long as you aren't shattered goods 😂

[Anemone978]

hahaha well lets hope not..

[MementoMori777]

I can tell you aren't, shattered goods have no chance, you seem like a good person 💯

[Anonymous]

The bones are there. Whether I am or not depends on whether she's deserving of it.

[NathanDavis]

Yes.

I got good reviews

[MementoMori777]

Lol reviews

[NathanDavis]

yeah... once, a girlfriend asked reviews to the ex, lol

[MementoMori777]

That is such an odd way to call it tho, reviews, how many stars was it lol

[NathanDavis]

[MementoMori777]

That's not bad 😂

[Flower7]

No because that’s not something I’m interested in.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough

[Msputiton]

🤣 🤣 🤣 hell naw.

[bros26]

You're fuckboy material 😜

[MementoMori777]

Oof, fair enough, at least you are honest lol

[Msputiton]

@mementomori777 true. I just like the freedom that comes with being single.

[MementoMori777]

Yea that makes sense 😆💯

[Spade_01]

Not very likely. At least at the moment.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough, you got honesty tho, that's good

[Amishaxx]

No... Pehle Bhi boli hoon tumse... aise nahi bolo 😐

[Spade_01]

@Amishaxx sach hai

[Spade_01]

Sure man, thanks.

[Amishaxx]

Ni kehna aise

[LavLavLuv]

I’m… bunny material 🐰🥰

[MementoMori777]

Whatever the heck that means 😂

[LavLavLuv]

Hahahaha

[AdithyaR]

I'm just fundamentally undateable.

[MementoMori777]

Why you say that?

[AdithyaR]

Past experiences

[GothBarbie]

I'm a freaking nightmare

[MementoMori777]

I'll take your word for it 😅

[clampfan101]

I feel I have good potential.

[MementoMori777]

That's good bro, I hope you get there someday.

[Molly1997]

Yes , I’m perfect 🤩

[DermalPunch]

At this point, I don't even care.

[TooHot2Care]

Yes. Because, I’m evil.

[Iron_Man]

Yes, I am big time

[Unit1]

Yes. So much, that women don't want me 😁

[SoJust]

İt should appeal to they eye.

[Luopio27]

Im too shallow for lifeling relationships.

[Fireguy17]

My wife seems to think so.

[MementoMori777]

That's good bro

[Degenerate]

I am

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough lol

[Sasha0426]

Nope. I’m toxic.

[MementoMori777]

🧠 👈

[Jakartheg]

Only with my sister

[Deemedgirl]

I am in a relationship right now.

[Greenbins]

Nope. .