Should a boyfriend always treat/ feed and spoil his girlfriend 100% of the time or should both partners pitch in 50/50 on outings?

[Anastacia1989]

My boyfriend believes in going 50/50 for our outings/dates and he treats me only on special occasions with dinner and gifts…. is that good or bad? (He lives on his own and has his own bills to pay)

It’s a fair deal 50/50

A man should always treat the woman

[Summeroflove]

Yeah…. I think that’s fair. Maybe if you’re wanting something different. Maybe he isn’t the problem? Maybe it’s not meant to be or maybe you’re entitled. I don’t know.

Yeah he does have his own bills. A relationship should be give and take even in traditional relationships there is usually roles that complement one another. But some women now want it both ways (and some men too) where someone is expected to give all while getting nothing in return.

I have a idea…. Figure out what YOU want. If he isn’t what you want. Don’t waste his time and don’t waste yours. Don’t try to change him. Don’t be demanding of him because you’ll only make him bitter even if he gives in.

I think it’s fine if you want something different. Just be honest about it.

[Anastacia1989]

No I believe in the 50/50 thing and I’m happy with my boyfriend overall…. I was just curious to know what other people here thought 🙂

[Summeroflove]

Oh okay! Well I’m glad you’re happy with him. Everyone is different and they want to change someone into someone they’re not. When in reality they’re not meant to be.

Sometimes people have different standards and what they’re wanting is different and they’re not bad they’re just not compatible

[Anastacia1989]

I believe in doing 50/50 it’s a fair deal plus I do love my bf…. I always contribute/ pay my half when we go out places and I got him and expensive nhl related gift

[Summeroflove]

You seem like a great girlfriend to him and you love him. I assume he’s great to you. I think what other people think doesn’t matter.

As long as you’re both happy. That’s what matters. It’s not their relationship. You’re not telling them what they should and shouldn’t be doing.

[Anastacia1989]

Yes exactly!
His brother is pretty nosy tho and is always trying to make him look bad to me and asking financial questions all the time which is annoying lol

[Summeroflove]

Yeah that’s annoying he needs to mind his business

[Anastacia1989]

His older bro kept asking and pushing about when me and my boyfriend are gonna move in together since last summer and boy oh boy was that so annoying cuz we’re not yet ready

[Anastacia1989]

Is it rude to separate couples at a dinner gathering? ↗

[Summeroflove]

Oh my gosh…. He needs to stay out of it. Maybe he’s well meaning and be nice about it. But just request he minds his own business it’s making you uncomfortable.

It’s not his relationship

[LiamJHayden]

People need to figure this out in their own relationship. I generally make significantly more than the girls I date, and even on the rare occasion that I don't my expenses are far lower due to inheriting a property tax-limited house. Because of this personal dynamic, if she makes it past my first couple of cheapskate coffee dates, I have no problem paying for most of our adventures. Other people who have similar incomes and expenses, on the other hand, might want to have a different system.

[Nikki1989]

I would never want a guy to go overboard with it. That can feel suffocating.

[Summeroflove]

There’s some women who a man literally does everything and gets little to none in return. Most I think are just only wanting sex and are too desperate for it

[Summeroflove]

The men who do that

[Anastacia1989]

Go overboard with what? Wanting to do everything for you?

[sarah657]

Doesn't always have to be 50/50, but there should be a balance

[Anastacia1989]

So you agree that both partners should contribute and take care of each other and treat each other fairly?

[sarah657]

Yes, they definitely should

[Anastacia1989]

Perfectly said! 🙂

[sarah657]

Thank you

[Hulk30]

Based on how y'all do things that's fair but if a guy's girl is on her best behavior then he should pay for dates because that's earned everything should be in accordance to your behavior and females shouldn't be bitches in exchange for males kindness and make em splurge

[Fireguy17]

Maybe not 50/50 but with the high cost of going out it makes sense to pitch in, or at least offer to.

[Tomisworthless]

When’s the last time a woman ever spent her earnings on her partner. She could make x2-3 times more than him annually and still expect to be showered in gifts and keeping all her wealth for her own pleasure

[Likes2drive]

Probably 50/50 but I might go 70/30 me personally depending on how she treats me

[exitseven]

The guy always pays. Might as well get used to it