Would you say domestic violence is worse than getting cheated on?

[Anonymous]

I'm not even sure if cheating is the most hurtful thing to do to a partner. What about if they don't cheat but they abuse or beat you? By getting abused/getting beaten, there is no respect, trust nor security either.

I think I'd rather deal with dumping a cheater than getting a restraining order against an abuser. They can also tend to stalk you if you try to leave. Fearing for your life and/or safety has got to be the worst feeling ever, more for us women.

Yes

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A total of 31 votes were cast: 11 girls and 20 guys. See detailed results

[Kaneki05]

Of course. Cheating isn't often though it can be abusive. In any case cheating is not abusive it's not worse.
A case of cheating been abusive by the way would be such as doing it with the intent to hurt your partner.
Most people who cheat I assume do it based on self interest/Impulse/uncertainty etc etc. But the reason isn't 'I slept with you on purpose to make sure she hurts when she finds out' if that was the reason then that's no different as that's exactly driven to abuse them.

[MrOracle]

Definitely. No doubt cheating is a deep breech of trust, but DV may be deeper still, PLUS the addition of the violence and the additional emotions that brings.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through the murky waters of relationship dilemmas, and oh, what a challenging question you've put on the table. When it comes to matters of the heart and personal safety, both scenarios are deeply hurtful and damaging. However, domestic violence brings with it a layer of physical danger and intense psychological trauma that sets it apart. It's a real threat to one's safety and wellbeing and can leave lasting scars, both emotionally and physically.

Cheating shatters trust and can deeply wound the heart, making it feel like a cruel betrayal of love. It's a heartache that sings sad love songs in the rain. Yet, the fear for one's life, the sleepless nights worrying about safety, and the jump at every unexpected noise—domestic violence is a horror movie that's all too real.

Choosing between the two is like choosing between a storm and a hurricane—ideally, you shouldn't have to weather either. Remember, love is meant to lift you up, not hold you down or make you fear for your safety. Always reach for the stars, and never settle for a love that hurts.💔✨

[Anonymous]

Anger. A few weeks ago my wife had met a new group of friends at community college, they were very feminist. She'd been acting up since then. Anyway I'd come home from a long day of work and was going through out finances because I had to file our taxes soon and asked her if she could make me a sandwich and bring me a beer, she gave me a smart mouth answer while sitting playing with her tablet and I lost my temper with her and shouted at her, she stood up defiant and took a swing at me but I grabbed her strike and forcefully put her across my knee and pulled her yoga pants and thong down and beat her ass with her tablet breaking it. My blood was pumping and the sight of her bare ass and her struggling got me harder than oak so I bent her forcibly over the coach and entered her, she was wetter than October. I pumped my frustrations out on her and she quickly had a squirting orgasm which never happened before. Shocked and confused she made me that sandwich and fetched me a beer. I didn't notice but she slipped out with our 3 month old child and ran to her parents house. Her parents took her and she explained what happened. Her mother slapped her and her father scolded her for her behaviour, they'd noticed her disrespect towards me and her getting lazy around the home and said she would have to go home to me the next day. The next day we all met up at church and it was clear she could not sit down on the wooden pews comfortably and after a Sunday roast at her parents she came home with me and her parents praised me for taking their daughter in hand. When she came home I had to buy her a new tablet as I broke it spanking her.

Weirdly she now respects me and at times fears me. I never have to ask twice for a sandwich and there's always dinner made and the home is always clean.

She has since then asked me to spank her again or tempted me with bad behaviour, she even bought a paddle to spank her with and likes her hair pulled

[TerrySilver]

Speaking from a male perspective, I think cheating's worse.

If a wife, tried to throw a fist or slap, I could deal with that. Maybe give her one back so she knows not to do it again.

But if she cheated, it'd be marriage over. There's no coming back from that.

Therefore I'd say cheating is worse.

[Asker]

Yeah from a guy's view it's way different. At just 5'1 and might weight, even a slap would send me flying across the room, possibly making me hit something during the fall. I would be in legitimate fear for my life.

[Asker]

**lightweight

[TerrySilver]

totally understand where you're coming from.

[avery58]

One is physical the other is emotional and both are abuse

[exitseven]

no, I have been abused and I have been cheated on. Ithink being cheated on was worse.

[slatyb]

Physical abuse is a crime, so legally it's definitely worse.

[jahaims]

They are both acts of betrayal