Why are some women so genuinely nice until you date them?

[Anonymous]

I've always wondered why some women who are genuinely good and kind act so differently in relationships: they exercise their authority excessively, they gaslight you, they avoid admitting responsibility, they ignore your needs and they blame you when you communicate your dissatisfaction.

[arodriguez664]

You train people on how to treat you. If a woman does something or says something you don't like then you should be saying something. Don't act like a doormat. You don't have to aggressive. Just have boundaries. It doesn't matter how nice she is towards randos, what matters is how you are being treated in that moment.

[Asker]

Well, I do say things and they put the blame on me, they don't admit anything and they don't want to make any compromise if you are dissatisfied with something. They give no other choice but to break up with them. You either argue with them and they always blame you or you don't argue and you are a doormat.

[arodriguez664]

You should absolutely break up with someone who isn't treating you right especially if you've tried to communicate. Toxic is toxic 🤷 There are people who aren't terrible out there. If you keep pulling bad people then you need to look at the common denominator which is you. Maybe there's a problem in your selection process

[Anonymous]

Sweetie you date immature losers. Come to big mamma lol

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe they have completely different expectations of a boyfriend as opposed to a random acquaintance.

[Asker]

I mean that even in the talking stage they are genuinely nice and in relationships they turn into dominatrices

[BeMuse]

That's called being fake. You don't understand reality.