Women: How would you feel if you found out your significant other had a lot of past sexual encounters with different people (if you are the opposite)?

[LittleSally]

[Molly1997]

Well that’s my relationship, my first everything was with him. He had around a dozen partners. It rarely bothers me, but every once in awhile … I feel shy or embarrassed about it, I worry about how I am. But he’s quick to reassure me. It was kind of nice having him show me the ropes, I always thought that was so hot when he told me exactly what to do ☺️

[gag37627]

That's going to provoke you to cheat. I mean you thinking about
he being your first of everything

[Molly1997]

@gag37627 what do you mean? I would never

[TheThingALing]

@gag37627 I disagree. Girls who've had more partners know what they like and could be more prone if they've had much better and feel unsatisfied currently. A girl with less or in this case one, has nothing to compare it to so isn't drawn by better past experiences

[TheThingALing]

If you never had sex or watched any porn, you likely be content with the most vanilla of vanilla sex for a good amount of time. I'm sure you'll notice that the more you've seen, the more taboo your interests have become

[Molly1997]

@TheThingALing yea, he’s my only and I don’t watch porn. We’ve been pretty vanilla for the past 8 years or so and are only now trying other stuff 😅

[TheThingALing]

Here's advice for both men and women.

Women, don't talk about your past partners, or your body count. You'll just disqualify yourself. Your social media presence, friends, clothes, personality, and other things will all be studied so guys can guess what your sexual past was like. So consider how to mask or fix some of these.

Guys, don't share any info either. Present yourself as having options and if other women show interest, your girl will gain attraction towards you.

It does neither person any good talking about or bringing up the topic of sexual past. And girls, watch how much you drink because more than half the time, you tell on yourself when drunk

[LittleSally]

Misogynistic and very presumptuous...

[TheThingALing]

If I hated or mistrusted women (misogynistic) then I id not be telling them to omit their past sexual life. I mean I don't know, help me understand your line of thinking for why it's misogynistic?

[TheThingALing]

Now in this instance you could surely call me a condescending AH. Now that I'll agree with!

[Beccaasaar]

He talks about his exx's all the time and there family's and when u say something he keeps going so its useless

[TheThingALing]

@Beccaasaar how annoying! Whether he saying good or bad things about his ex doesn't matter either way he still exhibiting feelings (emotions) for her. What's more, he apparently can't listen clearly or worse, chooses to not respect your wishes. Tisk. Tisk.

[NathanDavis]

I really don't think I would not be not aware of such things if I were already in a relationship...

and then, the concept o "a lot" can be a subjective one... how many is too many, lol...

[LittleSally]

Subjective, yes, to however many you see as 'too many' in your book.

[NathanDavis]

I really don't know... I have not given much thoughts to it

there is a whole lot of things that would have to be considered and understood and so, more important that the number of partners, I would think of others things to be more relevant

for example... say that one person had six different partners but they were all stable and positive relationships... and then you have another person who only had three partners but, they were all affairs, she got involved with married men

if these were to be the cases, then I would be more concerned about the one having affairs rather than the other who had more partners

[LittleSally]

Well I did write 'sexual encounters', and 'a lot', so non committal, just casual sexual encounters.

[NathanDavis]

the same factors still apply... you can have casual sexual encounters with married people, or with single people both

to me, it isn't about numbers...

but if you want numbers lol... 333 different partners is a lot, to me

[Anonymous]

My husband is very experienced and I was a virgin when we married. I always knew this and its probably part of why I wanted him the more.

[smashleyy]

I’ve only had 3 sexual partners but I don’t have a polished past and I wouldn’t want that held over my head so I wouldn’t do it to him. I’m fine dating reformed fuckboys if sleaziness is laid to rest.

[Berethor]

You left that question open to men and now you have cucks here, that's pretty funny I guess.

[LittleSally]

I am all about humor.

[Googlemyahoo]

Isn’t that normal? Unless you’re some religious fuckwat

[LittleSally]

For men to have a lot more sexual partners than women of the same age?

Why is that normal?

[Andres77]

I'd get an erection and ask for more detail.

[Guardian45]

The Past IS the past. She is My Present and Future, and I am Hers, so HK!

[Guardian45]

@ImalwaysrightOK. You DON'T speak for me!

[ImalwaysrightOK]

@guardian45 why would i, you obviously are trashy and have no self respect.

[LazerBean]

I wouldn't have dated them to begin with.

[Agape93]

Been there, don't care then and don't care now

[shades777]

Somethings are better unknown

[Ms_Facesitter]

The same.

[Guardian45]

EXACTLY! Thank you!

[LittleSally]

Yes, of course the same, but is it positive or negative?

[LittleSally]

*or neutral.

[Ms_Facesitter]

What ever it is that I felt before I found out. It could be positive, it could be negative or neutral. It'll be the same. It doesn't make a difference.

[Anonymous]

It would be a show stopper for me.

[Christoff92]

That'll be hot.

[In_Trance]

none of my business