What i mean is they keep saying how much better you are over their ex. Like its a constant thing.
how would you feel?
The act of compairing whether they be good or bad means their mind goes to her ex a lot.
I mean to a point it's okay because we can't erase our past and if they're used to complaining about people as a habit then it's just going to happen. But what it says about them is that they have a bad habit of talking about other people. I mean, it's a widespread issue lots of people do, not just women but it's still a bad habit. We all have them, we can all get to work on them.
And to not understand how it may be inappropriate to talk about their ex with the current partner, it could be seen as rude. But it generally would depend on how you'd respond to it too. If you don't feel like it's affecting your mood then don't make it into a thing, make it a point about you or them instead of making it about the ex.
Best case, it's about a trait that she sees as positive/negative, not the person.
I would say the person ahs some unresolved issues with that ex, but as far as my feelings, I wouldn't waste one iota of time worrying about it. Comparing me to their ex would mean there's something about me I'm doing different, better than that person.
Especially if they compliment me in the process. As long as the girl loves me, her past doesn't matter to me. Some people compare exes because they want to prove a point at how much better you are than other people they've been with.
Sometimes it just takes some long and deep thought to understand people.
My partner needs to stop chatting and comparing me to his ex if he wants to be with me. I would tell him that I am a different person and have different traits from his ex. Also I would say it's not good for our relationship and it's a big turn off for me. I wouldn't put up with this because it's would sound to me he hasn't gotten over her if he keeps comparing me to her, and even if it's supposed to be a compliment, it's not it's rude and not respecting me as a girlfriend. That's what I would do and say.
I don't appreciate people talking bad about others in general. Sure, you can be mad or hurt by something and need to vent about it, but it shouldn't become a habit to talk bad about the same person or event, if it's completely in the past.
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I don't like ex comparisons. My first relationship was a piece of work, but I still don't like comparing. It doesn't bring anyone up, but only brings me, and the other woman down.
To be compared to an ex repeatedly would make me think the woman is being trash, hasn't gotten over them, and it's time for me to exit for just those two reasons besides other possibilities, like if she's still seeing him.
That would be rude and annoying no matter what the intent.
It would feel less like a compliment, and more like she is thinking about him all the time.
Saying you are the hottest boyfriend I have ever had, is different than saying you are much hotter than ex. You are much smarter than ex. You are taller than ex.
I'd be like, why you always talking about ex?
This girl I used to date would do that sometimes.
In her defense our relationship sorta started after I got her out of an abusive one.
But my narssistic ass loved it 😂
How can you complain about someone who randomly feels the need to tell you specifically why you're the best thing that ever happened to them?
I would feel highly demotivated to continue this relationship
It's important for partners to communicate openly and honestly about how this behavior is impacting them. If the behavior continues, it may be a sign of deeper issues in the relationship or the partner's own emotional baggage that needs to be addressed.
I dont want to hear anything about their ex's. I do t have much history, wa late bloomer, I dont really talk about my ex, or dating before I met my now fiancé. She had more experience and talks about hers more often. I don't really wonna hear it
s It would annoy me. If he's with me, why is he thinking about his ex? It would make me question our relationship and I would wonder if he really loved me.
I would be annoyed. I don't want to hear about the ex or be compared to them regardless if it is good or bad. Keep that fucker out of the conversation
I have been with my husband for over 6 years, and I can't think of one single time we have discussed exes.
I'd probably get annoyed after awhile
But FML for me living on memory lane, I think and talk about my exs way more thanI should. But with enough willpower I've managed to keep my thoughts to myself for the most part
i'd be long gone lol. ain't no way i'm going to have someone who is supposed to be my partner constantly compare me to an ex. honestly that sounds toxic.
A comparison to her ex is exactly the ego boost I need to get me through my stressful - especially if they did a ton of wild and adventurous sexual stuff together.
I'd feel good knowing I am better than her ex. I wouldn't mind if she said it a few times but if it was constantly, every time we were together it would get old
Annoyed. They need to go back and get with them then. 👋🏽✌🏾
I wouldn't be okay with it... Better than them? So, what am I? A contestant or something? Lol...
It's never a good sign. You can be damn sure she's talking shit about you behind your back.
Annoying cause I would feel that girl isn't over her ex boyfriend.
I would feel like maybe perhaps a self aware robotic humanoid who gets told by their master, “you did very good”.
Not good on my part to have a partner who talks about her ex all the time.
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