Why do people stay in relationships they’re miserable in?

[Summeroflove]

Why do some people just give everything to a woman or a man… and get nothing in return. When there’s better out there…. They KNOW this and yet they won’t leave the person

[liburnia]

Culture of "till death do us part", children, feeling of failure... There are many reasons. Maybe even hoping it could get better at some point if they try hard enough and doesn't give up. Love is strange🤷

[Summeroflove]

People get married to the wrong people

[liburnia]

That is the truth. Some people get married thinking love is all that matters. Some because they're afraid of ending up alone. I believe that people should live together for a couple of years before deciding to get married.

[Summeroflove]

Love does matter. But I feel some people aren’t even really in love. Some marry because they feel they have to, kids out of wedlock, etc etc.

Some are lust. Some are just desperate. It depends. Some for money….

[Summeroflove]

Some people also just quit though when things get hard. There is a time to work through things and a time to just move on

[Staceym]

But they could also be getting out of it more than what you think. It’s about them and what they want. It shouldn’t matter what you think they are not getting

[Nikki1989]

Some people think if they leave or dump the person, they won't be able to find anyone else.

[Summeroflove]

True. But sometimes there is even attractive people of the opposite sex who are telling them…. You need to break up. You deserve better.

Yet they still won’t

[coachTanthony]

Judgement plain and simple. When you invest a certain amount of time with someone you feel guilty for leaving and others around you will remind you as well.

[ushouldnotknow]

Honestly, because they want the relationship they have with the person that's giving them nothing in return to work out. It is true that they know they can most likely find something better with someone else, but the thing is, they wanted it to be with the person who ironically makes them miserable. I don't know. Maybe it's fear of letting them go. Maybe they've grown too attached to the person that they can't simply imagine life without them anymore.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah true.

But you don’t wanna stay with someone you know you wouldn’t marry. Because if you’re married…. Look. Now you’re either stick together FOR LIFE…. Or then you can divorce and…. That’s gonna be a mess

[ushouldnotknow]

Yeah, I see where you're coming from. But the thing is, love blinds people into thinking things can work out when they know deep within that it won't. So even when everything in them is telling them to leave and forget the person, they will still choose to stay.

[Summeroflove]

It can yes at times. It really depends on the specific situation and circumstances. We can’t read minds or hearts only God can.

[Anonymous]

Maybe because they would be miserable anyway.
It's like the divorcee neighbour of mine. She divorced her husband because she was miserable with him and knew that she could support herself and the kids as she had a good job and would get child support, alimony and the family home. She was happy for a while and dated a lot of great guys who were only intrested in a buck. Anyway flashforward 5 years and her ex husband is married to a younger woman and having his child, her kids now in their teens choose to go see their father more than she would like or control and she is more miserable than ever and regrets not appreciating what she had.

[Anonymous]

Because of attachment... If someone is too attached with his/her partner , or one is in love with another , so they'd not think of getting seperated from their loved one. Despite of one partner being toxic and probably he/she doesn't love, may be it'd just be a tympass for the one... but the other one may have a lot of attachment n love. that's why.. they just try to bear everything and try every bit to make their relationship work despite the relationship being onesided. Because they can't handle the pain of seperation from their love and also there could be a fear of being alone.

[Anonymous]

People may remain in unsatisfying relationships due to:

fear of change

fear of being alone

low self-esteem

financial dependence

A belief that they do not deserve better or

belief that things will change for the better.

[nolabels]

Investment, commitment, children.

I'm there.

I try to not be miserable...

[Summeroflove]

Sorry man

[nolabels]

It's all good.
I try to keep my chin up.

[Twalli]

Sometimes they just love being in a relationship. Sometimes they believe that they can't get or don't deserve better. Sometimes they don't know that what's out there is actually better, they see better relationships, but the problem with those is that the guy in those relationships is unavailable

[DenizLikesTennis]

1. Lack of Self-Esteem

2. Feeling insecure and a need of protection because being alone/lonely is something to be feared

I could make so many assumptions right now but these two are my possibilities

[OfMiceandMen]

Not sure why someone would stay in a miserable relationship, it would just add so much more drama to your life. I am not interested in someone that complicates things. I lead a simple life whereby I try to focus on being positive. If someone complains constantly or is just miserable, I tend to get out quick. Not living my life being dragged down by someone else.

[LiamJHayden]

Fear of being alone. I, for one, would rather be alone than is a bad or mediocre relationship.

[Summeroflove]

Same

[asphaltrhymes]

I've always wondered this. 😳 Makes me glad how I've remained single this long 😊😊🙂 sunshine's and rainbows merrily over here, no wife dramas and no girlfriend drama's, not even exe's 👏😁

[asphaltrhymes]

(continued) Sucks to be other people, evil laugh 😂😂😂😁

[maskgirl]

because some people get to attached to easy and can't get out of it because they think that person might change or they are meant to be together

[Summeroflove]

Yeah that’s so sad. You can’t change someone. Even people who aren’t bad people they’re just not compatible. They want to change each other into someone they’re not.

Instead of finding someone who better fits their wants and needs

[Hotmodelwloser]

They’re scared. Men esp. sickening. Great question

[JustMeL120]

Because they are used to it. It's like asking why don't you change jobs your miserable in. Or why don't you move house.

[BigDog1989]

They feel trapped, or there might even be kids involved. Thinking they need to stay together "for the kids". I have a friend who did that for a long time. But the he hit her, and she was done

[Iron_Man]

Because they’ve had great times together probably and some things have made sense and they’re hoping to rekindle it. They don’t just want to throw it away because you’ll be more miserable breaking up then they will be together. They just need to fix their problems. Maybe take it to a professional relationship counselor

[richardcory]

Often I think its habit more than anything else. Day by day it just seem easier to keep going, and hope that somehow things will get better, even when they know they won't

[asphaltrhymes]

This makes me feel better about myself being single 😌👍 and having never fallen down the rabbit trap so many fall for, maybe i've been lucky all this time, 😅

[itsalyssaagain]

Afraid of being alone or not finding better. Low self esteem.

[hbg84]

Honestly its because the fear being alone so much more than being miserable while still being with someone

[art84]

Cause they can't find anything better and probably feel guilty if they left that person..

[DextroShade]

Either scarcity mindset or they are doing it for the kids.

[BoopBoopBeep]

For the kids? Habit?

[Summeroflove]

Usually those people shouldn’t have even married in the first place

[BoopBoopBeep]

People change. Life circumstances change.

[TheThingALing]

Less because sucken cost fallacy, more because personality types, attachment styles, and insecurities

[shades777]

complacency, easy booty, share rent, kids, who knows

[Staceym]

Because it is who they are and it’s in their unconscious and low self worth

[JamesRandiDebates]

If you're not married, there is no reason to stay. Unless you have kids together possibly. If you're married, sometimes It's just cheaper to keep the bitch than to go through all the hassle of divorce rape.

[RingOfFire]

Because LOVE STINKS!

https://www.youtube.com/embed/E0LAs7X5ybE

[Charliefretz329]

Kids, commitments, bills, shared possessions

[Summeroflove]

True. Some aren’t even married though or have kids or anything.

[Charliefretz329]

That’s true. Some people are also miserable no matter the situation

[Yannishka]

They be too selfless and insecure to leave!

[304strichZUP]

Consult a counsellor! There are specific psychlogical reasons

[FreyaRed]

people are afraid of changes

[juatadude]

because there may be hope,

[Andres77]

Sometimes it’s for the kids.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Beats me.