How do I navigate my current situation? I’m sleeping with a woman who has a boyfriend?

[Haystack90]

So, a few weeks ago at an event for my gym, I hit it off with a gorgeous younger woman.
We were flirting and at the end of the night I found out she had a boyfriend. She added me on social media and started sending me messages.
Then last weekend she came over to my place and we had sex after she complained she’s not happy anymore in her relationship.
Well, the next weekend I invited her to my buddies place and we ended up hooking up again. She then left to go to her boyfriend and they got into a terrible fight and she came back to my buddies place to stay the night because she needed to feel safe.
She says he’s not physically abusive, but emotionally abusive. I feel bad a little being the other man but we both have feelings for each other.
I told her she needs to figure out what she wants, but I still want to see her.
Am I wasting my time? I really think we might have something because we just want to be with each other all the time but it’s hard to have relationship like moments together having to sneak around

[RespectfulGuy]

I'm surprised to read that almost all replies are negative, asking you to leave because she can do the same to you.

But my immediate thoughts before reading other answers is "Best Man Wins".

Much like business trying to win over a new client who's already using the competitor's product, we should win the woman we love over since she's not engaged or married.

To conclude, despite all the negative views, I still think if you like or love her, then win her over. She's still available, legally speaking.

[Haystack90]

I’m winning her over every time I see her. She already has one foot out the door with him and I’m doing all I can to get the other foot out.

[RespectfulGuy]

Good luck!

[EricSummer]

Go on for a bit, but very soon ask her to make a decision who she wants to be with. As her boyfriend is abusive it should not be too difficult for her to leave him for good.

[Haystack90]

That’s where I’m at now. I told her she needs to make up her mind, and I want her to spend time with me so she can see what I’m about

[Molly1997]

Why would you have sex with a taken women? You tarnish your reputation and you risk that guy coming after you, who knows if he actually is psychotic. If you ever form a relationship with that girl what’s to stop her from cheating on you? She doesn’t seem worth this

[Haystack90]

It’s what I need right now. I had my heart broken and she’s been a light in my life.

[Spongebobssocks]

You go to her man and say what you've done. Then you leave them both. Dont be a pussy.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank you for MHO! Hope you make the right choice

[msc545]

You are what is called a "Transitional Object" in Psychoanalysis. Your presence in her life is helpng her to separate fom her boyfriend and she derives comfort from your presence and availability - for now. When she is finished leaving her boyfriend, she may not need you anymore at all, although forming a meaningful relationship with you may be the thing that allows her to comfortably leave him.

[Simslover92]

How's that saying go... if she does it to him, she'll do it to you.

You should just leave things be and move on. You're only going to get hurt in the end.

[EricSummer]

You mean the situation may repeat? If he becomes abusive as well and their relationship is broken she may again be open to meeting someone new? I think that is a risk he can accept if he wants that woman.

[Drumlin2001]

Don't get too emotionally invested. Enjoy it for what it is, but I doubt she's ready for a relationship straight out of another. Or if she is it would be a bit a red flag to me. Takes some time to heal

[lorenzomichael]

You navigate by not getting cought, or somebody's going to have their foot up your ass. Besides you should be doing that anyways how would you like it? The cheating not the foot?

[runnerboy]

She needs to dump him before you two get real serious. Are you two sexually compatible?

[Haystack90]

Yeah we’re very sexually compatible and I want her to pick me but that’s not my call

[Anonymous]

You both sound like very confused teenagers.

[Haystack90]

She is 23 and I’m 32. I just ended my previous situationship and was intending to just try and get over it when this happened.

[OfDeath]

If she is doing that to her boyfriend, what do you think she will do to you?

Stop being a dumbass.

[Iron_Man]

Never get involved with people that have relationships. Don’t be surprised if somebody comes over for a can of whoop ass

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are wasting your time. WTH would you bring her around your friends? Just bend her over every once in awhile, then send her home. Period.

[Anonymous]

just bust a phat nut on her face and send it to buddy, then you can start your family

[sunflower00]

Not a nice thing to do, I’d end it if I were you

[Ironic_Method]

You think she won't do the same to you?

[Anonymous]

Exit stage left and never look back.