Girls, How do I deal with being separated from my girlfriend while she is in the mental hospital and what to do for her when she comes home?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend has been dealing with anxiety for years and it has caused bad depression and she claims the only reason she is still hasn't committed was because of me. She got mad at her dad and she threatened to cut her wrist and when she went to her room. I went up after her about 5 seconds later. When I enter her room, my heart dropped as fast as light travels. I caught her cutting herself with a razor and I snatched it and tried so hard not to cry and we had to send her to the hospital. When she was at the hospital, she swore that she would get better if she just went home and she cried the whole time. It killed me to see her so scared and depressed and anxious. She gave me the last hug before she went in. I walked out into the waiting room and I started balling bc I realized I can't see or contact my girlfriend for at least a week. I stayed up until 3:30am crying while missing her so much. After I cried I went to the edge of my bed and got on my knees and prayed hoping she will be okay. After I prayed, I cried again until I fell asleep. I woke up this morning and I've been doing labor to keep my mind off of it. Overall though, will my girlfriend still love me the same after she gets out? It's my biggest worry and I need a woman's opinion who knows a thin or two about love.

[Whatthefluff]

I think she will be grateful that you stuck by her side and show that you love her. It’s a good thing she’s getting help. Remember to take care of yourself and apply your coping skills.

[MJackson1234]

If you really love this person then them getting healthy is far more important than you not seeing them or them needing to learn to be on their own without you. It's toxic that both of you are this codependent on each other especially at this young age.

Now the healthy thing is to support her and be a shoulder for her when she needs it. Also you need to really think about what you just said. Her getting help and healthy is making you fearful of losing her. You need to talk to your family and a therapist about this.

[Asker]

The things is. I know I won't loose her. I've been betrayed by so many people so I developed anxiety from it. I posted this the same night she went to the mental h. I was in shock and I really wasn't thinking. I realized that this will be worth it. I also got news from her mom that she is doing a lot better and I'm really happy for her and I cannot wait to see her we she comes home. I told her that I don't care how long it takes as long as she gets better.

[MJackson1234]

This what your problem is. My parents were each other's first and only. Dad died saying he is just worried about leaving my mother alone. But I promise you for both of them if they have crossed the line they would have ended that relationship in a heart beat. No quiestioned asked and no second chances given. That's what it means to be healthy. You are more than willing and able to love and trust but if BS comes your way then you can walk away in a heart beat. This imagination that you have that somehow you are above the rest of humanity and don't deserve to deal with shit needs to end. That's not life. It has good moments and bad moments but how you deal with it is what makes a great life.

[Anonymous]

Stop the praying BS. Do something useful and be supportive.

[Asker]

I am supportive I check up on her family everyday. I don't just pray. I am full of action and I physically and mentally put everything to support and protect the peoole who I love so much.