I know this will be triggering for some as it's a polarising subject but I have been in a relationship for a number of years. On paper he offers a lot (friendship, comfort, financial stability and loves me), but I have always missed a "spark" and intimacy is almost non existent. When we met I found the comfort as an appeal (as there is a lot of relationship security) but worry I went into the relationship too soon or for the wrong reasons but I knew he was a great guy so things would just kind of "work out". For the most part they have but we don't really talk seriously, or fight or have the same passion I feel like others have in their relationships. Definitely feel like I followed my head instead of my heart.
Recently though, I met someone and he has that spark I feel l like I have missed out on and he has all the same plans for the future (something my current partner has been undecicive or not open to me about). This guy is everything I would have usually looked for in a partner if I hadn't "settled". I want to do the right thing by my partner and know that talking to this new guy is off limits but it's made me think that there is more out there than this relationship can offer. It has me thinking that maybe I should break up my current relationship. Just it seems like a crazy thing to do to throw things away just because there might be some guy out there with more of a "spark". Wondering if anyone has been in this situation and offer some insight. Is chasing that kind of passion and connection with someone crazy and selfish or is that something people genuinely have with long term partners still?