Soulmate energy. Do you believe it's real and is it real enough to break up a relationship?

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I know this will be triggering for some as it's a polarising subject but I have been in a relationship for a number of years. On paper he offers a lot (friendship, comfort, financial stability and loves me), but I have always missed a "spark" and intimacy is almost non existent. When we met I found the comfort as an appeal (as there is a lot of relationship security) but worry I went into the relationship too soon or for the wrong reasons but I knew he was a great guy so things would just kind of "work out". For the most part they have but we don't really talk seriously, or fight or have the same passion I feel like others have in their relationships. Definitely feel like I followed my head instead of my heart.

Recently though, I met someone and he has that spark I feel l like I have missed out on and he has all the same plans for the future (something my current partner has been undecicive or not open to me about). This guy is everything I would have usually looked for in a partner if I hadn't "settled". I want to do the right thing by my partner and know that talking to this new guy is off limits but it's made me think that there is more out there than this relationship can offer. It has me thinking that maybe I should break up my current relationship. Just it seems like a crazy thing to do to throw things away just because there might be some guy out there with more of a "spark". Wondering if anyone has been in this situation and offer some insight. Is chasing that kind of passion and connection with someone crazy and selfish or is that something people genuinely have with long term partners still?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

We all have 98% of the same DNA WE All came from the same place

Depending on the way your parents raised you and there Genes inter acted with the other 1 1/2 or the other 2 % of DNA and the the moment you turned 18 or sooner when you left your parents nest and you were on your own.
You either kept going with the house you started building on the foundation your parents started for you.

Or you said wait a min something is wrong here and you challenged everything and you started rebuilding from the 98% that is so weaved in to whom we really are

And as 1 with everyone and as 1 with our universe and 1 with energy of self and universe we are all soul mates.
As I sit right here in my room I
Guarantee you if I was to talk to you on the phone right now you would feel my energy as I would feel your energy as I do feel your energy through your words when you understand what I'm trying to say you will fill it up into your chest your stomach your Chi energy throughout your whole body and it is one of the most beautiful feelings you will ever feel in life

If you want to know what it feels like think back at the last time you made love with someone you say you love
1 min before you both orgasm the world kind of stops there is clarity you can almost telepathically read each other's minds and what each person is thinking if you're being 100% honest but then something takes over your body your mind that beautiful feeling is so beautiful and the person that you're with and the non-understanding of what's Happening you will think it's love that you're feeling you will think the person you're with love you so deep because nobody has ever given you that feeling before you mistake it as love it's not love that's why there's so many divorces in this world this is when two energies become one there is a deeper understanding that we're supposed to be getting but we mistake it as love because we don't know any different

When you understand this two energies becoming one you can incorporate that into your soul your mind your spirit your energy and your whole life changes you will understand energy because the whole planet is made of energy everything is vibration everything is frequency everything is megahertz the planet has an energy field 60 ft around the whole planet we have an energy filled that is 15 ft anywhere around us each and every person and when you understand energy and you walk next to somebody you can feel their energy their energy will tell you everything about them energies communicate with vibration with frequency with megahertz just like a radio station no matter where it is you can turn on a knob you will hear it enjoy hear it and feel it because of the frequency the megahertz and the vibration

We are all soulmates there are different frequencies that we all put out like I said I'm here in my room you're where you're at and I guarantee it you can feel my frequency my energy from where you're at they are communicating it's like a radio station what you do with it how much you believe into it how much you understand it is up to you I can touch you with my frequency I can melt you with my frequency you can do the same thing not only with me but with anybody we are all made to be one with the universe

EricSummer · Accepted Answer

When you settle for someone there is a greater risk that you fall for someone else later, do you mean that? It's got nothing to do woth soulmates, but with different choices.

I think it depends on what you want. Do you want a family? It sounds like your current guy could be the better choice for that Consider also that the thrill of novelty will fade with the new one as well.

Otherwise, if you are just looking for companionship and romance, why not try the new one? Just make a decision and a clean breakup.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Well you know why you chose your current partner-

For the stability now.

Are you stable now? You should be.

That way you can decide now, who is more important and of value.

The financial guy? Or the financial funny guy?

You said it all wrong- it’s not “throwing away.”

It’s: you don’t live your whole life with financial security if it means you’re not happy.

You don’t stay with security to make you happy- you pursue passions and financial security should already be a given. It’s why I think only financially independent people should date. Both independent to make clear decisions- not out of obligations.

Before you were obligated by fear or concern. Now you’re obligated out of needs and desires. Obligated perhaps, by heart.

Be honest with your current partner if you feel like you want to try dating the new guy. He should know and it can all be monotone or so. All that matters is that he’s updated. Then you can add in the fact you both can do better and find better. If there’s no spark between you both, then it means it’s a disservice to yourself and to him because you both have the opportunity to find someone who will be more excited about you two, but instead deny those possibilities.

I think you should also stay by your partner as a friend and him also, so if things don’t work out later on, maybe even the tragedies will bring you two back together, stronger than ever. It may be spark-less, but you’d both be understanding and have went through a new season somewhat together. You both would have been open about it kind of like a team- or two really good and honest friends.

Ask him what he thinks about it also. So he has a chance to voice his opinions.

Maybe you both can prep for the close of the relationship, and decide good moving out dates, and/or if you both will hang out still, or give each other the time and space to find new partners.

He will need to find a new one, (maybe he was already considering, don’t know), and you would need to not force yourself exactly on the new guy, but see if he wants to take further steps closer together.

If it didn’t work with him, then you’d have to be prepared to resolve your emotions and move past that, as well as either looking again for new spark partners or ultimately deciding if you will want to be with an honest and loyal friend for the remainder of time even if he’s not exactly a firework by his own nature lol.

Best to you!

I really believe you both are capable of finding your sparks and still having a good honest friendship!

For that feedback and updates and all of you wish! 🤷‍♀️

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

So I do believe soulmate energy is real, but is it real enough to break up another relationship. No unless that relationship is going south. So I have a massive crush on this one guy. We match each others energies pretty well. Always seems to target me in a group but it’s all fun and games. I think he’s trying to keep it professional as I am a student of his. Do I believe he is my soulmate, he can be. Does he have a girlfriend? I don’t have a clue. I don’t see one on his social media, but even if he did I wouldn’t want them to breakup because of me being his soulmate. Don’t be a home wrecker and that isn’t just for married men, that applies to men that are taken in general. Married, girlfriend, or even seeing someone.

Anonymous · Answer

This is a challenging situation and requires you balance the consequences. you're not married, evidently, so there is more flexibility available to you. In all things, be honest

I felt the same way towards a friend She felt perfect for me. But by that time Ms. Right came too late. I am already married. I already have kids. So, recognizing my commitment and wanting the best for everyone, i told my friend, someone I love, to stay the hell away from me. I broke her so that she could let go, move on and be happy without me.

Remember, love... isn't thinking about yourself.

Haaa135 · Answer

It is real, but I don't believe it can break up a strong relationship where you have chosen to commit to the other person. It can, however, push you the rest of the way out of a weak relationship where you were already on your way out of it anyway.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

I had several times the soulmate feeling but it was always just imagination because few days later the person didn't mean anything to me. Maybe it's my emotional instability towards other people, but I don't think I'm someone special in lack of emotional stability in closer relationships.

shades777 · Answer

I remember dating this woman who was really rude to me and when she say I was actually really cool and unfazed by her, she later revealed she wanted to give me her number, we ended up having a really great dating experience but initially I wasn't even considering her as a option because she was being a bitch

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t believe in soulmates. We are all flawed, we just make commitment to love this flawed person and stick with it.

slatyb · Answer

End your relationship. You aren't happy. You won't be happy as long as you are with your current boyfriend.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I believe in soul mates, but I've also learned through experience that the grass is rarely greener on the other side

BlackJeep · Answer

Absolutely it exists. I dated someone for a while and we had a great time but when we kissed it was all wrong. It felt like I was kissing my sister and we friendzoned each other

SolitarySolace · Answer

Its not real. If it were many people would never meet their soulmates because said soulmate could be dead or living in another state or country and they'll never meet.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

I feel like over time maybe i've always just felt lust. Lol. 😃

Matt-G · Answer

Only if it means that you'd NEVER EVER leave that soulmate by choice!

In_Trance · Answer

Real, yes If it is in fact real, it won't break up a relationship

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Princess is bored so she's gonna jet with HALF+.

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes and no

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