I don't mean it as in if your crushing or seeing that person's partner as in a romantic way. I will share my example. I used to be in a loveless marriage. I didn't realized my marriage was loveless until I was visiting a good friend of mine in Utah when I saw my friend had an accident and her spouse went his way to hug her and ask her if she was okay. Something my ex husband had never done. They were always together and loved each other. I mean this couple look like as if they been marriade for decades. I guess some of us just are meant to be alone. Im not sure.
I haven’t been envious of someone else’s relationship.
But, on several occasions I’ve heard people, acquaintances, and friends say they hope to have a relationship like mine.
“You’re my favorite couple.” Or “Relationship goals.” Or even, “Are you looking for a third?”
I believe the key to having a relationship that other people aspire to have is making sure that both you and your partner prioritize the relationship and care for it like you would a garden that you cherish.
Where both of you are willing to put 100% effort into the relationship, like growing and tending and protecting the most beautiful garden together.
You give your garden the time and attention it needs to thrive. You always makes sure the plants in your garden are getting enough water and sunlight and nutrients. You get rid of weeds and treat diseases at the very first signs of symptoms (e. g. addressing problems and issues and resolving them before they become worse problems). You and your partner are committed to creating the most beautiful garden you can together, and it’s a genuine lifelong aspiration of yours.
A shared value, goal, and dream.
The most beautiful relationships are not stumbled upon. They are created, nurtured, and protected, by two people who value and appreciate closeness in a relationship, and who never take that bond for granted.
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I always feel so jealous of guys who have a very attractive girlfriend, and I often masturbate while I'm thinking about what it must be like to have sex with her.
To answer your question, not really because you never really know what it’s like between two people behind closed doors. No such thing as a perfect relationship.
In reference to what you’ve described — it’s just a sign you’re unhappy in your relationship. I used to be in a relationship with a guy who didn’t give me the attention nor put in the effort that I deserved.
I watched a movie once and the guy was so attentive to the girl. He truly cared for her and loved her and showed up to her. He wouldn’t let her go to sleep if she was upset…mine didn’t even know that I was upset.
It was like a bell rang and made me realise just how unfulfilled I am in the relationship. It really pushed me to think about breaking up with him and what kind of man I want to be with and deserve to have.
So I’d say it sounds similar to your situation.
Yes. When my mom was my age she had a loving husband, which is my dad and still is the love of his life, and two kids. Shit I’m having a hard time finding a dinner date 😂. I do have a big crush on this guy, but we are keeping it professional. I do need to text him this weekend about a test so I’m hoping it works out in my favor. Fingers crossed!
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No. Because I only see what they want us to see. Have you not seen enough Datelines? Behind closed doors of picture perfect couples…
Hm, envy is too strong a word.
Yearning is more accurate to me. I had a similar story to yours, but instead of romance it was my parents' abuse.
I find it now mostly a really small part of what I feel is yearning, mostly I'm happy and maybe taking notes on what sort of behaviour I'm looking for.Nope.
Every relationship has its own problems.
Nothing to be envious about.
Now that I am single there are so less things I am stressed about.Totally understand what you're asking. (and sorry for your experience... I get it). And, yes, I've felt that way.
No, but it's common for karens like you to be since y'all sap the joy out of the lives of people around you.
I wouldn’t call it envy, but when I was with my ex I saw relationships that were a lot healthier and realized I was missing out on a lot.
You deserve to be alone looking at the way you casually verbally abuse people including your racist comment below
No. Because even the best relationship take work to maintain. So if you see bliss they earning that. And it isn't always sunshine and rainbows. When I see two people genuinely happy together. I'm genuinely happy for them.
No, I am pretty sure that my wife and i have one of the best relationships I have ever seen.
No but no w I envy your husband/boyfriend how’d he get you?
The way you've worded it, yes, I have always longed for a relationship like my parents or grandparents had.
I did. Yes. That was a while ago. Now I'm single, haven't started looking for a date yet. by the way, parts of Utah is nice. Lol
No. For one I don't struggle with envy, and two I seriously don't care about someone's else relationship.
I have a loveless marriage so I have all kinds of feelings and temptations
No, if anything I applaud it. ( That's the way it posed 2 b )
Not since I was a teenager. LOL
Naw. Don't really care.
Not really.
Nope.
no I haven't
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