Was this paragraph horrible that I sent to my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend hasn’t made anytime for me the past 2 weeks he has not seen me in 2 weeks and has been standing me up everyday. Even on my birthday. So I sent this is this horrible of me? I also found out he’s been sleeping wi to someone else? The ball is in his court now right? He’s ignored me for days.

[JamesMI616]

I'm sorry but he's not your boyfriend. I'm not sure if he ever was (more info needed). You deserve better. You can do better. No you aren't wrong for sending that. He's wrong for standing you up. Once is unacceptable but on your bday is unforgivable. I know what it's like to chase someone who doesn't want you & it sucks, but don't let anyone treat you like that. The right guy will do whatever it takes to make time for you. He will want to share everything with you not ghost you. Move on

[Asker]

Well he said he loved me and that we were together but I guess he never officially asked me out. I’m pregnant with his child ( 5 months ) and the past 4 days I’ve found out he’s been sleeping with this woman frequently and he’s been standing me up for her including my birthday. I guess I’m just numb so I have no anger. I guess I’m just hoping he replies and tells me he does want me and that the rumour about him cheating was a lie. He dosent know that I know about them two, I think he just thinks I’m assuming he’s seeing someone else

[JamesMI616]

That sucks. The pregnancy thing makes it worse if he knows. If you try to keep him this is going to be your whole life. I get wanting him around but at this point your only hurting yourself. Hopefully he'll be a father to his child but if not, someone else will want you. He's definitely seeing someone else even if he did say he loves you. You deserve better

[Asker]

Yeah he does know and his family know. We are having a boy. Yeah I agree if it’s not this woman he’s sleeping with it will be another one. I’ve told him to call me when he can on the text message but I don’t know at what point he will

[JamesMI616]

Maybe he's rebelling against the idea of settling down and being a parent but that's no excuse to ghost the mother of your child and stand her up on her bday. I feel like you want him to be something he's not. He is the father of your child so you'll always have that. Make the best of it, but look for love and support elsewhere. You have options

[boggboss]

No its just pointless u already know he is cheating on you so ehy do u think he will care to respond especially when he has already been ignoring you I get you might not have the strength to break up with him but leaving your emotions in the hands of someone that has already shown you he dont respect u is just stupid

[boggboss]

Like what are u actually expecting to come from this situation

[Asker]

I guess I just messaged him to tell him how I feel? I expected a reply as I haven’t actually ended it I was just saying my emotions and expecting him to make more time for me and I just expected him to tell me that him sleeping around was a lie

[boggboss]

Why do u expect this from a guy that has been ignoring u already and ignored your birthday

[Asker]

Yeah I know, I just have hope in the wrong people I guess. I probably won’t get the response I want

[boggboss]

Seems like u know u won't to be honest the longer u out this iff the worst it will be especially considering u are pregnant

[MementoMori777]

No like I don't like the way you are suppressing your anger and pain 😶

You should send him one more message confirming you are breaking up with him, if he found someone else then I'm sure you will as well, for now, break off the commitment and don't look back.

[Shamalien]

You’re being far too nice. He’s cheating while you’re pregnant with his child. This situation is fucked. Someone needs to give him a good slap

[DextroShade]

Sounds like he put you in the recreational use only category.

[Asker]

He says he loves me though why would he say that? I’m pregnant with his child

[DextroShade]

Is he really your boyfriend is he some guy you are seeing? And if he won't commit you should get an abortion because it's very hard to find a guy as a baby momma.

[Asker]

I’m 5 months pregnant so it’s way to late for that and I’d never since I’ve always wanted a Son, and I don’t even know at this point he said we are together but when I sit back and think about it he hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend. Yeah that’s true a lot of guys already know I’m pregnant though and still wanna meet but I say no because I find it weird lol

[gorydetails]

You can't negotiate attraction.