World's slowest breakup advice?

[Anonymous]

Over the last few weeks I have tried having conversations with my partner that I am not happy and if things don't change then I will leave. He gets upset about it but then the next day acts as if we didn't even have the conversation, like everything is back to normal. We have had at least 3 conversations now, all the same, with the same outcome. He says he doesn't want to breakup but will if that is what I want, but makes no effort to change or communicate. Is a few weeks just not enough time to see any changes? (I just want him to talk to me about how he feels about me and if he is happy or not). Things just don't seem to be happening and I'm tired of having the same conversation. At this point I actually just want to walk away because I am not being listened to. Am I being unreasonable? Is it still too early to make a call? Its a 10+ year relationship.

[8UniquelyBoring8]

It's understandable that you're feeling frustrated with your partner's response to your concerns and conversations about your relationship. It's important to give your partner time to process the information and make an effort to change, but it's also important to set boundaries and expectations for what you need from the relationship. Having the same conversation multiple times without seeing any changes can indicate a lack of effort or respect on your partner's part.


It's not unreasonable to want your partner to communicate with you and make an effort to address your concerns. After a 10+ year relationship, both partners should be willing to work towards resolving issues and improving the relationship. However, if you feel like your needs are not being met and your partner is not listening to you, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship and consider if it's still fulfilling for you.

[glennos89]

Follow your intuition! If you feel that the you tried your best but nothing changed then accept it and brake up with him. I think brake up will make him understand what you where trying to tell him because men dont understand what they have untill they lose it. Its something many men experience. We appreciate what a woman brings to us in terms of happiness and care once we lose it and that's is a sad thing but it's the truth

[boggboss]

I dont think he thinks u will walk so why would he change