True or False: Once a cheater, always a cheater?

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WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

That’s silly. It’s a catchy saying, but that’s simply not accurate. That’s just people justifying putting up walls because they’re afraid to be betrayed themselves.

It might be fair to say a previous cheater may be more likely to cheat again or cheat on future partners, and certainly there are plenty of narcissistic people out there who may just not operate in many facets of life without regard for others. But I definitely don’t think you can just say someone did it once before and therefore they’ll always be likely to do it in the future. Like that’s just not real-world accurate. You could apply that logic to all sorts of things in life and you’d probably find it doesn’t hold up. People are just extra sensitive about fidelity in relationships so they overstate the likelihood of reoccurrence.

Our feeble human brains can’t stand that life is nuanced, lmao, we want definitive answers and hard-and-fast rules. But that’s just not what reality is. You have to look at things case by case, but that’s usually too much heavy lifting for us. So instead, we just come up with a bumper sticker slogan like “once a cheater, always a cheater”, turn our brains off, and call it a day. As if all the people we date even disclose this information, lmao. How would you even know this stuff unless you lived in a wicked small town? Any one of us could be dating a former cheater right now, and we might not even know, and they still might be faithful to us despite that.

I don’t know, I just feel like you can’t live your life all paranoid about getting cheated on. There ARE people out there who WILL do you foul, and the next person, and the next one after that, and I’m not saying you can’t make an informed decision based on that. But I’ve never understood this dating death penalty for cheaters. What about when we’re older? I’m 44, what if I cheated on my girlfriend in 8th grade 30 years ago or something? That’s it? Just done? Exiled forever to some dating like for people with permanent STDs? Cheaters’ Tinder, where you find a partner but you just cheat on each other all the time in a perpetually fucked up relationship? Let’s get serious😂

EricSummer · Accepted Answer

Mostly true. About half of all people never cheat in their lives. The other half does, depending on the conditions. So if their conditions are fulfilled a cheater will do it again.

Dysney1023 · Accepted Answer

My thoughts are true. But not because they will cheat again necessarily. It seems like a lot of cheaters could cheat for the reason of emotional neglect or physical neglect. Or they are just gross. But if someone suffers with wandering eye syndrome they always will struggle with it. Cheating is usually paired with the human ego. And what I mean by that is if someone’s ego is not being stroked enough they will go elsewhere. It’s a very yucky way to think but it’s not always black and white. It hurts to think once a cheater always a cheater. But I reckon it is true based on ego. Unless they let it die. Which is not something someone who cheats would necessarily even consider.

NuitBlanche · Accepted Answer

I believe that. Once you have crossed the moral threshold, you can do it again and again. I would never choose a man who has cheated. I would have no confidence. A lot of men say they are adults now and would never do it again. Maybe. There may be those and others

caring__1 · Answer

Once you wear a diaper, you'll always wear a diaper.

Once you drink out of a baby bottle, you'll always drink out of a baby bottle.

Once you fail a test, you'll always fail any test you take.

Once you do something stupid, you'll continue to do stupid things.

Once you turn 31, you'll continue to be 31 for the rest of your life.

Now, answer your own question.

kylee2437 · Answer

I can’t say true or false. In order for a cheater to change, they have to do direct lifestyle changes / spiritual changes. Yes a person can change BUT only if they do a big amount of other changes.

AviatorTom · Answer

True, sort of. Once someone cheats, they can always be called a cheater. Some people will cheat multiple times,. Others will do it only once, and be forgiven by their partner.

Andres77 · Answer

There’s a thing about human nature, once a boundary is crossed it is more likely to be crossed again.
Same for stealing, overeating, drinking, domestic abuse, verbal abuse, sexual assault.
It’s just easier to cross the line the more one does it.
There’s no guarantee that they will or won’t be it’s a lot more likely, unless they get help. Sometimes prison time is necessary (for the extreme cases I mentioned).

justlookin69 · Answer

Nah, I don’t think so. Once a person find that someone… then the cheating will cease to exist. I dare not say that special someone because reasons but I do feel that there’s a person out there that’s made for the one cheating, that’ll slow them down and make them the one for that person.

Sour-rose · Answer

Welll that's as silly as my mom used to say about my dad. "Once a drunk, always a drunk." Dumbass shit did not stick. Father hasn't taken a drink ever since I was born.

Tina19 · Answer

Personally i would never give a 2nd chance to a cheater be it a lover friend or any person once who broke my trust don't deserve the forgiveness

sheenagwapa · Answer

people change but a person who has relationship with Jesus i believe is the one who is more capable to change for the better

BasedBaeBecca · Answer

False. A person who cheated in the past may learn their lesson, realize how much they hurt another person, feel guilty about it and never cheat again.

Nikki1989 · Answer

The chances of reoffending are very high indeed.

Daniela1982 · Answer

True or false - once someone asks this question everyone else will too.

RavVid · Answer

I would say yes. They have failed to be faithful and will probably do so again

Soph04 · Answer

I believe if the relationship is healthy and meant to be then there will be no cheating even if they have done it in the past, but if there is problems and the feelings are fully there that the chances of them cheating again is likely.

exitseven · Answer

no, I imagine there is some truth to it but people can feel remorse and change their behavior.

SawerBrown · Answer

More or less true but nsybe not in every case

Ben487 · Answer

Probably more often true than false but not always.

Shashou2210 · Answer

To be fair, i’d say 99.99999% true Gotta keep some type of hope for redemption right? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Shamalien · Answer

Maybe it’s not 100% true but I think it’s true enough

Anonymous · Answer

It’s some kind of a untreatable virus that no medicines or injections can fully heal… Better get rid of the source of virus or get the virus to fuck up your soul

SoJust · Answer

Yes of course who does it once always does it

LiamJHayden · Answer

False, but enough cheaters are repeat offenders for me to not bother taking the chance.

katiesmuff · Answer

From the one's I know about it is totally true!

menina · Answer

I believe this is true.

inhua · Answer

absolutely true. no mercy for cheaters

EmmaMary · Answer

Absolutely 100% true.

sheikalana · Answer

I don't think that's entirely true.

chicken_nugget24 · Answer

No, people cab change

Anonymous · Answer

True 99.8% of the time

gothbxtch · Answer

i don’t think it’s always true

Mansearching · Answer

Can go either way

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

False. Some people do change their ways.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

People can change if they want to

Jerre · Answer

I would say false. People can change

BLP11520 · Answer

Maybe so, but not in every case?

SlothySlob · Answer

Yes.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I dont think so

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

False.

boobliker · Answer

very true

dudeinohio · Answer

True

In_Trance · Answer

not true

msc545 · Answer

True!

Anonymous · Answer

True.

Thongboner420 · Answer

True.

eagle1951 · Answer

true

Abdulwahh · Answer

No people can change

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