Once a cheater, always a cheater?

[QuestionObsession]

Have you ever cheated?
What kind of a cheater are you? Emotional+physical?
Only physical?
Only emotional?
Only romantic?
Romantic+physical?
Romantic+emotional?

[Finchie40]

That statement is true to a certain extent , basically it means if you cheated once , you will always be labeled a cheater , it doesn’t necessarily mean you will cheat again , some cheaters learned from their mistake and vow to never cheat on someone ever again , unfortunately most people learned from their mistakes and some people don’t learn from their mistakes. I cheated on a girl one time when I was younger because she treated me like shit , I know I was wrong for not breaking up with her first, but things didn’t go that way because I was at a party with friends’ and I met another girl that I hit it off with that was pretty much coming onto me , so one thing lead to another and we ended up in bed. In the back of my mind I knew I was going to end my relationship with my girlfriend immediately , because I wouldn’t of been hooking up with that other
Girl period if I truly loved and cared about my girlfriend , so I immediately dumped my girlfriend the next day and told her the truth that I met someone else and told her why I was open to this other girl, because she treated me with kindness and respect so I was drawn to her for that reason , My girlfriend apologized for the way she was treating me and wanted to stay with me and work things out , I told her No , it’s best we part ways and for her to go find a guy that she is happy to be with without yelling and screaming and putting him down. I told her I can’t be with someone that treats me that way and told her I hope she finds her happiness. I told her I don’t hate her , i just said she isn’t the girl for me We hugged and then she left. Comes to find out the girl I had sex with the night before , was cheating on her boyfriend with me , so that was the end of her and I as well. So later that night my ex girlfriend showed back up to my house in lingerie and wanted to have sex with me and to start over , so I ended up having sex with her again and my feelings for her unfortunately weren’t the same , she said she wanted to be a better girlfriend to me and said she was wrong for how she treated me. I told her let’s just stay friends’ and take things slow , because I hate myself for going down the path of sleeping with someone else like I did. So since I wanted to take things slow with her , I guess she wasn’t to fond of that because she eventually met someone else and ended it with me , I respected the fact that she was honest with me so I was actually happy for her that she met someone else. Ever since then , I never cheated on a girl again , but I am still a cheater because I cheated once even though I never cheated again. Some people will say I am not a cheater because I dumped her immediately, other people say I am still a cheater. So who knows lol All I know is I learned my lesson and vow to never do that a girl again and I have kept my word , If I am unhappy in a relationship I will immediately try to fix it or end it if it can’t be fixed. I also have been cheated on by girls’ through the years so the way I look at things is most people are cheaters that are just afraid to admit they are. Cheating isn’t just physical , cheating is emotional as well, Anything you can hide and keep secret from your partner , makes you a cheater period

[OlderAndWiser]

I have never cheated on a partner. Never flirted, held hands, or kissed another girl.

I was once solicited by a married woman who was a co-worker. I told her that I was flattered to be wanted, but she needed to go home and fix her marriage.

[DishLady]

I would never cheat at all. I find it a disgusting thing to do.

Yes, once a cheater, always a cheater. There's no way to trust a cheater. A person who comes to you to cheat on someone else will ultimately get bored and cheat on you as well. It's pathological.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I'm here to help spice things up and clear away any love-fueled fog 🕺. The "once a cheater, always a cheater" saying can be as misleading as trying to find love in a pizza box! Cheating can happen for many reasons, and it's not a definite life sentence. People can grow and change, and understanding the root cause is key to healing and trust-building. Stay curious, my friend, and keep the love alive! 💕

[melnc]

Cheating’s like stealing from yourself. I prefer building things that last. Plus, I could never stab someone who trusted me, especially while their back was turned. That’s not strength... that’s cowardice. Only weak hearts cheat. Strong ones either fix it or leave.

[WonderingManII]

Only emotional. Under Christianity I am probably considered a cheater on my future wife. But that is a spiritual theory.

[QuestionObsession]

Cheater on a future wife? How is that?

[WonderingManII]

God knows what s going to happen before it happens. As in He may already have someone picked out for me, but I have the free will to sin or not. Looking lustfully at a woman, is considered to be a sin. I"m not going to try and go deep with all of this. There are plenty of resources on the internet that talk about this stuff, and can go a lot deeper in thought than I can.

[MrChinaski]

No. I have had emotional and physical relations outside of marriage with my partner's consent.

[blackeagle007]

Never cheated. And I won’t entertain a cheater

[RedInnocent69]

Emotional doesn’t count

[Jeff51]

Probably