True or False: once a cheater, always a cheater?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

True, because once you cheat on someone it doesn’t go away , you still chose to cheat on someone making you a cheater , so the question is , would they cheat again? So it comes down to whether they will do it again or not? Sadly
Most people cheat whether they say they do or not , Cheating doesn’t always have to be physical , cheating occurs when you invest your time into someone else over investing your time into your partner , when you keep secrets from your partner you are cheating on that relationship, when you can’t be honest with your partner , you are cheating on that relationship, When you flirt with someone else , you are cheating on your relationship So again most people are cheaters without realizing they are , Cheating is a selfish act period , why boundaries are important when entering into a relationship with someone , if they can’t follow the boundaries that you both set in the relationship the same way they expect you to do for them , they are cheating on that relationship. For a relationship to survive and for love to grow , both partners need to choose each other over everyone else , Your partner should be your top priority the same way you should be theirs , if you can’t make your partner your top priority then you are best to not be in a relationship what so ever because you have a selfish mindset that only thinks about what is best for you , why it’s important to wear each others shoes before making decisions, if your partner doesn’t wear your shoes before making decisions they only care about themselves and you are probably best to end it with them if things do not change , No relationship is perfect , But if you both choose each other no matter what, it will be

SolitarySolace · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. All of my exes cheated. So either I’m shit at choosing women to be with or all women are cheaters in one way or another

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Mostly true.

It works the same way any other bad habit or addiction begins: when you've broken that seal of behaviour, your brain starts to normalize.

Cheating once is a good indicator it's likely the cheater will do it again. They've already crossed that line, and unless they get a strong enough rebuke, they'll find it easier and easier to do again.

Personally I also just won't date a cheater. The mindset of someone who cheats is hardly a good fit for me, no matter their physical appearance.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

It depends...

Someone can cheat out of insecurities, but the moment they are addressed, there won't be a need to cheat anymore.

Someone can cheat because their needs are not satisfied. And if they aren't satisfied, the person will still cheat.

Sometimes, it's just a need to prove "Yes, I can."

Many different scenarios are created by different people in different situations.

Bethany22 · Answer

Yes, people never change

johnnydeeeep · Answer

It surely doesn't change over night and it would require a lot of concentrated and focused effort. It should be remembered that even if the cheater stops physically cheating, all of the tendencies and behaviors that culminate into cheating will remain until a new perspective is developed of how they seek to maintain a relationship without cheating and patterns of communication and presentation that will support and facilitate a monogamous relationship rather than one that is open, I
Obviously whoever it is likely has a problem with lying to, so they are likely not going to make a decent partner for quite sometime

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

It always depends though. They're always people who can learn from their mistakes and those who just don't. If you can't believe that a cheater can change, then you also cannot believe that someone who has never cheated before can change. The thing is that you don't know who's going to cheat even if the person is the most loyal person you know. (Basically almost every cheaters seeming so loyal at first) Whether they cheated before or not, anyone can just be potential cheaters so you dont need to be a cheater to be considered a cheater because there's always a first time for everything. There's always a first time for cheaters to cheat. Someone can already be considered a cheater if they just have thoughts of cheating except nobody can really read minds. It's just up to us if we want to poison our mind with how we like to overthink things.

sage2021 · Answer

Yes, they will continue to cheat. It only gets easier for him/her the more they do it.
I think some guys like the security of being married and having a family, but they still cheat no matter how perfect the guy's wife is.
Look at Present John Kennedy. His wife Jacqueline Kennedy was beautiful, classy, the mother of his children, but he hooked up with Marilyn Monroe. Go figure 🤷🏼‍♀️

Miristheiss · Answer

I don't have a strong opinion. I really couldn't care less if they give up their cheating ways.

If you cheat. I dump you. Non-negotiable. If you have ever cheated before on any other person... you are not long term relationship material. I will never give you a commitment. Non-negotiable.

It is not my job to take "chances" on cheaters to see if they can suddenly become loyal people.

Hawkes_Lady · Answer

Cheetahs never change their spots. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

If I find out the guy I am interested in has a reputation for cheating or admits to having cheated in the past, I will break off the relationship. If he's cheated on someone else, he'll cheat on me.

nonyabeez-wax · Answer

I'm not sure.

If they cheated on you, yes they will cheat again. It's a matter of time.

With their next partner? No idea.

One thing I do know, I hear "I cheated on him" - and I dip. Its not only a huge turn off but a crimson redflag... What are the ladies calling it these days? An ick?

I don't date cheaters.

DaisyM23 · Answer

not necessarily, a lot of people can cheat once and never do it again - but it's the principle of things, it's the fact that you broke your partner's trust, that your 'love' DOES have limits

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

False. But I won't test that truth. Not cheating should be common knowledge, so if he does, we're done. He can be loyal to the next person he meets.

Minahh · Answer

Not true in all cases but in majority yes. If someone breaks my trust by messing with someone like that, that person looses my respect and that is something hard to build again, for me impossible.

exitseven · Answer

It is false. People can learn from mistakes.

MissBoogus · Answer

I think so , but it doesn’t mean every cheater will cheat again.. but I do think they have higher statistics to cheat again

Twalli · Answer

years, it doesn't mean that you will cheat, but you have the ability to rationalize that as an option

AngelLily · Answer

It’s not Always True for some people. Some people actually learn an don’t do it again but many or possibly most cheaters don’t care to change.

admles · Answer

I don't know if it's 100% true, but I know I'll never trust a cheater.

LiamJHayden · Answer

In the respect that doing it once means one is, yes. But cheating in the past does not always mean the person will cheat again.

worldscolide · Answer

True. Cheaters are narcissists monsters not capable of loyalty or empathy..

Shamalien · Answer

I think people can change. Every relationship is different

robocop666 · Answer

People never change. If you think they do you are wearing rose coloured glasses.

Unit1 · Answer

of course. What else do you expect?

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

True, cheaters are to be avoided.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I agree.

jahaims · Answer

Opinions are subjective not factual

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Indeed.

Lilith___ · Answer

Yes !

dudeinohio · Answer

True

Yannae · Answer

Often, yes.

ironmidget · Answer

True in most cases

Carina0 · Answer

True story

In_Trance · Answer

False

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

False.

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