How to persist when life is harsh?

Question

hi there, can you maybe share some tips or how did you pick yourself up in hard situations in life?

right now i feel like my life is just not worth and that there is no meaning of me living. i have many problems in relationships and at work and i just think that being a nice person is sometimes useless. i had some suicidal thoughts because i think i can’t share my problems and thoughts with anyone because i have really big trust issues and i feel like everybody will betray me. i think that many people are hypocritical and will just use my problems in a way that they will thought that they are better.

i think that i am at my lowest point in my life even if i was heartbroken in tha past. i just don’t see the exit or that things will go better with time.

i also need to solve my inner problems and overcome them but i don’t even know how and when

thank you for all advices

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well you know what thank you for being so honest that is a quality that you should hold on to forever because you're going to find out in life not many people can be honest

Next thing I have to tell you is that right now at your age and it's probably going to be for a couple years longer you can ask any girl here because they have all gone through it your hormones your body your chemistry everything inside of you is changing flip-flopping making you crazy and you have to battle the storm you will get through it this is a moment in time and you will get through it

You're going to see a lot of questions on here about girls and guys and blah blah blah well this is where I say girls are badass I mean they are badass and you have to understand and believe that you are badass too you are tougher than you think you are you are stronger than you think you are you are smarter than you think you are don't let the chemistry inside your body and everything is flip flopping inside your body making you think and change your ways and all this crap don't look at it as being a weak point this is what makes you stronger than f***this is the part that I love about women I hate that they have to go through this but this is what makes them independent this is what makes them strong-willed this is what makes them become the person they become if they can go through everything that you're going through right now and they do and come out and become that beautiful loving caring person that they all become because of the battle they had to fight with within themselves

That you can ask any girl here what they went through how's their hormones would kick their ass some days and make them feel just like you other days but they will tell you you will get through this do not allow this to change who you're going to become

And just remember this is just a moment in time after this moment there will be another moment and after that moment there will be another moment just keep going forward do not stop when you stop is when your brain gets idle and you start thinking weird stupid things that's not your goal here your goal here is to succeed just like all these other women

On this journey there's something else you need to know when we were born we are all given a gift and that gift is choice we get to choose we want to be in life by the things that we say and the things that we do

What this means is you can be anybody in this world that you want to be but you have to be honest with yourself you have to have discipline you have to have courage you have to have love you have to have faith you have to believe in yourself

Life is going to get hard but if you do the right things now each day that you get older life will become better and better and better and will become easier you have to have that belief you have to believe in yourself because let me tell you something nobody else will and this is what is so beautiful about being a human being is nobody will believe in you except for you and by one step in front of the other you're going to get everything that you want in this life you're going to succeed you're going to be happy you're going to be beautiful you're going to have a beautiful heart you're going to have kids if you want kids it's a choice you make your choices for you

And then also remember do you have the boys after don't believe one word they say to you they're going to manipulate you they're going to cheat you they're going to lie to you to get you to do anything that they want you to do

No I'm not saying all boys I'm saying 99 out of 100

Always keep in the back of your mind what they're doing you don't have to let them know that you know who and what they're really trying to be and that is fake just smile and agree

But then you have to make a choice life is a choice

Your question was a choice you're asking for guidance you're asking for help you're asking for answers

This is one of the best qualities you can have is if you don't know the answer seek the knowledge the faster you understand it the faster you become the person you want to become

And this right here is the most important part never forget this

One day sitting on your butt you are looking all around and you said you know what I don't like sitting here no more I'm going to get up I'm going to become somebody so you stand up and you start walking and you fall down

When you fell down you could have just stayed right there and given up but that's not who you are that's not who you were meant to be
So you stood back up and you took two or three more steps and you fell back down

You didn't stay down very long because that's not who you are so you stood back up and you took a few more steps and a few more steps and no matter how many times you fell down you got right back up and said I'm going to succeed I'm going to become the best I can become and pretty soon you were walking everywhere pretty soon you started gathering words putting them together pretty soon you became you

And look where you're at now you fell down I have faith in you I know you're going to get back up I know that you know this is just a moment in time and it's going to pass and it only passes when you stand back up and take a few more steps no matter what you go through in life you have to get back up and keep taking those steps and you will just keep walking by all of this and pretty soon it will all come to you just like it has just like it did this is just another step this is another level in life we have different levels

I believe in you 100%, I know that you are going to become the best person that you possibly can become because now you have the answers now you have the map now you know when you fall down you're going to feel something but you're strong enough to get back up

In society when we fall down people try to keep us down they say oh you can't do that you can't do this they put retainers on you trying to hold you back break those chains you know better now you have the map you know the people are going to try to hold you down they're going to say stuff to you to put you in a miserable frame of mind don't let them get in your head you're the only person inside of you it's your destiny it's your life you will take control and you will succeed you've already proven that when you took your first step

I hope you remember this you'd never hold yourself back and never ever let anybody else hold you back the faster you stand back up the faster you get back on track the faster you take that first step the faster life will come to you

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

There are any number of ways to persist. You have to chose one or a combination of them. Some may work for you. Some may not. The answers to your question are as multiple as there are humans.

Perhaps most important is to persist because if not then we're beaten. We lose. An analogy is running a race: you don't want to lose the race so you keep running even though it's difficult. Same for life.

You persist because the good times are amazing.

You persist because harsh times are part of living.

You persist because no matter what you think, there are people who do love you and want you around.

You persist because you have something to offer the world. You and the world probably don't know what that is yet, but don't snuff out the opportunity.

You persist because suicide is the easy way out. You're better than that.

You persist because don't let other people control your life. Ever. Not even through your feelings. Those feelings can hurt, yes, sometimes like searing fire on the skin, but never let those feelings dictate actions and behavior.

Persist because there's beauty in life and things to enjoy, even in the midst of terrible stuff. Sunrises. Ice cold Coke. Cheeseburgers. Cats. Newly sharpened pencils. Tulips. Poetry. The ocean. Cool cars.

In no way will I try to convince you that life is perfect or easy. You're too smart for that and, frankly, life isn't those things. But it is worth persisting. If for no other reason than I'd like to continue seeing questions from you.

BasedBaeBecca · Accepted Answer

Some tips to face life when it gets hard can include practicing self-care and self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness and understanding. Taking a break from busy schedules and carving out some time to relax or indulge in something you love can also help lift the mood and make you feel better. Setting achievable goals and actively working towards them can give you a sense of purpose and progress. It can also be helpful to practice mindfulness and meditation to stay grounded and focused on the present and to reduce stress and anxiety. Lastly, finding someone to talk to and to provide support can be a great morale boost.

caring__1 · Answer

Therapy can be helpful, but I'd also recommend reading a book one of my college professors wrote.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In life some people have a lot on their plate & some people have a buffet & as for you you’re not alone & better days will come my friend. Life isn’t easy but then again it isn’t hard. In life you should never give up, you should never give in & most of all you should keep moving forward no matter what. On the road of life you’re going to hit bumps from time to time & on the road of life before you have a green light you’ll have a yellow or red light as well. As for you you’ll find your way & it is not going to happen over night but rather over time. Stay strong & live your life beautiful!

MementoMori777 · Answer

suicidal thoughts are intrusive, you have the potential for so much, you can do so much and im 100% certain you have skills and talents that can help you accomplish those things but you won't if you cut your life short, i know things seem bad right now and im sorry you are at such a low point in life rn but dont believe this lie where there's no better because there's always light at the end of the tunnel, when you are down, there's only one way and thats up, may god guide you to great things and wonderful opportunities and may god open the right doors and close the wrong ones, cheer up, life is a gift and there's many that dont have that anymore, you aren't alone in the world and everyone is fighting battles, just get back up when life pushes you down and one more thing, change for nobody if you are a good person, for no one and nothing.

Jersey2 · Answer

You just have to keep going. Things always get better. I speak from experience. It will however make you a stronger person. It’s like a heated red hot sword being banged into form. It will make you better. And after you realize that you will be happy with the new you.

Anonymous · Answer

It's all about self love.

You must choose to be a positive, helpful, supportive, loving voice inside.

Also what upsets us in life is not the nature of reality so much as the difference between our expectations and reality.

For example if you have a pipe dream about being a millionaire and make it a requirement for your happiness you are going to have a bad time if you work the checkout in your local supermarket.

Billlewis · Answer

There is no magic formula for dealing with depression and hopelessness; you just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other until you can remember *why* you're putting one foot in front of the other.

Anonymous · Answer

My shit never ends and nothing ever gets better. Find small things that make each day tolerable. Hopefully you’ll figure things out, but I don’t know that there’s any magic way to do so. If you want to message me, you can. Maybe a complete stranger with too much time and no investment in the situation could at least listen to your problems. Either way, feel better.

exitseven · Answer

I want to live long enough to be as big a burden to the government as it has been to me.

normandi · Answer

U r 15 years old.. we all had these feelings at that age.. you worry too much.. focus on the positive things .. u will be fine

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