to preface: I am the bitch. And I am only being a bitch to push my friend away. We’ve known one another for 7 years now.
I (36F) and a guy friend (36M), I’ll call him Terry. He started a new job months ago and since then, he’s been so busy, he ignores me for days on end. Prior to the job change, we talked DAILY, all hours of the day, etc. to note, we’re both in relationships. We both know we like one another but we also know that nothing can or will happen. Honestly, he’s more like a brother to me now that an interest.
We’ve spoken a few times about how he doesn’t apologize for his behavior or ignoring me. For example, my mom was in the hospital a few weeks ago. He didn’t respond to me for two weeks. When we did speak, “that’s just how it is now.” So, I stopped reaching out as much.
He came to me asking if I was okay, blah blah. I said I stopped trying, you ignore me, I’m tired, I just want to stop talking because nothing will change. “I don’t want to stop talking to you.” That’s all I get. “You make me a better person.”
I said fine, we can still talk. Things were better for a week and then it just devolved again. I finally decided to find out why the heck he still wants me around. I asked him several questions and requested he answer them before calling me again. He responded but barely answered.
I just don’t understand how I can be a huge bitch to him, give an ultimatum, for a man who I’m not involved with, but he just won’t stop trying to keep me in his life. It makes no sense, he makes no sense, and I feel like I am crazy.
So guys; why the heck would you keep a crazy chick you’re not involved with in your life when you’ve got so much else going on? What even is the point?
I (36F) and a guy friend (36M), I’ll call him Terry. He started a new job months ago and since then, he’s been so busy, he ignores me for days on end. Prior to the job change, we talked DAILY, all hours of the day, etc. to note, we’re both in relationships. We both know we like one another but we also know that nothing can or will happen. Honestly, he’s more like a brother to me now that an interest.
We’ve spoken a few times about how he doesn’t apologize for his behavior or ignoring me. For example, my mom was in the hospital a few weeks ago. He didn’t respond to me for two weeks. When we did speak, “that’s just how it is now.” So, I stopped reaching out as much.
He came to me asking if I was okay, blah blah. I said I stopped trying, you ignore me, I’m tired, I just want to stop talking because nothing will change. “I don’t want to stop talking to you.” That’s all I get. “You make me a better person.”
I said fine, we can still talk. Things were better for a week and then it just devolved again. I finally decided to find out why the heck he still wants me around. I asked him several questions and requested he answer them before calling me again. He responded but barely answered.
I just don’t understand how I can be a huge bitch to him, give an ultimatum, for a man who I’m not involved with, but he just won’t stop trying to keep me in his life. It makes no sense, he makes no sense, and I feel like I am crazy.
So guys; why the heck would you keep a crazy chick you’re not involved with in your life when you’ve got so much else going on? What even is the point?
