I need advice, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So I have a female friend that I've known for about a year now and we recently started talking romanticly and are in a relationship. There are two problems. One is that I find that I'm actually not that physically attracted to her and that most of the time that I think of her sexually it's not exciting to me. 2 is that she has a lot of trauma from her childhood thar she is recently confronting and it's causing her to be mentally unstable to the point that I will tell a joke and she cries which makes me feel aweful. I hate this because I love her, she's like my best friend but the combination of not much physical attraction and the feeling of walking on eggshells due to her mental problems make me think maybe I should cut it off now before it goes further. What do you think I should do? And am I in the wrong for staying with her if I'm not sure I want this?

[Selene1600000]

If you are not physically attracted and you feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells, that is a real compatibility issue, not something you should ignore. You are not wrong for questioning the relationship, but staying in it without being honest will likely hurt both of you more later. The fair move is to be honest with her and end it kindly if you already feel unsure about continuing.

[BoopBoopBeep]

you already said it..."I love her, she's like my best friend"... so treat her like the best friend she is. All that traumadrama isn't going to get better over the years.

[Asker]

That's what I'm worried about. I can't be with her if I feel like I'm walking on eggshells all the time though.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@MikeyObrien
yep that drama isn't worth it from a S. O. much less a friend. She cleans up her act or to the curb

[Anonymous]

If your not physically attracted to a girl after this long, than its a lost cause in my opinion.