What is the best way to handle finding out you’re getting cheated on?

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SEEKINGSUBMISSIONS · Accepted Answer

BY FAR THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE AND REACT TO BEING CHEATED ON IS TO BE COMPLETELY COOL CALM AND COLLECTED AND THEN WAIT UNTIL YOU CAN GET A GOOD LITTLE SPY CAMERA AND SET IT UP FOR YOU TO RECORD THE NEXT ENCOUNTER!

THEN YOU CAN SET IT UP AGAIN SO IT RECORDS THE LAST TIME YOU ARE INTIMATE WITH THAT little WHORE! WHEN YOU WAIT TILL SHE GETS HOME FROM WHEREVER TO SURPRISE HER WITH A NEW little EXPERIMENT AND GET HER TO WATCH PORN VIDEOS WHILE YOU AND HER HAVE FUN AND BE KINKY!

AND THEN RECORD IT AS YOU WATCH THE FIRST FEW VIDEOS WITH HER AND GET HER TO GET SO TURNED ON AND SO EXCITED THAT SHE IS ABOUT TO POP...

BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO CHANGE THE VIDEO OF THE PORN AND HIT PLAY ON THE VIDEO PROOF OF HER CHEATING ON YOU, WHILE YOU START TALKING TO HER LIKE LITTLE FUCKIN SLUT WHORE THAT SHE IS AND ASK HER TO TELL YOU HOW MUCH SHE ENJOYED BEING FUCKED BY THE OTHER GUY WHILE YOU WEREN'T HOME AND HAD TO DEAL WITH YOUR PERVERTED THOUGHTS AND WHINING PENIS THAT WAS BEGGING FOR YOU TO GET IT OFF!

AND TELL HER HOW MUCH OF A DISGUSTING little CREAMPIE DUMPSTER SHE IS WHILE YOU ARE PUSHING YOURSELF IN AND OUT OF HER DEEP little PUSSY, N ACT LIKE YOU ARE NOT REALLY EVEN UPSET ABOUT HER HAVING ANOTHER MAN'S DICK NUT INSIDE OF HER DEEP little LOOSENED PUSSY AS YOU FUCK IT HARD AS IT'S SWOLLEN LIPS HUG YOUR COCK TIGHTLY AS THEY SLOWLY GET SORE FROM THE BEATING YOU ARE GIVING THEM VERY SOON AFTER SHE DECIDED TO GO LET HER NEW little FRIEND IN YOUR HOUSE SO HE COULD PUT HIS DICK INSIDE OF HER DEEP little PUSSY AND STRETCH IT THE FUCK OUT SO YOU GOT STUCK COMING BACK HOME TO HER LOOSENED little PUSSY N PROBABLY HIS NUT THAT CREAM PIED HER THE DAY BEFORE!

AND AHH AS YOU YELL ALL OF THAT TO HER, AND SLAM YOUR PENIS INTO HER SLIMY SLOPPY LITTLE PUSSY AS FAST AS YOU CAN!
BE A LITTLE BIT ROUGH WITH HER STUPID LITTLE DUMBASS AND SMACK HER AROUND A LITTLE WHILE YOU CALL HER NAMES!

SEE HOW SHE REACTS TO BEING TREATED LIKE A LITTLE SLUT... WHILE YOU GOT YOUR FUCKIN DICK INSIDE HER SLUTTY little SLIME HOLE! AND SHE HEARS YOU TELLING HER THAT SHE IS A NASTY LITTLE BITCH AND YOU'LL NEVER BE ABLE TO LOOK AT HER LIKE YOU DID BEFORE YOU CAUGHT HER BEING A LITTLE GRIMIER GIRL THAN THE ONES WHO ARE PAID TO LET GUY'S PUT THEIR PENIS'S INSIDE OF THEIR PUSSY N FUCK THEM TIL THEY BUST N THEIR CUM GOES ALL THROUGH IT WHEN THEY FILL UP THAT CUM DUMPSTER!

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

This is a very good question for many reasons

It's one thing being cheated on

But it's another thing when the cheater comes home all lovey-dovey and acts as if nothing has happened each and every day

This is when they think that they are smarter than you better than you and you can see the level of care that they have because there's zero they're just they're using you as if you're just a stupid fool

So you can do it a couple different ways if you know it before they know that you know is the best because now you can act as if nothing's going on you can see the distance that they're trying to take you or you just fully explode and let them know that you know there's two different ways to handle it

For me if I'm being cheated on I already know in my head and in my heart then I'll be walking out that door soon.

It has happened to me and I just kind of stood back let it happen while I got all my ducks in a row

They didn't know that I knew so I just allowed it to keep happening until I was ready to say goodbye forever

For me there's no turning back I could care less the reason why

The hurtful part is they're not only cheating but when they come home every night as if nothing has happened and they play you as a fool each and every night each and every day and then when you confront them with it they lie even more until they have to give in tell the truth and then they apologize which means nothing because each and every day that you were with this person you knew that you were cheating you knew exactly where I was and where you were and they chose that person so they can have that person even though they swear up and down it will never happen again it's basically because they don't want their friends or their parents to know is there a cheater.

They will do anything and everything to try to get back with you just so they are not exposed to the world

And that's just another lie too so for me there's no second chances I just move on and they can do the same

I'm not going to argue about it I don't even need to talk about it it's a done deal

Chevy1_kb · Accepted Answer

if they hide there phone doesn't leave it next to u when they go out the room takes it everywhere with them if u feel funny and think they could be upto something if you explain in a nice way is it ok if you show me your phone i just feel like you could be upto something and if they get angry to quick with a angry reply even after you asking nice and says no or takes ages to show you could be something wrong this is exactly how i caught my ex out i watched mine and listend to him like a hawk because he wouldn't give me proof so watching him like a hawk and listning to everything he said and when he was in the toilet talking i listend to him i herd him speaking to women sometimes and also if they are concentrated to much on there phone more than spend the time with you is another sign another if his phone has non stop texts thats another one its all in there body laungage eyes face mouth movement if u feel something is not right and they are not giving you answers watch them with everything they do look at how they react to your words and things you say hawk eye them sounds weird but i will tell you this if they are not giving u evedance u have a right to watch and listen your there lover

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Take care of yourself.

First, get your friends and fam around you for support. Talk to them, but don't let them take any action.

Second, get yourself a safe space. Whether that's getting out yourself or making him leave, that depends on you and your situation.

Third, separate. He's not allowed in your space. Take time to feel your feelings, express them, but don't bother with your now-ex. He is a liar and can't help.

Fourth, get yourself out. Once you've got your new place, get there. Take all your belongings and make sure the ex's shit is gone. Then, focus on making that space ONLY yours.

Then just... Take time. Keep talking to your support network, cut all contact with your ex. When you feel up for it, get tested - a cheater dips his stick in whatever spreads its legs for him.

Processing your feelings will help you reflect on what signs might've been there, and help you understand your emotions and deal with them. Likewise, don't let yourself fall too deep into pity or depression.

You're free of a cheater. That's a win.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

First, my condolences on learning about this. The silver lining in the dark cloud is that you can not react and not continue living in ignorance, believing a lie.

Second, do you have any children with your partner? If so, the advice is different. Assuming there are no children, can you realistically foresee continuing this relationship and being happy at some time in the future? For most people, the answer is a simple "no."

Are you married or living together? If not, and if you are certain about the cheating, then he doesn't deserve a break up talk or "closure," so simply block him from contacting you by any means.

Then, take some time to assess where things went wrong, perhaps in selecting him as a partner for a relationship, or did you miss warning signs? His cheating is not your fault, but perhaps you chose the wrong partner or ignored signs that should have gotten your attention earlier.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I’d wanna know the truth. Idc if it’s painful. I’d rather know than be comforted with a lie! So I can free myself!

Avicenna · Answer

There is no single best way. How do you as an individual handle adversity? Because finding that out is definitely adverse.

coachTanthony · Answer

A banana in the tail pipe worked for Eddie Murphy.

Anonymous · Answer

That all depends on your definition of cheating I suppose. But as someone who has been cheated on, I'll tell you what I did personally, and go from their.

I met this German girl years back-- great personality, loved the outdoors but was an a shy introvert until she got to know you well. Best of all, she liked to stay in shape which I vibe with immensely, so we shared a lot of common hobbies and interests. Started out as friends while she was here in the states, as she was going to collage in the U. S. at the time. After the first year of us being great friends, she told me she had a massive crush on me, and just wanted me to know to get it off her chest, but didn't wanna ruin the friendship. So I told her okay, as I needed sometime to process that information and search myself. Took the time to do that, and about a month later, we started dating. Trouble was, six months into dating, I learned very quickly that what she really wanted, was what was between my legs. I told her I wasn't interested in that until after marriage, as I had had some messed up experiences in the past, and didn't want a repeat. She agreed.

Fast forward to when she went back to Germany, we kept up contact via video chat and text with a plan laid out for me to go visit and potentially, live there once finished up my own degree in about a years time. Around month 8 of this, she decided to cheat on me because I wouldn't do anything sexual with her long distance, and she quote 'couldnt get cuddled' by me since we where so far away from each other.. worst part? I found out two fold. First time I found out was due to my half cousins who lived and Germany, and happened to be friends with one of her close friends. So my cousin calls me up telling me she's having sex with this Arab guy, so I set up a video call with her to talk this out (first initial thought was a dumb one of maybe there was a misunderstanding of some kind).

And low and behold, she starts asking really weird before I can really get past much more then 'how have you been, how are your horses doing' etc. Really shifty, lots of odd standing off to the side, leaning her head abnormally far down from the view of the camera, etc. Well I caught her bright purple dildo come into view. You might think, well how is that cheating right? But the reflection on the sheen of the dildo showed a glare of her phones screen (we where on PC for the video call). And I could make out some smudgy figure and all the pieces I was hoping weren't the case, all fell perfectly into places. I call her out on it immediately at that point, got into the whole thing. She kept trying to convince me otherwise, because she still wanted in my pants (go figure right?) I broke up with her immediately, and to my surprise, despite missing that friendship and bond we had built, I didn't feel sad at all. Just really annoyed that I had wasted so much time and energy on someone just to be stabbed in the back.

Bottom line, don't let cheaters get away with what they do. Don't let them talk you around in circles. End things with them immediately. Step away, take time to ground yourself in yourself if you feel lost. Then, once your feeling up to it again, find the right person.

I finally did with my wife, and despite how irritated I get sometimes at the thought of what happened, what I have now seems more then worth it. Keep on keeping on, and I hope this helps.

FreyaRed · Answer

- Transfer the responsibility on the cheater, it's always the fault of cheaters. Evey other explanation is poor mental gymnastics.
- get rid of all romantic thought like "he loved me... blah, blah." no, he didn't. If he really had some feelings for you, not his personal whims, he wouldn't cheat. Tears are products of those whims, don't buy it.
- don't see the time you spend with this guy as wasted one, just as a adventure that reached its end.
- look forwards, new guy will be better because new.

Tenderhearted · Answer

Depends. You have to think through what it is you want and need on both spectrums. Staying and or leaving. What does each look like and feel like. Weigh your options. Once you rope this person in of letting them know what you’ve found out, just see how they react. Their reaction might solidify your choice. Breaking up typically is the protocol with something like this if you’re not married.
And I’d say though if staying in the relationship is what the both of y’all would seek, therapy is the next step. Especially in the fact that you would need validation and reassurance in his actions that he’s doing the work to mend what has been broken. Y’all both would have lots of work to do.
Now in terms of getting divorce, that’s a whirlwind of a whole other world that I do not have the expertise in advising on, but you have every right to make that choice for yourself if you’re married.
I’m sorry you’re experiencing this.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

Get the fuck out. Water off a duck's back, if it's a basic 2 week relationship.

If it's someone you've been with for YEARS, that's different. Get the fuck out, but the same thing. It's not your fault. Cry, let them see it maybe. But don't shout or scream at them. Communicate with them if you need to. DO NOT KEEP THEM AROUND.

molonski2 · Answer

The best way to handle? Well , its individual dependent I guess , but it happened , it cannot be changed , little you can do , other than to address choices in the future , the exciting thing is now , you get to face up to something new , something that otherwise may not have happened , be your best , look your best , keep motivated and keep your eye on the ball.

NamerOfStars · Answer

I'm going to go with "God descends from On High and tells you personally that your partner has been cheating on you- but only because God specifically ordered them to, only under protest, and in exchange, you have been granted the power to transmute suffering to garlic bread".

I wouldn't bet on that being what happens, though.

Ezra_lila · Answer

I rather face it head-ons. I prefer him to say it infront of myself than knowing it to someone else. Beside woman have intuition. We are born detective. When it comes to this. But being cheated on is not something we can prepare on so just less expectation to your SO and more to loving yourself.

If he stay he stay. We cannot do anything about letting them stay. Its them who will choose to stay despite of circumstances.

RavVid · Answer

It is always going to be unpleasant news or suspicion and usually it is suspicion not fact unless you have sprung them in your bed.

Have you been cheated on or is t a generic question. I don't think there is a generic answer though revenge fucking is popular. Easier for a girl than a guy to get off with a sibling or friend.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't whats the best way, but me personally, i would confront him and end it right there and then. I would discuss with him and ask him to honestly disclose everything that he had done all this while so that i can get a full answer to the situation and can get a close to it in order for me to easily move on. Speaking of giving him chances? Hell nah, once a cheater, always a cheater

Anonymous · Answer

Some of my favorite things to read are cheater revenge stories. I know…not the best thing in the world.
To me, the best stories involve telling the cheater’s family. Write a heartfelt letter about how much they meant to you and how much you are hurt by their child’s actions. Bring them your ex’s belongings, give them one last hug, and close that chapter of your life.

ta-ra · Answer

Leave. Heal. Move forward. Karma will always come back around. Remember the best revenge you can do to someone who treats you poorly is to elevate yourself, improve yourself and leave them to the streets where cheats belong.

Anonymous · Answer

Best way I think was how my boyfriend handles it (it's been more than once)... the first time he waited til he had me. strapped down (we kinky) and then told me he knew and either I was going to give up my ass (I was holding out) and it would hurt but all would be forgiven, or we were over.

Now, when he finds out he doesn't even ask, he just pain fucks my ass, and i know he knows and I know I'm a good girl to him again... it may not work for everyone but it does for us

Truthatanycost · Answer

If you are 100% certain then the best thing to do is to leave as soon as possible, block them from any possible communication methods and remove them from your life for good.

Anonymaz · Answer

I think the best way is to remove the person from your life, completly.

That may be hard but cheating is a choice and if that person made that choice, then its better to just cut them off from your life. You deserve better, there is better persons out there that wouldn't cheat

exitseven · Answer

Make a big scene complete with insults and lots of screaming. It would be good if it was also raining and I would do it outside. Bring up every crappy thing she ever did and how she was never good enough for you anyway.

Miristheiss · Answer

Tell or show them you know all about it. Walk away, say nothing. Just never speak to them again ever. Don't even let them try and explain. Don't get emotional or yell, just leave.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Dump the person. If you are married, empty out the joint accounts. Heck, I've seen jilted spouses sell joint assets for a pittance, like a Jaguar for $150, just to screw over the cheating spouse.

CubsterShura · Answer

Honestly if you have nerves of steel just behave in such a way that he starts feeling very guilty. Take your petty revenge then dump him.

catarecute · Answer

be glad you found out and get out of the relationship. some people are cheated on there whole life and never find out.

inhua · Answer

pack her bags and throw them out the door my dogs will take care of everything else that comes after

msc545 · Answer

Leave or make him leave. You can't fix this. And not only can you not fix it. You will also never be able to forgive it. Finally, to make things worse, you can never trust the person who's cheated again. They always repeat it. I'm sorry.

A_Bell · Answer

To be more selective in your mate and not compromise on character.

Anonymous · Answer

Are you sure? You have proof?

I'd want to know what their plans are, and whether they accept they been found doing wrong.

I'd want to know why.

Then it's decide whether there was value in the relationship for me.

sage2021 · Answer

Find him and bring a good looking guy with you and show him you have someone took.

Katebfun · Answer

Leave. Love your self more than you do the person.

artgorgeous · Answer

To handle? You don't handle it. Immediate action must take place. Leave him.

Unit1 · Answer

I'll contact Tekashi 6ix9ine and ask him if he needs more background performers on his next music video.

genericname85 · Answer

break up and move on. don't try to get any sort of revenge or redemption.

sheikalana · Answer

The best way is to address the issue immediately and leave the cheater.

Minahh · Answer

Never see the motherfucker ever again and live your best life

REX_JSWL · Answer

There is no best way, you have to use your brain to figure out things Here no one knows your partner all the suggestions will be irrelevant

EaterPeter · Answer

Try confronting in civil manners. Warn them 3 times if physible set boundry using if _____ then _____ rule, move on

Anonymous · Answer

By mercilessly stabbing them to death. Or is that just me?

Anonymous · Answer

Dump the guy and get on with life. It is really not as bad as it sounds.

serious_miss419 · Answer

The best way of finding out? There’s a worst way?

aquamarine321 · Answer

It’s not difficult ever boy or girl who cheat always have signs

Christoff92 · Answer

Seek into his food that's if he doesn't have a pass code

BigDog1989 · Answer

Being successful. Show him what he missed out on, by just being successful

Anonymous · Answer

Usually in movies, don't girls get even by finding a hotter, taller guy and kicking the guy who cheated in the balls?

Anonymous · Answer

I've been through that twice. I dumped them both as soon as I confirmed it. What else can you do?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Cut them loose. And take as much time you need to heal the wound.

rebeliouse · Answer

ask him if u can have a threesome with the other party that he is cheating on you with

Anonymous · Answer

Injection her with the HIV virus while asleep then break up the next day.

jimmy2 · Answer

Just wait it comes out and that person does it again over and over

robocop666 · Answer

Get a new man and enjoy a nice night with him

MaxUsefull · Answer

completely cut the relationship with him/her…follow life developing yourself as a person

Saamee · Answer

Ignore them if they ignore you too.. yes you are thinking right then

Anonymous · Answer

Leave. If you're married, document the cheating and then file for divorce.

Flower7 · Answer

By breaking up with the person.

whirled_up_girl · Answer

End it and move on.

Al_Musafir · Answer

Walk away and never look back.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Breathe. End it. Move on.

boobliker · Answer

dump him or her

magiusX26 · Answer

walk away and never look back.

Kelly6 · Answer

Best is to first ask.

Wise4myage · Answer

Dump the other person, immediately.

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